They were in the same clothes I sent them in. My 9 year old's hair is so tangled it may need to be cut. The 2 year old has 15 mosquito bites on her little legs and they have not brushed their teeth the whole weekend. I am furious. My 9 year old told me that they don't have to take baths until right before I come and that since I came an hour early that's why they look dirty???? Can this be grounds for supervised visits? Apparently this is his "normal" behavior? I could spit nails right now!
Quoting: Pink Taco Usually dads send kids back in the same clothes because we never see the new clothes we bought for them to wear during our "visits" returned (kids visit relatives and have shared custody with parents, even if just weekends). Thats what I do, as I otherwise have my kids show up every weekend in older clothes and sent back in new clothes that never come back. This is just typical and nothing to rage about. Your reading too much into it. Did they spend the whole weekend in the same, unwashed, clothes?
Mosquito bites? Sounds like dad took kids out of the house like dads should do. My kids love fishing and hikes, and mosquito bites are just part of that. Better than TV? Yes. Child abuse? No.
Kids say teeth not brushed for two days? Well, not good and not child abuse. Say something and he will change his ways out of shame. Not good but not the end of the world eighter. Be a problem solver, not a drama starter.
Given your reaction, I would guess that you are vindictive and itching to get back at him for god knows what. But its not about you. Its about the kids. They have a right to have access and time to both parents, so be a responsible and reasonable parent. Voice your concerns and see that your concerns are addressed rather than "getting even" and robbing your kids of what little time they might still have with their father. Some really petty gripes you've got there....
