What do men seek in woman?

Maybe if they did not "settle" they would find someone who they would not end up in divorce. I guess that is why I want to know. Most men I know go after the "hottie", I have seen them marry them and than the "hottie", seems to me is an attention ho and starts running around. Now if dude had not settled and found an regular down to Earth gal than he could of had a very loving and trusting relationship that would keep him happy. Or is that old school?

I can't speak for all men but I did not focus on the beauty and I made sure first about the personality, character and morals.
Maybe its because I was looking for a long term relationship, a wife.

You get some hot beautiful women and more often than not, they think they are too good for any man.

It is women who mostly focus on looks and I dont mean the mans looks.
Their own looks. It is most important to them.
They fill their women's mags with beauty, weight loss, cosmetic sugary articles.
They obsessive about themselves and how they appear.
Then they get anorexia nervosa or some other eating disorder.


For men looking for a wife.
They what faithful, loyal and good sense of humor.
Not someone who is going to try and control what they do, which friends they can have and cant have, what they can wear, when they can go out.... etc.

Yes women just love to control everything they can about
the man in their life.


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well, I am old enough that there are things sagging :)
I am 43

43 is nothing, you're gen X for cripes sakes! Be proud.

Height/weight proportionate?

Joking...

But seriously, maybe if they weren't so shallow minded and sought out the inside beauty, they'd be able to have a lasting marriage/relationship.
But so many men would rather have some hottie with the "perfect" body but no class, heart, intelligence...than have a woman who might not have that model looking body, but they have character, personality, brains and a whole lotta love to give.

Oh, touche new friend!

I guess what I'm thinking is something like, "If the car is just going to break down in a few years and I'll be forced to find another one regardless, I might as well get that sports car I've always wanted and enjoy it while I can. What's the point in driving a station wagon if it's just gonna be gone in the same amount of time."

Probably more an issue of them not really thinking it through all the way and seeing the bigger picture you've just described.

That said, I've been in long term relationships with women of all age gaps, sizes and intelligence levels. They ALL ended up cheating or running around.

So, that leaves even me, at the late stage of the game asking a similar question, "If the drama and stress was pretty much the same across the board, then why would I settle for something I don't want?"

Admittedly, I tend to prefer younger women for the sole reason of, in my experience, women over 30 DEMAND I waste at least a year proving I'm not their ex before they'll even BEGIN to open up and show ME if THEY are something that I would want to spend my life with.

43 and feel 93 :)

5'1" never ask a woman her weight but I will tell you it's not proprtiante
brown/blonde hair
green eyes
little weird looking feet
want to know where my moles and tat's are

Sorry mia, couldn't help it.

I give a big "TOUCHE!" to you too, friend.

I see cut of your jib and you have a great point. Frankly, I can't be with an unintelligent woman ... been there, done that ... was the most annoying years of my life!

A year??? Gosh, I would guess maybe a month you could determine what type of man/woman you are dealing with by just doing real life things but than again I have been out of the dating scene for close to 10 years.

Last Edited by miabelieves on 12/27/2012 02:59 AM

Weird looking feet is highly subjective. Let me ask: High arches? No hammer toes? Consistent skin tone throughout without any weird red shiny spots?


Moles are ok, tats can be a problem though. I'd need more details on those to assess further.

you are freaking cracking me up...
feet...ummm..they are short and stubby...itty bitty toes...not high arch, I don't think....yeah skin tone looks normal o weird things on them...feet are just strange looking
if you have issues with tats we are screwed. I have 5 all to do with my son

LOL, I was exaggerating a bit to make the point. But still, I'm not far off the mark with that one. It seems that most women in my age group are pretty bitter over their ex-husband/baby-daddy/abusive ex-boyfriend or whatever and are more focused on what they don't want than what they do want.

Just look at some women's dating profiles sometimes on a dating site ... it's just a long list of demands. Very few offer anything about themselves or speak of what they have to offer.

It's rather heartbreaking and seems like a lost cause at times.

and what's so sad is so many are longing for love and to be loved.
I see so many of my friends that desire a relationship and yet they all sit home alone.
It's really sad.

Okay, you are talking about the young generation. Heck I am wondering about mine. The older ones 43 and up.



dude. I married a woman of your generation...looking forward to the divorce next month. such a fucked in between situation you have going on there...I totally understand it and how fucked it is...It seems you guys were promised something that didn't exist...like your parents but worse. You were promised the golden era without having to be parents. you could be professionals and let the state or fucking montessori raise your kids for you. DINKs but not DINKs. You can't have it all, sorry.

BTW, I married one of you. Thanks for ruining my daughter's life and mine.

W00t!

Case in point about the bitterness I was talking about.

dude. I married a woman of your generation...looking forward to the divorce next month. such a fucked in between situation you have going on there...I totally understand it and how fucked it is...It seems you guys were promised something that didn't exist...like your parents but worse. You were promised the golden era without having to be parents. you could be professionals and let the state or fucking montessori raise your kids for you. DINKs but not DINKs. You can't have it all, sorry.

BTW, I married one of you. Thanks for ruining my daughter's life and mine.

W00t!


sorry to hear that. I honestly didn't understand most your post but I got she stepped out on you. DINK, not sure what that is. Most of all I am sorry your daughter life was ruined.

Great sex
Stimulating conversation
playful laughter
being supportive
fidelity

No, no, no!

Whiskey, Rum, Vodka.

Get it right.

Zeno, now see what you got started. Bunch of drunks coming to the thread...next it will be those pot heads :)

I date american women, but I would NEVER marry one.
American women know how to be dates and girlfriends,
but they don't know how to be wives. They are at the
bottom of the list. That's why there's not sites for
American mailorder brides. Foreign men don't want them.
American men are wising up.

what do you expect of a wife??

Can't argue a bit on that one. Buck the Fitches.

Value and Possibility of Reproduction! Nothing else. Enlightenment is not bound to any thing, or anyone. On teh contrary it may get in the way of your "alone" journey to the stars.

to be a partner, helper, lover, equal
then man protects and is Head of the family
so what's your point???

The barrier is that if you give your all to a woman and family you can't give your all to the devine which is case sensitive meaning you can attain to the devine ONLY when you give your all to it, with a deep devotion. Hence why no master has ever been in a relationship with a woman, a social and personal commitment.

How about a little fairness?
For one, you can't say that literally every woman in America, is not marriage material.
And second, what about American men? I guess they all
have good husband qualities, right?

Ask my dad who makes the better wife...the American or the foreigner.
He and my mom were married for 32 or 33 yrs.
They both mutually called it quits and got a divorce.
A couple years later, my dad married a woman from the Philippines and he has never been more miserable in his life.
When he was married to my mom...who is american btw, she stayed home until all us kids were grown, she cooked everyday for 30 plus years...usually twice a day, sometimes 3 times,
raised 6 kids, never cheated on him...she stood by him..in good times and bad and never asked for anything materialistic for herself. All she did was give give give...taking care of her husband and family.
Now, my dad's filipino wife does not cook...will not sleep in the same bed with him (I know this because he tells me mom everything), cleans out his bank account all the time, insults his family, insults him...puts him down, tells him he is not good enough.
Btw, he and my mom have remained close friends since they got divorced.
So you tell me, who is the better wife?