Well, if the eldest child can do these things on her own, why is the father being blamed for them not being done? I sometimes go a few days without taking a shower and I have also been known to wear the same clothes for a few days in a row (OH, THE HORROR!), and from what I can tell the world didn't come to an end and no-one threatened me with a court order to brush my teeth. The mother's outrage is obviously overblown and in direct proportion to how much she detests the husband, likely due to unresolved feelings for him. The anger is misplaced and it's going to work against her, the husband, and the children. She needs to see herself for what she's become. STEP BACK, LADY, AND LOOK HARD -- BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!