coworker mocks and belittles me. its getting unbearable. how do i

you catch him alone, grabs his balls and twist.
Then you say look mother fucker back off or I will get you for sexual harassment.
Then look for another jop

Talk to the superwizor.

Oh and learn to ignore people.

i think he likes you....

Go to your human resources department and make a complaint . You could tell him first that if he doesn't stop giving you a hard time , you will report him . Sorry and hope it improves for you .

You already know the answer.

If it’s any consolation, he’s obviously suffering from inferiority complex, and probably from frustrations since he can’t have you - if it’s true what you wrote.

Yeah, this guy has a crush on you i think. Give him fair notice, nice but firm, to back off or will file harassment complaint against him with management.

Last Edited by Frankenstein on 10/10/2011 01:30 PM

Stand up to him, for real. That is the only way to derail a bully. They are used to people cowering at their abuse.

you sound hot.

Tell him that if he watched and monitored his weight more than he monitors you he "might" become attractive again.

I am telling you this will shut him up !

THIS

Bullies will ALWAYS pick on someone they believe will NOT fight back. Your only recourse is to either completely ignore the bully (act like they are not there and that you can't hear them) or fight fire with fire. Bullies LOVE reaction, if you don't give them one, eventually they will give up and move onto someone new. No reaction=no bullying.

A way to do this is pretend the words they use are the EXACT opposite of what the bully says. Pretend he/she is giving you a complement. Even smile and say thank you. This will confuse him or her.

If this is harassment get it on audio, hidden video and go to your superiors or the police.

Last Edited by Seer777 on 10/10/2011 01:04 PM

Kick his ass seabass!

Well I'm a guy and would knock his lights out, but I don't expect you to do that, go to the manager and tell him if this guy doesn't stop harassing you, you will be looking for another job!

castrate him and he will cool off

he is from europe and so is his wife. he tells us he loves his wife and hates american women. once, he walked by
me and another female coworker and kicked
the machine next to us. we looked at each other in shock.
he doesnt bother her though. she is loud and sticks
up for herself. i dont know how to be like that. i draw a
blank and fear also when he is like that to me. its worse
when i am the only female there.

why cant he just be nice and get along, we all have to
be there for the same reason to pay our bills.

No, emasculate him in front of others, then laugh at him. Mental castration doesn't get you a rubber room or cell and it's easy... Bullies thrive on power, take that power away with laughter, scorn, a bit of mockery of your own.

thank you, i wish i worked with someone like you.

He fees intimidated and threatened by you
You must be a great employee
(he also knows someone like you wouldnt look twice at him haha)
This is the way of stupid workplace bullies

Beat him to death with his own stapler.

I agree with this. Maybe say something like "Wow (his name), I wish I could find a real man just like you. Someone who isn't afraid to pick on someone a third their size. Someone that is so sure of them-self, they don't mind pointing out every fault of others. I wish every man was as great as you." Then follow up quickly with "I'm going out tonight with a group of friends, most of them are just wee little attractive, athletic women that could use the company of a big manly man. I would invite you, but I am sure with your winning personality, you must have all sorts of friends begging you to hang out with them, and wouldn't want to try and steal you away from your busy social life." Say it all with a smile, as nice and sincere as you can, then walk off and go back to to work. Make sure you do it right after he has made a snide comment to you in front of a co-worker or two. If that doesn't knock him down a peg or two, I figure his reaction will be to cuss you, and if he does that in front of co-workers, you go directly to the boss and tell him everything, including what you said, why you said it, and who witnessed it.
ps, I always include with any advice I give that you are responsible 100% if you decide to take it. If you do, and it works though... would love to hear about his reaction!

Take a piss in his coffee!

Write a paper out and every time he harasses y ou write what he says, the time/day and if anyone else was around, keep a diary, let him see what you are doing, and if he doesnt stop go to HR or your Boss. I looked into this when I was getting Bullied by a female manager, She ended up getting fired , but my company was world wide and they had an independent hotline. I was on workers comp for 7 months for stress and acute anxiety. My local big managers wouldnt say anything to her, so I went over their heads. They are trying to get a law passed about bulling on the job, this happens more than people realize and until it happens to them they say just ignore it, but it isnt that easy, it starts showing in your health, leads to thinking you arent good enough and whats wrong with me, also suicide, just like school kids that get bullied, but here it is adults and having to make a living and jobs are hard to find

you must be very quite and not want to rock the boat even though you are getting bullied from him, I used to go home and cry and get mad at myself for not saying things back to her, but I am not that way that is why we are called a Target, they pick the good worker that just wants to do their job and be left alone. They use the Target to try to make themselves look good and powerful, these type of people alway do this, if you werent there anymore he would target someone else, they pray on the quite ones, but you can fight back just not verbally. You can web search it it , just type in Bulling on the job. they give you ways to fight back.

You need to talk to your boss or the owner of the business and let them no you are being harassed by this person and that you want it stopped asap.

if you knocked his lights out you would be fired and maybe have charges filed against you, and why should you quit your job, they are very hard to find. Let him be the one that has to find a new job.
Is he married?

he will
stand behind me and mimic what i said to the
customer in a mocking way
I cannot believe this.
Any Boss who knows this would sack him, as this behaviour costs customers.

Tell him you are so hot for him.

When he does this, pause, pause then say,

Stop, for the love of chocolate, stop embarrassing yourself!

pray he gets a heart attack

looks like his mentality is still stuck in elementary school like most of the adults in this country, i say about 80% think they are still juveniles