My son is getting bullied at school!

you should keep a journal with every detail that happened, when your kid came back crying because somethign happened and be as detailed as possible
keep the bills from the phonecompany to show how many times you contacted the police


in that case you have something to show and they have more to go on then words, if your kid gets beaten up, take pics of that to show as well.

the journal: well NO ONE is going to go through the effort of meticulously writing dwn everythign that happened if it didn't happen in the first place

Wow. In my case, the school will NOT CONTACT ME IF SOMETHING IS DONE TO MY CHILD!!!!! However, they will readily contact me if my child in turn says loudly to her brother "Brother, get away from 'xxx', she said she wants to touch me in my privates!"

I am not kidding. The principal contacted me because they didn't want this kid to "feel bad"!!!! They admitted she's "troubled", blah blah...you know, I can sympathize, but that's not my problem. Obviously, we've had multiple instances with this school. My son is 7, my daughter 9. Two big, separate incidents this year. Get this, the "best" part about my son having this happen. He told two teachers about what the other boy wanted to do, he actually got out of the bus line to tell the first teacher, who happened to be the teacher of the boy. He then goes back into line and stands where he was originally standing. At that point the "bad boy" is telling another teacher, so my son goes to tell this teacher. The teacher in turn says, "If you're going to cut in line, DON'T tattletale!" WTF?! The kid is trying to tell you that he's being threatened and you say that?! Obviously, I contacted the school, via EMAIL because these issues are not documented through the telephone, and addressed this.

I think the problem is that they will not reprimand the troubled kids, or at the very least keep a close eye on them like they should.

Hee-hee....Priceless!

Actually, one of the things I informed the school is that we are telling him self-defense is acceptable, so they are informed if something happens that THEY are now privy to knowing the kid may have retaliation should he do something to my own kids. He already knows if the kid touches him, KNOCK. HIM. OUT.

we are talking harrassment. simple bullshit... knocking books out of hand.. paper cut on the back of his neck and running away... pulling a chair out of the way while he was sitting.. just bullshit... No punching kicking anything like that or he would have fought back... He thinks if he avoids this fucker it will go away.

damn man , I'd seriously consider contacting an external organisation or something to hold that school under close scrutiny for a while

pah ... imo that school hires a bunch of lazy people with no work ethic !

Yes, I'm documenting everything and actually I am recording the kids and what their story is that day. Because the school tends to "fudge" things if you contact through the phone, I am only doing email contact for issues now. That way they have a clear record as to what I am telling them and vice versa. Every time they are documented, notes and times are indicated, as well as the teachers involved.

Good !

It's pretty bad. Like I said, it's been multiple instances. The school wants to coddle the kids with issues because I guess a lot of them have loser parents, and they think by giving "positive encouragement" (they won't allow negative disincentives, per their behavior code), they think they can rehabilitate or fix them.

"The Board directs that the district’s behavior support programs shall be based on positive rather than negative behavior techniques to ensure that students shall be free from demeaning treatment and unreasonable use of restraints or other aversive techniques. "

OP, did your kid kick his ass yet? Please update as events unfold!

Here is only part of my most recent email to the school, edited, obviously. My son is "Q":




During the end of the day on Monday, January 9, while the children were lining up for the buses, M**** came up behind Q**** and held up a fist in a threatening manner. Q**** then made a comment "My parents are teaching me self-defense.". M**** then said, "I'm going to kill you, and you are going to smell blood tonight.". Q**** then proceeded to get out of line to find the first teacher, who was Miss **** . He then told Miss **** what **** had told him, she then pulled M**** out of line and said to him that people who threaten to kill others get in trouble with the police. M**** then said that he was sorry, and Miss **** asked Q**** "Apology accepted?" which he then, feeling he had to, said yes.

After this, he returned to his spot (which at this point was not at the back of the line) and then saw Mrs. **** . M**** had already approached her, she was listening to him when Q**** tried to explain what M**** had said to him. She then turned to Q**** and said "You shouldn't tattletale if you cut in line." M**** had told the teacher that he did not say what Q**** had said, but that Q**** was "not going to be his friend" and that he was going to "bully him". And then Mrs. **** told M**** , "Oh really? If Q**** says that again you tell a teacher." They then shortly after got on the bus to go home.


Now, I do understand that this child, as I'm sure some others, have unfortunate issues to deal with. This is very sad. However, M**** has continuously made verbal threats against both of the children regarding bodily harm and to go into such graphic detail regarding "smelling blood" makes it all the more chilling.

Obviously, there's much more to it, that's just a part of the email I sent, it's just too hard to edit a lot of it to post here.

Now, the interesting thing about this is my daughter was standing there at the time, and both her brother and she told the same story, she actually was listening and because she is older, could tell much more complete and with emphasis how the 2nd teacher said it.

Last Edited by Laura Bow on 01/17/2012 10:19 AM

That's tough. Paper cut on the back of the neck? What is wrong with that kid?! What does your son say when it happens?

LOL chuck norris LMAO
No it will be the last class of the day
I will update for sure
Still haven't heard back from the school.
I hope it all goes down before the school calls me back. and they say to themselves oh shit I should have called that guy back.

When you left a voicemail, what did you say?

a good placed knee jab to his ballz, in a unlikely place to be observed, very well may end the nonsense.


your child is going to take his emotional ques from you, so the more you obsess, the more he will be anticipating it. The more he gets pranked and bullied, the less he'll pay attention in school, the snowball down the hill includes a lot of negatives for his social and educational attitude.

i have very passive children, four of them, they have all been bullied and pranked at one time or another, usually little was done in retaliation, they survived, the bullies usually moved on to someone else

my youngest, my son, got his digs back, although a passive kid, one time he turned around and instinctavely swung around and jabbed the guy really hard in the arm

i think they are friends now....

Your son needs to take the fight to the bully.I mean I have been bullied to in school,and there is only one thing to stop that.Beat the living shit out of that kid.even if he los the battle,he wil feel more secured,cause he standed his ground.

what could the school do,they have been warned,If your kid fights the other kid for a moment,he will have a great school time,and wont have further problems in his life.

M* is a textbook bully ...

Everyone can probably understand that this kid has some isues himself
but that's not a reason or an excuse to be a bully to other kids, for his own good and for the best of all the people around him, specially his victims
Because once you are an adult and you have learned that other people will submit to your desires if you threathen or hit them ...well it doesn't really work that way when you are adult ....
Besides, anyone that works with children will know that tattling is not propper conduct !
Because adults can see signs of undesirable behaviour in children, or at least they SHOULD !
You should never encourage children to tell on others unless they did something fysical to you like hitting , kicking or biting ...

It surely sounds like you and your son are good people. I HATE bullies.

My grandson was bullied once when in third grade by some fat obnoxious six grader who picked on the little kids. My grandson is a good kid like your son and is now in high school...excels academically and in sports. The obnoxious bully is probably still a loser.

When my grandson was younger, I tried to explain to him that a bully is a very weak person who doesn't feel good about himself...probably is ignored at home and gets no love, or is abused. Not that I feel sorry for bullies, but it helped him see that he was the stronger person. I still wish every bully would get the crap beat out of him/her! :)

A big cyber hug going out to your son!

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Last Edited by anonymous321 on 01/17/2012 10:44 AM

One of the reasons why I wanted my kid to tell a teacher is because in the case of this threat, you would think they would mark it down and act appropriately. The teacher would then pass it onto the principal and then this would be dealt with, unfortunately it's not. I am not interested in my kid being a tattletale and for minor issues, I tell them ignore it. However, when the kid is going into something graphic (what 7 year old would say 'you're going to smell blood tonight'?), I was hoping it would be documented as something against this kid. I don't know if this kid is prone to actually being violent, from what I can tell he HAS done things to other children, nothing to my son except kicking him. What is there to say this kid won't end up bringing a knife or something onto the bus?

The way the school handles it is obviously poor. In this instance, they ended up contacting the kid's mother, but in a previous incident just before Christmas, they did not. That time the school had contacted me because the kid was claiming my daughter was bullying him. He obviously knows how to work the system. All my daughter did was walk up to him and ask why he had kicked her brother a day or so before that.

It's clear now that having the kids approach the teacher in cases such as this (the only other times they have approached the teacher was regarding the inappropriate touching from that girl, obviously another story). From now on I'm going to have to document this stuff and if need be, I guess we'll have to get a lawyer because they are not providing a safe learning environment for ALL children.

Headed to the school now! I'll update soon

Come to think of it, I think my daughter told authorities at the school and nothing was done. So one day she waited for the bully after school and confronted him. She told him if he ever picked on my grandson again, she'd beat the shit out of him. He never picked on my grandson again.

Last Edited by anonymous321 on 01/17/2012 11:40 AM

Ok ....you want some good advise? HERE IT IS ...SO LISTEN UP!!! My Son was only 5'9in school. He was short. He was picked on. He wanted to take Kook Sool Won, so I enrolled him. After 2 YEARS, we realized the steps you MUST remember where just ridiculous!! So we tried Tae Kwon Do. After he became a black belt, he was at the church parking lot playing basketball when some seniors decided to be a bunch of pricks! The BIGGEST one of the crew ....of course.....threw a stick at lance trying to piss him off, thanks to his training he blew the continual stick throwing off....when they realized that wouldn't get a rise out of him they decided to send the big goofy 6'3 fucker over to him to sucker punch him.....now by this time there was about 12 guys standing around watching....TWO OF THE LITTLE SHITS WERE FROM HIS TAE KWON DO CLASS!!!! When the big, goofy fuck cracked my 5'9kid in the jaw....lance looked at him dead in his face and said "IS THAT ALL U GOT?"... Lance warned him of his training and told him he had every right to defend himself and to be warned the consequences he would reap would not be worth what he was bringing on himself. The big dumb kid went to hit lance again when my kickass little guy dropped kicked the 6'3bully and with a kick to his chest landed the guy about 12to feet away from him as the guy started to get up to swing on lance, lance applied 2 fingers ti his throat and cracked him in the face laying his eyelid open needing stitches. He was the laughing stock of the entire school. Now.....my son and the 2dried boys in his class had to explain their actions to their instructor, but my son after explaining to mr. Jones that he had repeatedly let the incidents go until he HAD to defend himself, but after that And after it was corroborated by other students my son suffered no punishment. Soon after my son started taking close combat training by damian Ross and captain chris and he never looked back. Once in a while we will dabble with Krav Maga for fun but for anyone who wants to protect themselves NOW without years of training I recommend Close Combat Training for any age!!

Ive been bullied at school being dragged by my collar.

it ended with me and the bully in the principle office apparently i was the bad guy.

Screw this, tell him to whomp him with whatever long object he can get. To hell with the consequences. Honestly that's the only way to make it stop.

I was also a victim of bullying in middle / high school, the public school system is a breeding ground for failure.

I think you should take your child out of the public school system, every year it will get worse until graduation.

The other option I see is to tell the school and parents of bullies that you will sue them for millions of dollars if they don't control their low IQ kids.

Woo Hoo!

Let us know what happens...

This seems to be the mentality of a lot of schools, unfortunately.

Lurking around, waiting for update from OP.

I hope this isn't anticlimatic..

i would suggest your son stand up in the middle of class and give this punk a verbal tongue lashing infront of everyone. People are afraid of those that they think might be a little crazy. If he goes the the principle than thats where you come in and threaten them also with a law suite. You have to nip this shit in the butt before it gets out of control.

Tell it it's ok to do this it let it rip.