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SPUD
User ID: 257017 United States 07/15/2011 12:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sure meow, anything is possible Last Edited by SPUD on 07/27/2011 12:41 AM "Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most" ___________ "May your chains rest lightly upon you..." |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1468559 United States 07/15/2011 10:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | still possible, but do it for friendship. My husband is my bestfriend and companion. You have to have the strong support to withstand the storms. Good luck Meow, hope you find the answers your searching for, and the space is filled. (if your interested, 22 years married, and I would do it again) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26159 United States 07/15/2011 10:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its pointless its for immigration or taxes etc. Either 2 people love either other and betroth one another to each other, or not. Who the fuck cares! It was merely invented to prevent inbreeding im sure, but that clearly didn't work. Especially when you look at the zombies walking around in the world. |
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Greg_B.
User ID: 1259308 United States 07/15/2011 11:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marriage is like having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26159Except you never have sex, and when you break up one of you lose half your crap. If you're in a LTR and you DONT get married, things can get way more complicated than a nice, pat no-fault divorce. I'm not too fond of Signatures. Why would I want to end every post the same way? |
SpiritLightWorker
User ID: 719889 United States 07/15/2011 11:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't know... The jury is still out on it. I have been engaged twice. Technically I still am, but my relationship is fading very fast. I kinda shot myself in the foot on this one because she is considerably older and her kids are still living at home, the oldest is a drug addict (supposedly recovered, but the doctor prescribed him the very thing he has been addicted to....Hmmm). I am beginning to feel that marriage is eluding me. I am 34 now, but when I was 19-21, I probably was in the best mental state to get married. However, I had educational/career goals in place and I was not going to let a woman (or even worse, a baby)ruin those for me. Nowadays, I am just about finished with a Master's Degree (2.5 months). I am no closer to getting married than I was a year ago. My religious sensitivities tell me I need to be married otherwise I am a fornicator (although I haven't had sex in over a month). So I don't know what I think, I just know I have some mobility and freedom. I want to be married someday to someone that is happy with herself and knows how to be happy. However, I think that is a very tall order. So many people are depressed these days and they have become very good at masking it until they've already got you hooked. What to do? |
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BRIEF
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wisc_natureboy
User ID: 1481491 United States 07/26/2011 11:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | tell me what you want from marriage...is it still possibe....would you do it and why... Quoting: Meow...Years ago I postulated about the concept of complementary versus supplementary energies (auras) and how they might relate to interpersonal relationships. Supplementary Auras: Both have similar strengths and perhaps even similar weaknesses. Complementary Auras: Where one is strong the other is lacking and vice-versa. Little to no overlap in strengths. [Strength here refers to amplitude of the energy at certain chakras/ Weakness is less amplitude or less energy present] I have had both types of relationships to some degree since and each one was a learning experience. Love is what people want however many do not know how to love. I am still learning. If I were comfortable in the mutual compatibility over a wide range, I would consider partnering-up for life. I haven't yet. Why? Because the trust and love are comforting to the soul. On second thought, I'll likely remain single. ;-`) We all breathe the same air. .-.. --- ...- . / .- .-.. .-.. |
Elenin
User ID: 1468191 United States 07/26/2011 11:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | one needs a young heart to make the leap that love requires Quoting: Anonymous Coward 737901One needs to have faith of the future to make the leap that love requires. Fixed it for ya. Last Edited by Elenin on 07/26/2011 11:43 PM |
Elenin
User ID: 1468191 United States 07/26/2011 11:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't know... The jury is still out on it. Quoting: SpiritLightWorkerI have been engaged twice. Technically I still am, but my relationship is fading very fast. I kinda shot myself in the foot on this one because she is considerably older and her kids are still living at home, the oldest is a drug addict (supposedly recovered, but the doctor prescribed him the very thing he has been addicted to....Hmmm). I am beginning to feel that marriage is eluding me. I am 34 now, but when I was 19-21, I probably was in the best mental state to get married. However, I had educational/career goals in place and I was not going to let a woman (or even worse, a baby)ruin those for me. Nowadays, I am just about finished with a Master's Degree (2.5 months). I am no closer to getting married than I was a year ago. My religious sensitivities tell me I need to be married otherwise I am a fornicator (although I haven't had sex in over a month). So I don't know what I think, I just know I have some mobility and freedom. I want to be married someday to someone that is happy with herself and knows how to be happy. However, I think that is a very tall order. So many people are depressed these days and they have become very good at masking it until they've already got you hooked. What to do? Why do you want to rush it? Be happy with who you are first and a good focus on your vocation is proof that you can commit yourself when the time comes. Good luck on your finals mate! Someday I'll be there too.(I'm envious). |
Earth Daughter
User ID: 1471670 United States 07/26/2011 11:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's a gamble. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Obviously some people love it and have been married a long time, etc... They won. But many of us made big mistakes on our choice of spouse. We lost. Personally, I just don't have the energy and desire to put myself through that again. For me it's not worth it. Some people get out of the fire and jump right back in the frying pan again - but not me. I just want peace now. That's all. A hot bath and a comfortable bed to rest in, good books to read and serenity for my soul. Don't want anymore relationship drama. I'm through. "Arrows of hate have been shot at me too, but they never hit me, because somehow they belonged to another world, with which I have no connection whatsoever." - Albert Einstein |
goodgirl
User ID: 744051 United States 07/27/2011 12:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you must have a ceremony, then have a ceremony, but for God's sake, don't involve a government contract. =============== We must not let our rulers load us with perpetual debt. We must make our election between economy and liberty or profusion and servitude. If we run into such debt, as that we must be taxed in our meat and in our drink, in our necessaries and our comforts, in our labors and our amusements, for our calling and our creeds... [we will] have no time to think, no means of calling our miss-managers to account but be glad to obtain subsistence by hiring ourselves to rivet their chains on the necks of our fellow-sufferers... And this is the tendency of all human governments. A departure from principle in one instance becomes a precedent for [another ]... till the bulk of society is reduced to be mere automatons of misery... And the fore-horse of this frightful team is public debt. Taxation follows that, and in its train wretchedness and oppression. - Thomas Jefferson AND NOW WE ARE BEING BOMBARDED WITH MESSAGES THAT OSAMA BIN LADIN IS PLANNING TO ATTACK THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA. AND I'M TELLING YOU, BE PREPARED FOR A MAJOR ATTACK. BUT IT WON'T BE OSAMA BIN LADEN, IT WILL BE THOSE BEHIND THE NWO. IT IS VERY LIKELY THAT THEY WILL STAGE A TERRORIST ATTACK AND IT IS GOING TO BE BID ENOUGH THAT MARTIAL LAW COULD BE DECLARED. - BILL COOPER 06/28/2001 (3 MONTHS BEFORE 9/11) |
goodgirl
User ID: 744051 United States 07/27/2011 12:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's a gamble. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Quoting: Earth DaughterObviously some people love it and have been married a long time, etc... They won. But many of us made big mistakes on our choice of spouse. We lost. Personally, I just don't have the energy and desire to put myself through that again. For me it's not worth it. Some people get out of the fire and jump right back in the frying pan again - but not me. I just want peace now. That's all. A hot bath and a comfortable bed to rest in, good books to read and serenity for my soul. Don't want anymore relationship drama. I'm through. Wow, I'm right there. Couldn't have said it better myself. =============== We must not let our rulers load us with perpetual debt. We must make our election between economy and liberty or profusion and servitude. If we run into such debt, as that we must be taxed in our meat and in our drink, in our necessaries and our comforts, in our labors and our amusements, for our calling and our creeds... [we will] have no time to think, no means of calling our miss-managers to account but be glad to obtain subsistence by hiring ourselves to rivet their chains on the necks of our fellow-sufferers... And this is the tendency of all human governments. A departure from principle in one instance becomes a precedent for [another ]... till the bulk of society is reduced to be mere automatons of misery... And the fore-horse of this frightful team is public debt. Taxation follows that, and in its train wretchedness and oppression. - Thomas Jefferson AND NOW WE ARE BEING BOMBARDED WITH MESSAGES THAT OSAMA BIN LADIN IS PLANNING TO ATTACK THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA. AND I'M TELLING YOU, BE PREPARED FOR A MAJOR ATTACK. BUT IT WON'T BE OSAMA BIN LADEN, IT WILL BE THOSE BEHIND THE NWO. IT IS VERY LIKELY THAT THEY WILL STAGE A TERRORIST ATTACK AND IT IS GOING TO BE BID ENOUGH THAT MARTIAL LAW COULD BE DECLARED. - BILL COOPER 06/28/2001 (3 MONTHS BEFORE 9/11) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1403418 United States 08/09/2011 09:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's a gamble. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Quoting: Earth DaughterObviously some people love it and have been married a long time, etc... They won. But many of us made big mistakes on our choice of spouse. We lost. Personally, I just don't have the energy and desire to put myself through that again. For me it's not worth it. Some people get out of the fire and jump right back in the frying pan again - but not me. I just want peace now. That's all. A hot bath and a comfortable bed to rest in, good books to read and serenity for my soul. Don't want anymore relationship drama. I'm through. I'm pretty much in this boat too. Too risky nowadays. ------ |
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