Sounds like the 9 year old's hair tangles easily. Get her some detangler. Her dad will spray it on if she asks him. This takes like two seconds. Otherwise, she should be good on her own. Teach her to help the littler girl to wash her face and hands, brush her teeth, and comb her hair. Skipping one bath isn't so serious.

You might ask your ex if you need to send different stuff than you're sending. He might not know for certain what to even buy if they need something different.

I kind of don't believe this thread. But, people are right... this isn't really a big deal.