Some people habitually take refuge in weakness, sentimentality and over-sensitivity, and what a bad habit that is! | |
Dease
User ID: 1505901 United States 08/21/2012 04:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Some people habitually take refuge in weakness, sentimentality and over-sensitivity, and what a bad habit that is! "Some people habitually take refuge in weakness, sentimentality and over-sensitivity, and what a bad habit that is! At the slightest annoyance, rather than reacting by immediately bringing thinking and reasoning to bear, they adopt a passive attitude, whining and waiting for others to come and feel sorry for them and console them - 'Oh, how sad. I do understand!' That is what they want to hear, and then they feel twice as sorry for themselves. It's like children, when they fall over and start crying. If you say, 'Oh, darling, you've hurt yourself, you're suffering,' their crying will become twice as loud. But say to them, 'Look, it's not serious, there's nothing wrong with you,' and they stop; they dry their tears and go back to their games. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22339955 But so many adults are just like children! They react to the slightest thing with endless complaints. And others, in their ignorance and thinking they're acting for the best, spend hours listening to them, trying to make them feel better. But what is the point of it all? When you want to help humans, you have to do it intelligently, you even have to shake them occasionally; otherwise you further encourage their weaknesses. " I think there's a big difference in sentimentality, and weakness. I consider myself to be a sentimental person, in the sense that I put a great deal of value on relationships,expereinces, and great memories in life. I love connecting with those I love on a deep emotional level. I am affectionate with my husband and daughter. I never let a day go by without hugging them and saying "I love you". A song with personal meaning can bring tears to my eyes, etc. While my sensitivity is a part of who I am, it does not define me, or make me weak. I am strong, and am a hard worker. I take care of my family, and handle stress well. I have learned over time to roll with the punches, and not get too upset over something that goes wrong. Things are almost never as bad as they seem. With that being said, I consider my sensitivty and sentimentality a strength. Women especilaly are supposed to be the gentler (notice I said "gentler", not less than) sex in order to be emotionally in tune with their children. Last Edited by Dease on 08/21/2012 04:20 AM "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you." - Matthew 22: 37-39 "What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul? Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul?" - Galatians 5: 22-23 |