Dear Ladies: If you were late getting your period, would you go and tell the guy they might have gotten you pregnant before getting tested?

NO !!!

That's what I thought. Apparently I'm the asshole for not thinking about what she's going through enough meanwhile she doesn't even know if it's true or not.

I would think it is pretty standard not to tell a guy until you are positive (no pun intended).

First of all, before you do anything else, stop and take breather. I know that you're shocked, and anxious perhaps, but think about her. There's more than likely a life growing inside of her. As a woman, I can tell you what's going through her mind. She's thinking " I'm scared to death. Will the father abandon me? Will I have to raise this baby alone?" So, I know you're worried, but trust me...not as much as her. She's bearing the majority of the burden, and will have to whether she has help or not.

With that being said, she needs emotional support right now. I'm sorry,but you telling her that was "the last thing you wanted to hear" probably was very hurtful to her. Let's pretend that it turns out she is, and it's yours. Even if you're upset, this is your opportunity to be a strong and protective man. Tell her that you're excited about the baby, and that everything is going to be OK. Tell her not to worry, because you will take care of her and the baby. Last but not least, give her a big hug.

I"m married, and have a 3 year old daughter. We had been married for only 6 months when we turned up pregnant. We weren't financially prepared, but are in a much better place now. I can tell you this. If it had not been for my husband's love and support when we found out, I don't know what I would have done. She will need you the same way if it's yours.

Last Edited by Dease on 03/13/2012 09:13 PM

Don't forget that she had just been with other guy(s) according to OP. If that is true, my feeling when I read it was that she was ALREADY pregnant when she wanted to get together with you for a non-passionate union..... provided this is exactly the way everything happened. No abortion, for sure....but there should be a DNA test before responsibility for this is taken.

^^THIS^^ is some of the finest advice I have ever seen posted on GLP! (Do it, OP!)

And if it is NOT yours, you two will definitely not stay together. If it is yours, man up and take responsibility for the child, although it doesn't sound like the two of you will be able to have a good relationship, unless you both have total attitude and spiritual and worldview adjustments. The child is important....IF this is your child, take responsibility for this little person.

i'm confused. how does a dude fuck and does not cum?

NO way no how....the only women who do this, are the ones who are not sure who the dad is, or who need attention, or who are trying to trap you into something...just sayin..

But, if she is pregnant and you do the testing and it is yours, do the right thing ...the baby is innocent..no, I do not mean marry her, but be there for the child..they need both parents...as others have pointed out...Good luck, op...now, if she is not pregnant, learn your lesson and NEVER EVER do this again with her!!! :)

Last Edited by aBiNoRmAl on 03/13/2012 09:45 PM

Well your best course of action is:

DNA test before you sign any birth certificate or believe her word that you are the father.

More than likely she got pregnant by one of her bad boys and wants her one good boy to take the responsibility for her actions.

If DNA shows you are the father, well not much you can do. DON'T marry her under any circumstances and just support the child and be a good Dad.

Unfortunately i have to agree with this having seen this done to my brother, let alone every kind of talk show out there.

"It's probably yours"?? what the hell is that all about.

Good luck in your decision OP.

Never tell a man that your pregnant and think it's his. Test first or bust.

Thank you so much friend. I can't give advice on fixing the Chevy, or starting a business, but I know about this b/c I've been there....except I was married. I can say as scary as it seems, when you see your own baby, all your fears just melt away, and you are filled with love. For us, our daughter became our whole world, and never had we been so happy. As far as the mistakes this girl may have made, maybe this will make her want to settle down with the OP and have a family. I certainly hope so.

Last Edited by Dease on 03/13/2012 09:53 PM

why do people hop in bed and do stuff like this to themselves. You didn't "come" but did you even use protection against some possible infection, let alone the risk of a child.

:pickle you are i:

she was late, and thought she was preg before she banged you, She panicked because she don't know who baby daddy is. She picked the nice guy to be the daddy of some assholes kid.


Shes burning u.

Seriously? She's running around fucking anything that moves, and you didn't cum, and you're just going to mindlessly buy "it's probably yours"?

Just how stupid do you have to be to do that?

If she IS pregnant, and you didn't come, it's not yours and she's hoping to trap someone that will be stupid enough to pay for 18 years for a kid that's not his.

WTF is wrong with you, sticking your cock naked into that, anyway?



Stop your whining, you fucked up, and fucked up, and fucked up again.

Tip for you. If she let you stick it in her bare, she let them do it, too. If you didn't come, you're not the father. Didn't ANYBODY tell you how the fuck babies are made?

You gotta be kidding me. Comfort her? Strong and protective. Its one thing knowing the child is yours or not and in this case he has no idea and if he's telling the truth about not cuming then he knows for sure it isn't his. Stop making this girl out to be weak or a victim. She slept around with bunch of guys. Plus how do you know how she feels? Maybe she could care less.

Its one thing being married and unexpectedly having a child. Its another sleeping with a slut (he called her that) and then dropping the bomb on you.

My advice, don't say shit until she gets tested AND DNA test. If its yours man up, if not make this a lesson learn and stop thinking with your dick. In the mean time I would get checked cause obviously she's fucking a bunch of guys unprotected.
ow do you know what she's thinking? You can't assume thats how she feels about the baby.

And a tip for you, ever hear of "pre-cum?" A woman can get pregnant from the semen in the fluid that builds up just before a man orgasms.

For the last few weeks I have had to listen to her talk about "how I've fucked up so badly" by screwing all these guys. As in her ex will find out and a shitstorm will happen. Well no shit, you lie in the bed you made.

When she told me this, yes, mean to say I didn't need to hear this right now, but it is the fact that it was like 2/3 in the morning, she knew I had been feeling deathly sick, and then she goes and puts that on me NOT EVEN KNOWING if she is even ACTUALLY pregnant.

If she had told me that after taking a pregnancy test then yes, as a responsible adult, I would have bit the bullet on how I was feeling, and dealt with it. But for her to say that when she doesn't even know and is just going on "I'm late", not fair to me, and especially my feelings since she knows I waited two fucking years to try again with her.

The other thing is reading these posts saying you should be supportive and let her know you'll be there for the baby. I live in Canada. Around here abortion is covered by OHIP so it WOULDN'T EVEN MATTER if I wanted to give the baby life. She is going to abort the thing the moment she knows if she is pregnant or not. When we had the pregnancy scare together, to have that on both our conscious of having an abortion, I would have wanted to have the baby. It doesn't matter though because the woman has the choice ultimately.



You might be on to something. I am not sure if she was already pregnant but what my hunch is that any number of these guys could have gotten her pregnant and it is EASIER for her to PIN it on me because all these guys she slept with are within the circle of her ex. To put it on me keeps me out of the circle and therefore she would never have to go to any of these guys and tell them. I wouldn't put it past her as her sister allowed some guy to think the baby she was aborting was this guy she was seeing, meanwhile she pretty much was positive it was some other guys but would never tell the guy she was seeing because it would crush him.

It's the fact that I will never know who's it really was as she will get it aborted and just put it on me.



Has nothing to do with manning up. She would never want to have a baby right now and my opinion on killing a Soul does not matter. I actually manned up the time it happened when we were together and would of had a baby, but I still think she would have aborted it. There is no way of knowing if this is mine.



I was going for miles.



The trap suggestion is what I am afraid of. As I answered above in one of the responses, putting this on me would avoid ever having to tell one of these guys who is in her mutual ex's friends circle they got her pregnant which could lead back to getting really messed up. I am on the outside, and it would make things easier to say I did it.

Believe me I completely agree with you about manning up but there would be no point having to as she would abort it without a doubt. This girl calls me selfish for feeling so sad about that. I happen to be a lot more spiritual than her so the idea of this, killing my first child, is really tormenting.



I agree with you. More than likely it was one of these bad boys.

She actually said to me "there were only two guys before you and condoms were used", meanwhile I know there have been other guys after me. So it's like she pin pointed the time we did it to her being pregnant. Give me a fucking break.

Again everyone, for the record, I did not come inside of her. She is pinning this hypothetical pregnancy on me based off of pre-cum, even though she has seen quite a few guys in the last while.


Thanks for all the responses so far. Really appreciate it.

In exceptionally rare circumstances only. He had to have just jacked off or gotten off right before that.

Precum does NOT contain sperm, the only way it can contain a tiny bit of sperm is if they were 'stuck' in there and hitched a ride.

If he pissed since he last whacked it or otherwise ejaculated, he couldn't have gotten her pregnant with precum.

Ya know , this girl may not be perfect, but none of us are. I've always been amazed at the double standard. A girl sleeps around and is called a slut. A man does the same thing, and his friends give him high fives. What she did was wrong. I agree. But if in fact the baby is his, (which it might be due to the technical fact that pre-ejaculation can cause pregnancy), then she will need his support. Maybe she will see this as an opportunity to change her life for the best interest of her daughter.

Oh please. PRECUM DOES NOT CONTAIN SPERM.

Only way that "precum" can contain sperm is if he just whacked it and didn't piss in between.

The two posters Dease and the AC present two different ways of thinking about this, and represent two different ways of living life. We all have choices to make. Choose wisely!

What ever you do when that kid pops out get a DNA test done ASAP! More then likly its not yours she just don't know who the dad is and your the nice guy that will take care of her and her kid.

Comfort HER?

They used to be together, and they had a pregnancy scare, and she told him she didn't care how much he wanted the baby, she was killing it.

Now she decides she MIGHT be pregnant and she tells him, "I'm probably pregnant and it's probably yours and I'm probably going to have an abortion" YET AGAIN...

Knowing it devastated him the first time...

But he should comfort HER?

And if she's not pregnant, does he get comforted from her asshole behavior?

She no doubt knows he's the only one who'd pay for it of all of her humpty-dumpties.

Sometimes things happen in the heat of the moment NIP. No, obviously I didn't use the protection because I am even worried and asking this question to the forum.



There is a lot of stupidity in this post. "Mindlessly buy"? Babies can be created from precum... and let's just say judging on how excited I was, I may have been pushing this precum down the tubes as to how far I was going.

Ego boost of the year though, "you're a lot bigger!"



It was very nice advice you were giving but I kind of have to agree with this comment (except for not coming and knowing it's not mine.. precum could get her pregnant). Oh you are probably right because at the time she definitely didn't care at all.

Believe me I don't think with my dick. In those two years without her, I've had sex... three times although one of those shouldn't really count.

Yeah that's the thing...she has slept around with a bunch of guys and to put it on me is pretty ridiculous on precum alone.



Haha thank you. I am shocked how many people on here say it can't happen.



Thanks.

Science, dude. Did you just whack off before jumping her, and not piss?

THERE IS NO SPERM IN PRECUM. Scientific fact. There has to be sperm in your eurethra that can get caught up into the precum.

If you did not ejaculate right before and not piss, THERE WAS NO SPERM IN YOUR PRECUM.

Talk about stupidity. No fucking wonder so many men are so incredibly easy to trap. "Oh, there's sperm in precum! You really can get pregnant that way, if you're REALLY SEXUALLY EXCITED!"

No, you can't. Doesn't matter how excited you were. You had to have ejaculated WITHOUT having urinated in between. That is science, and it's easily verifiable with a little looking on actual medical sites.

This was a nice post however. Really nailed it on the head how I feel.

Her excuse was that she forgot how I felt :S

What makes you so sure Sandi_T that you can't get pregnant from precum?

Also everyone, stop saying to man up and deal with the baby, she will without a doubt abort it and she will put it on my conscious that it was my baby she aborted.

Pretty fucked up, no?

You can only get her pregnant that way if you hadn't pissed since the last time you got off.

Urine flushes your eurethra. If you just whacked off before you had sex with her, then it's remotely possible... but if you hadn't ejaculated within a few hours and not urinated, then you couldn't have.

Precum does NOT CONTAIN SPERM. The "pregnant by precum" business is sperm from a previous recent ejaculation not cleaned out by urine that got caught up in the precum.

Technically, there is thus sperm in the precum, but it's a stow-away, NOT a part of precum.

Look up "precum is made in cowper gland".

It's not made in the same way that ejaculate is made. It only carries sperm if you haven't urinated since ejaculating.

Last Edited by Sandi_T on 03/13/2012 10:34 PM

I would have got to her place around 10/11 that night and we didn't actually go to bed until 4/5ish. I highly doubt I didn't pee while I was there.

So whenever I came last, if I peed between that time and having sex with her, it wouldn't be mine is what you are saying?