I Am Tired Of Being Alone!

come on over we'll talk Doom

I love people, but...

I prefer to be alone. But I never feel lonely.

We are all unique in what we desire. You may need the company of others to feel happy. Eventually you will find someone to connect to.

But if you are to be alone for a while please read link below.

[link to www.welcomethelight.com]

Channeled meterial by the way

I usually avoid channeled stuff.
But the message in the link set well with me

I agree with the motto. Especially, given the experience you went through. But it does make it more difficult to meet people, I guess.

If you look to meet people in a context where weirdos and violent guys are unlikely to be, maybe you can ease your guard a bit...

You seem alright. Nothing really evident that should scare people off. Except the cigarette... maybe :)

quit picking your nose and eating it for starters.

Sorry about that, can't imagine. Hell.. I've met some people who have lost spouses and they seem... very lost.

Don't know how old you are but maybe deep-seated abandonment issues are the heart of your problem? It's similar to people I know who lost parents at a much younger than normal age. There's a hidden part of the psyche that seems to firmly believe that when someone has died, that person left and abandoned them. Irrational but that's what makes it so baffling - it's the irrational side of the brain at work. All the people I know who lost parents between the ages of six and their early twenties are perennially single.

Like he said...lose 60 pounds.

So I guess you didn't hook up with GLP member Brief?

This beer you offer - microbrew? No big corporate beer for me. If so, maybe we'll talk...

Interesting. Seems correct.
Never thought of a connection between the two.

Many messages on GLP are rather disturbing...

If she´s gonna go for a blind date, I´d recommend she goes armed. Heavily armed.

:D

So Al finally got out of Chicago?

Good for him!

feel ya......single for over 10......but have seen some truths here........those 10 I have come to know and understand my self better.....always a on going process though..just trying to say that less rude than Mr Obviuos

but have also found this has allowed me to build a nice wall like you


Motto...trust no one,believe nothing.

and I have also learned to allow love in...your gonna have to trust..and believe , at least in the one you wish a relationship with

it's a double edged sword........and sometimes you have to dance on the edge

i just be alone after 20 years


and its fun ... finaly im free yeah

one person told me its all about dating as many people as possible
until you find right person. I do not agree.

Make a list of al your blessings
and you will have the same list of what is the most impotant
to you. It helps if you can find a partner with whom you share
philisophical similarities and beliefs and background.

historical perspective is good too. Chemistry is also important
sometimes you find it when you are not looking.

my suggestion is have your friends introduce you
to people. also look the best you can at all times
and if you are a person who spends time on the
internet maybe try internet dating site. Lots of
people meet that way and the relationships are
really good because they usually spend
lots of time getting to know each other b4
jumping into gratuitous sex. Sex without love
results only in meaningless physical gratification
temporary unfulfilling and unsustainable.

Haha! I LIKE Idaho!

Interesting that you would bring that up. I was actually told by a counselor several years ago that I have 'abandonment issues'.

I like Brief but we're just friends.

You and your situation are in my thoughts, OP.

Alone or not, the whole thing gets down whether we are willing to do the hard work to be well or if we instead prefer the "security" of our affliction.

How honest with ourselves are we really?

So sorry to hear that. I always fear my husband will die. He is a few years older, but allows himself to get stressed over the least little thing. I think that is one reason I have so many pets. They'll keep me going, especially the dogs!

When my husband dies (in my worldview, he checks out first ) I will not get into another relationship. I have been in close relationships all my life and it's just been a struggle to set limits. I've been meditating more in the past few years and welcome the alone time.

Yeah, a dog is great, if you are too dumb to pick a man that isn't smarter than a dog.

PS OP

You aren't alone, ever.

You have your self.

And if you can't be happy with your self, how can you reasonably expect to be happy with someone else?

Codependency is an ugly thing. If you want the best, you gotta be the best.

"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no-one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully around with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is hell.”

- C.S. Lewis

Cheers, she may not be the brightest bulb in the socket but it's no reason to demean her. Absolutely.

Fear not my fair maiden, your handsome Knight has returned!!(I notice this is a bit old now, did you go back to giving up again???)

The Worst Eternity is one without you.

Hello??? Meow???

Pussycat, pussycat where have you been?



hope life finds you well!!

Your avatar can tell a lot about you and your mind set.
If this is who you projecting out to the world that you are then this is what you will be drawn to: the kind of people who are ignorant, severely programmed and drawn to these experiences as well. You will likely meet these people who feel just like you: empty, alone, given up hope inside and nothing to live for. People coming from broken/abusive relationships etc. Is this what you really want? Do you even care to consider this?
So to change you circumstance you should strive to change that projection of yourself. Ask God for help daily, educate yourself in the truth, and then you will be able to find have a meaningful, solid relationship and not be so lonely inside.
This is difficult but that's why you are here.
And remember you can be always lonely or not but you are never alone!

Take a good rifle a hunting knife and escape deep in the wilderness and when deep enough in the wild shout loudly i am freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!