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So I gave up drinking.

 
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Re: So I gave up drinking.
How can you stay sober when the person you live with is still drinking?
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the sneaking is what pisses me.

and i'm a guy.
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It's near impossible! He wreaks of Jameson right now (he just got home). And yeah, I think what bothers me the most is him trying to hide it, after he said he'd quit to support me.


Thanks everyone for your positive responses. I've been against going to a meeting, but reading your posts makes me feel better, I guess thats the point of meetings except its in person.
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Re: So I gave up drinking.
You're young, and hopefully your desire to over indulge
won't be a life long problem.
If you haven't seen it,check out the movie with Sandra Bullock,"28 Days"
It might give you some insight to the boyfriend problem when one wants to quit drinking.
You have to be concerned about yourself now and as suggested by another poster catch a NYC meeting.
I know this isn't part of the AA program, but for some people not making alcohol the "devil" never to be drank again works better, especially someone so young.
They've stuck to the mind-set that they certainly can't drink now,but didn't embrace the never again.
You must feel and look so much better by not drinking.
Make some new friends at AA to hang out with, maybe look into a vitamin regime for drinkers,can't hurt and some say it cuts the desire to drink.
Good luck, as said, your young, and may this to pass.
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It's near impossible! He wreaks of Jameson right now (he just got home). And yeah, I think what bothers me the most is him trying to hide it, after he said he'd quit to support me.


Thanks everyone for your positive responses. I've been against going to a meeting, but reading your posts makes me feel better, I guess thats the point of meetings except its in person.
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I see two issues at work: (1) the drinking and (2) the deception. And it isn't deception (because you're not deceived); it's delusion on his part.

So go to one meeting. Just commit to one. If it isn't your think you don't have to go back. I suspect you will hear stories similar to yours, and I believe that will be helpful.

Best wishes! hf
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Program of recovery is a selfish act.

You can not 'share' your recovery with your spouse, parent, child, whatever.

Either you do it for yourself, or you are not doing it.

IF he has a drinking problem, then he needs to deal with that himself. If he doesn't, then there is no reason why he needs to stop drinking because you decided you need to stop.

YOU can't make him stop drinking. YOU can only make YOU stop drinking.

His drinking (or not) is something that you cannot change. You need the serenity to accept those things you cannot change.

YOUR drinking you can change, you need the courage to change what you can change.

The wisdom is simple, anything that happens outside of you YOU cannot change. Anything that happens inside of you YOU can change.

If he is an alcoholic like you are, then I strongly suggest you find an Alanon meeting in your local area. Alanon is sort of like AA except its for those who know a drunk. AA is for those who are a drunk.

You might as well look up a chapter in AA and get a program of suggestions. They will suggest a lot, there is really nothing you must do, but it helps if you do do some of what they suggest.

Lastly, if you want to stay with your partner, you two might want to consider couple's counseling. I assure you, there is far much more going on with your relationship other than his sneaking a few beers.
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Re: So I gave up drinking.
Stay sober, Karen. You can- but the boyfriend issue is gonna be a problem. Take the others' advice here and go to a meeting. Worry about today, not about not drinking tomorrow. Just don't drink today.
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The road goes one of two ways.
Stay with him and be drunk.
Take the other path and become sober.
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Program of recovery is a selfish act.

You can not 'share' your recovery with your spouse, parent, child, whatever.

Either you do it for yourself, or you are not doing it.

IF he has a drinking problem, then he needs to deal with that himself. If he doesn't, then there is no reason why he needs to stop drinking because you decided you need to stop.

YOU can't make him stop drinking. YOU can only make YOU stop drinking.

His drinking (or not) is something that you cannot change. You need the serenity to accept those things you cannot change.

YOUR drinking you can change, you need the courage to change what you can change.

The wisdom is simple, anything that happens outside of you YOU cannot change. Anything that happens inside of you YOU can change.

If he is an alcoholic like you are, then I strongly suggest you find an Alanon meeting in your local area. Alanon is sort of like AA except its for those who know a drunk. AA is for those who are a drunk.

You might as well look up a chapter in AA and get a program of suggestions. They will suggest a lot, there is really nothing you must do, but it helps if you do do some of what they suggest.

Lastly, if you want to stay with your partner, you two might want to consider couple's counseling. I assure you, there is far much more going on with your relationship other than his sneaking a few beers.
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It's probably easier to cut down your drinking than to quit, for instance instead of buying a sixpack of beer just buy one beer. Drink the beer and enjoy the buzz. Then a week later buy another beer and soon it'll be a beer every two weeks and you won't see drinking as a problem anymore.
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alcoholic drinking leads to jails, institutions and death.

i am a recovering alcoholic and have found a way to stay sober. sometimes it meant leaving a relationship in order to stay that way.

its not easy, but it is simple.
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Congrats on not drinking for one month. I think even though you relapsed that is an awesome accomplishment you can look back to draw strength upon in the future. I recommend reading "Potatoes not Prozac" as the author has had great success in helping recovering alcoholics stay sober through diet. It's nothing real complicated but it has a very high (90+%) success rate. There is a strong connection between alcohol cravings and being sugar sensitive. If you feed your body in a way that keep blood sugar levels stable, cravings go away.

For me, the best approach to my excessive drinking was to change my eating, what, how, and when I eat, in accordance with this book, which helped cravings, and then allowing myself to drink on a couple evenings a week but not excessively. If I tried to quit altogether I know I'd fail miserably. Looking for a physiological cause rather than an emotional and spiritual cause has helped me.
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stay with it babe..

you already been through the DTs.

that's fucking enough right?
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How can you stay sober when the person you live with is still drinking?
 Quoting: noblesse oblige

the sneaking is what pisses me.

and i'm a guy.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1244299


It's near impossible! He wreaks of Jameson right now (he just got home). And yeah, I think what bothers me the most is him trying to hide it, after he said he'd quit to support me.


Thanks everyone for your positive responses. I've been against going to a meeting, but reading your posts makes me feel better, I guess thats the point of meetings except its in person.
 Quoting: K_aren



It is impossible. You can't hang around [much less live with] people who drink when you are trying to quit. If he isn't going to quit with you then you have a very important decision to make. You have to make new friends who don't need to drink to have a good time.. meetings are a good place to do this.
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Re: So I gave up drinking.
do some dxm, it can help you ween off alcohol
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go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor


go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor

go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor
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go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor


go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor

go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor
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suck the cock like it won tounge the lotto.
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go to meetings
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trust god
read the book
get a sponsor


go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor

go to meetings
clean house
trust god
read the book
get a sponsor
 Quoting: Salt & Light

suck the cock like it won tounge the lotto.
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wow... you seem like a really sweet, healthy person. thanks. [kissnoize]
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fuck off 781.

get it?
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sorry to be a buzzkill k aren

but isnt this like the 3rd thread you started about quiten drinkin?

shit or get off the pot sister hf
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sorry to be a buzzkill k aren

but isnt this like the 3rd thread you started about quiten drinkin?

shit or get off the pot sister hf
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Let her start ten threads about it if that's what she needs to do.
Never mind.
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sorry to be a buzzkill k aren

but isnt this like the 3rd thread you started about quiten drinkin?

shit or get off the pot sister hf
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Let her start ten threads about it if that's what she needs to do.
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if you dont drink you are uncool
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[link to www.soberrecovery.com]

This is where you probably should be posting this sort of thing.

For sure you won't get the smart-ass remarks that you are apt to get here.

Maybe the simple detox wasn't enough? Are you in a position to take the time to do a n inpatient? It may be the best thing you have ever done, it may save your life.

And even if the bf never stops drinking, remember you don't have to drink at him, the only one you are hurting there is you. And face it, if you were far enough gone to get DT's it IS a matter of life and death. Choose wisely.
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didn't you quit smoking too?

quit an ambitious 2011!
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I'll drink to that
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Swaping one addiction for another is stupid

dont stoner
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I was hospitalized for DTs and my boyfriend who I live with promised he'd quit with me. He volunteered to do this, and it was really helpful.

It hasnt even been a month yet and I still want to drink all the time.
One night I wasnt supposed to be home till late cause I had to go to NJ, but it was much quicker than I thought and I got back at like 3 pm ( I thought I'd be home at 10). He got home from work early with a 6 pack, I was kinda pissed but kept it to myself... His plan was drink it before I got home and pretend it didnt happen.

Last week we went to a friends house for dinner and neither of us were drinking. I went out for a smoke and came back and he had a glass of whiskey in front of him. I didnt even want to go to the party because I said this would happen, I said it will be boring, everyone will be drinking but me, he said "I promise I wont."
Anyway, I think he thought he would finish it before I got back upstairs. I got pissed and was like fuck it if youre doing it so am I. Thats been my only lapse so far.

Now he's coming home later cause he's "going out with coworkers" and I'm sure they're just going out for "coffee" since thats what you do with coworkers.
He's out right now and he really thinks I'm that stupid?
I'm pissed.
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Keep up the good fight. I'll hit my two year mark on May 9th. of this year. I drank everyday for 15 yrs. Never believed I could put it down. I do hit a weed pipe from time to time. i know thats not in the AA hand book....but.
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Habits date habits, eventually. AA people all seem to be having the most parties and the most fun. Headaches and a certain degree of dysfunction we can do without. The headaches made me give it up, but only rarely, I'm not AA. But every AA person I know just, has a life now, their new AA buds and they party down, sans firewater.
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sorry to be a buzzkill k aren

but isnt this like the 3rd thread you started about quiten drinkin?

shit or get off the pot sister hf
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Let her start ten threads about it if that's what she needs to do.
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^^This^^ applause
 Quoting: Life and Love


Really, I tried several dozons of times to stop. Started with beer then Rum which I still miss the smell. Then Wine. Went cold turkey because of you guessed it a woman. We are now devorced, but she was the support I needed to start. If you have the wrong kind of support then it makes it quite hard to stop. If he is still drinking get him out of your life till you are ready to be with him while he is drinking. I say that because my second wife will have a few drinks and it doesn't bother me at all. I started drinking when I was 17 and stopped when I was 34. The last 14 years drank till I passed out, 2 dui's not proud of at all. The first month is hell, then the first 6 months is about the same. Gets abit better after a year. Into the second year is when I didn't fill the desire to need a drink.

K aren on day at a time, Listen one day at a time. When the first year went by I felt pretty good then the second felt even better. Going on 17 years now, several things come to mind that have changed for me. Most importantly my family which always stood by me, has improved my relationship with them. The amount of money saved. Stopped making love to the toilet once a week and I am now being able to watch sporting games till the end and remember them. When you drink till you passout all the time you miss alot of stuff.
Good luck with your life choice.





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