My son is getting bullied at school!

There is time to hate or time to love:

Your kid got to face reality. Good thing you protected him long enough so he grew in being good soul but now its is time to teach him stories like:

Jesus vs money changers.
David vs "insert anything non israelite here".

Bottom line: Please understand you will not be around always.. to shield him from reality...

"To turn your head in order to give other cheek ..you got to have strong neck".

I do agree...
However... he has quite a bit of friends.. Some he has had since 1st grade. He is passive.he is smaller than most...
Not an outcast or anything of that nature. Doesn't do anything weird or have tics.. or really nothing like that... this kid could be getting pushed along by another... who knows..
I will tell you this.. if its something my wife or I have created... Our actions will also teach him how to stop people for picking on him just because of who he is.

It's a ridiculous mentality to think that the victim is actually the one bringing it on themselves. I guess the same mentality leads rape victims to bring it on themselves, too. Pass the buck, pass the blame.

Not pinning it on the kid...I'm pinning it on the parents. Parents make the child into what it is.....often not even on purpose....and it is their duty AND the schools to stop bullying from happening.

And yes...sometimes bullies can just pounce because a child is passive...an easy mark. In those cases the school needs to stop the bully from being at the school....to watch that child. Get social services involved to see why the bully is reacting teh way it is.

Last Edited by Red Red Whine on 01/17/2012 09:35 AM

Go the lawyer route. Teachers look the other way when it comes to bullying. If they know they will be sued, then they will stop it. Otherwise you are wasting your time. I'll pray for your kid.

Yes, responsibility of the parents of hte BULLY, NOT THE VICTIM OR THE VICTIM'S PARENTS. And you're right, parents of the bully may not know or care, like I said there are a lot of troubled kids out there. That's a shame but they have NO RIGHT to do anything to another, and if they get popped in the nose when they try to do something to my kid, well then I guess they'll just get a lesson not taught to them by their parents.

However, if you're going to try to deflect it to the parents of the victim, you're dead wrong and that's absolutely insane to think that children should fit into some "perfect mold" lest they be bullied by some "troubled" kid. Do NOT go there.

I'll laugh if your son gets his ass kicked, you can't just tell a kid to punch someone in the face if he has never done it or has no prior instruction other than a 5 minute lesson on it. Remember to put a cold steak on his eye when he gets home Miyagison.

Oh... He has had little scuffles at school. Nothing major.. and knows he is supposed to stand up. But the fact is the school systems teach the kids to taddle all the time.. which you and I know that makes things worse... for the way it is handled. He has fought through his martial arts training. He isn't currently in training at all.. we had him in it for flexablility and motor skill improvement for baseball. hes not afraid of the pain its the disipline from the school he is afraid of... thats before he talked to me about it. So hopefully he resolves it today

WHAT???? was this serious or a joke?

yes as long as we tell our kids not to be individuals and that they must fit in and conform to someone elses standards then they will get along with others just fine. this is the worst advice i have ever heard.

what about the kids that were born with a disability? are they just screwed? what about kids whos parents cant afford to dress them "normaly"?

clearly it is the OP's fault that his son is getting bullied. that makes perfect sense. i dont really know what is worse. a bully or a bleeding heart that would defend the action of the bully by putting the blame on the victim. i never flame people on here but this was, without a doubt, the most idiotic response i have ever witnessed on this website.

Hey dick sucker I told you to leave!
he has had training but the fear is disiplinary action from school. Now once again get the fuck out!

Exactly, instead of putting it on the bully (and the bully's lack of parenting or other issues) it is then placed on the victim. Disgusting, absolutely DISGUSTING.

who cares? why is it OP's duty to find out why the bully is the way he is? who stinking cares. how could you possibly place any responsibility on the OP to help the bully when you insinuated it was his parenting that is probably getting his kid bullied to begin with? i hope this is not your profession.

Great mentality there!! Blame the "victim" rather than dealing with the real issue as to WHY the bully does that. How dare you even suggest something like that!!

That's the way society is nowadays, no personal responsibility, in this case which would extend to the bully's parents but also the kid himself. THIS is what's wrong with the world!!!!! I'm mad.

I totally agree. I was going to respond to this also, but you said enough for me.

Last Edited by Wispa on 01/17/2012 09:46 AM

This is why your son gets bullied, if he is anything like his douchebag father I can see it happening daily lol, remember, cold steak on the eye Rocky hahah

haha. i am mad too. that response just really fired me up. i was just fine until i read that. now i feel like kicking puppies or something. not really. i would never kick puppies. but that is how mad she made me lol.

I have to disagree with this:
Some kids just have no idea what respect is...
I was shortest/smallest kid in 7 classes of 30 kids each class in my age range... this psychocentral.com got nothing on variety of "personalities" I had to deal with.
Once in a while I had to "force" in to their faces the concept of dignity and respect to others.
This...."know how to get along with others" liberal bull crap only degrades self respect.

KNOW HOW TO GET ALONG ONLY WITH THOSE WHO IS TRYING TO GET ALONG WITH YOU....and its 95% of people I've met in my 33 years of life..rest 5% will get their face broken literally or psychologically.

Oh I know! Especially cause I'm dealing with something similar. I have a kid coming up to my own kid who is standing, waiting in the bus line at the end of the day, who comes up to my son and says to him "I'm going to kill you, you're going to smell blood tonight!" and this loon is trying to imply my kid did something to provoke that? WRONG. I don't care if my kid was standing there picking his nose while wearing an umbrella hat and hopping around on one foot, NOBODY has a right to do THREATEN OR TOUCH MY SON!!



Last Edited by Laura Bow on 01/17/2012 09:50 AM

LOL that is funny, HAHAHAHAA. In my case, I know the police told us that unless a kid actually touches another kid, they will do NOTHING if it involves threats of death, harm, etc.

Yeah thats pretty funny!

Don't kick the puppies ! that is bullying.
Are they fat is that why ? do they have more spots than the normal ? do they have wonky tails ? if yes then that is ok, just blame the parents and kick them.

Last Edited by Wispa on 01/17/2012 09:56 AM

glad you enjoyed it

thats true, in general the police can't do anything unless you can proove bodily or psychological harm

you are absolutely right. sorry to hear about this. how old is your son? this happened to my son a few years ago. there was a girl in his class who had some issues. we knew that and felt just as bad for her. but she had a crush on my son and he didnt like her so she threatened to stab him. the teachers heard this and had us come pick my son up and keep him home for a few days while they dealt with the issue. just to be safe. of course i didnt want anything bad to happen to the girl. i know she is a child and had some problems. but there is always that "what if". you just shouldnt take a chance on the "what if".

however i would love an umbrella hat lol.

i pray everything goes well with your situation too.

Yep, I thought we could just have something on record in case the situation escalated. The school is not keeping accurate records, actually you would think that if something is reported to a teacher and it is something serious, it would be documented but it is not. Unfortunately the mentality of my school, and probably a lot of others, are like what Tracy had posted. Blame the victim, feel bad for the kid that is doing the bullying, it's not their fault. They had a bad upbringing, they don't know..heck, they may have even had a bad lunch! Screw that.

HAHAHA!

Yeah mom stepping in is gonna end the bully problem at school lol, you're gonna make it worse. Have your kid take boxing or grappling after school, it will give him the confidence he needs to deal with situations like this. The OP of this thread is just going to get his sons butt kicked, on the simple count that he acts like a toughguy in front of his kid when he really isnt, and that's why his son catches the whoopens.