What do men seek in woman?

I was the June Cleaver in a bikini. Like the poster described a few posts before me.... stayed home, raised great kids, took care of the house, cooked, cleaned, etc. After 17 years of marriage he dumped me for a woman who treats him like dirt. Go figure. My dating experiences of the last 6 years are laughable (now). I have decided to give up dating and remain single. This is a very interesting thread. Maybe I can gain a little insight into the male mind too.

Sorry to hear.

I think it's important to find a partner that will uphold a promise, no matter the cost. I will quote a friend of mine, "To love is to pay the cost."

Someone who would never take another person's heart, another person's time, for granted. These types of qualities are another aspect of having good character and morals, which is the most important thing. Inner beauty is so much more attractive than skin beauty.

amazing thread..restored my faith. i find it hard to meet guys for a lot of the same reasons that you listed. my early thirties has crept up on me , i had a relationship that didnt work and for the last three years I have been single apart from holiday romance with someone much younger. i live in rural place and i have been traveling the world to remote places so it is no wonder really I have not met any one closer to my age in a long while. It is good to read this thread about what men seek in a woman. really cool. thanks everyone :)

What I have.


I wish I could multiply it, yet women cant seem to get along with other women.

i am actually going to really pay attention to the things you have said too. I love working out and i want to push to a higher level with that. i think everything else is in order so i will just keep on smiling , working hard, learning, having fun and adventure in the mean time.

I like someone with the following qualities

Patient, very important
Forgiving - able to move on, does not hold grudges, does not act like a suck
loving and supportive
sense of humour
no drugs
slow temper
nice butt
long hair
good hygiene
smart - at least reasonably
not vapid or fake
not a ballbuster
family minded
employed or had a career in the past
has outside interests
doesn't cheat

Now for what I usually end up with ( After it appears at the beginning that they have most of what I'm looking for)

headcase
quick tempered
impatient
nuts - seriously
reduction in hygiene, looking presentable - more the "comfortable look"
act like a suck
ballbuster

haha!

I see lots of men who says this and again it is mostly the "beauty queen"

It is sad to know both men/woman are indeed searching for a relationship yet can't seem to find the other.

On both sides we have the peeps that has ruined it for all the others.

OH well, can't do nothing about it.

Surprised this thread is still going.

I'm a male married to a woman the OP's age that's just the type I wanted.


Fidelity. If we've agreed to be exclusive, we're exclusive.

Intelligent. Can't have a boring woman.

Attractive. The supermodel thing is interesting for maybe five minutes; real attractiveness is something many more women have than realize it. Too many cover up natural beauty with makeup. If I tell you you're beautiful take the compliment as genuine no matter how fat you think you are.

Accepting. I don't need to be changed. The old line is that women want to change their man and men want their woman to stay the same, but women change and men don't. And should I choose to change do support me in it.

Real. No fake tits or facelifts or botox or any of that shit. Now if you have a prosthesis or reconstructive surgery that's different but straight up cosmetic is offputting.

Shared interests. Whatever they are. Pets, sports, exercise, birdfeeding, science, sexual proclivities, doom, drugs, etc.

Sexuality. Through any other life bullshit damaging the relationship or the individuals in it, a healthy sex life renews the bond between a man and woman and provides the couple the strength together to get through it.


And to sound like a total bastard but truthful guys out there will agree, a woman's enjoyment of and enthusiatic attitude towards sex is much more than 51% of it. A shared great time in the sack (or effort towards having one) more than makes up for any lack of cooking, cleaning, laundry or any other slaved-over aspect of 1950s domesticity. Frigidity is a deal-killer unless you're looking for some metrosexual limpwrist to trade makeup tips with. I don't think I could be with a woman unable to orgasm.

Last Edited by ten of wands on 12/27/2012 04:14 PM

A wide bite

Your last paragraph had me laughing. The part I highlighted, I can relate, I have had people compliment me and all I think is "yeah, what do you want from me". Love the fact you like natural no make up. I hate make up. I pretty sure a man invented :)

Last Edited by miabelieves on 12/27/2012 04:19 PM

Make up TASTES BAD and gets in the way, thankyouverymuch.

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I invade your life. learn about you. find flaws limit your options and try to get you under me. Not women this is most guys here

Anus

Actually men are more forgiving about looks than women are for sure. You can easily prove this by looking at Orientals because oriental women are considered quite attractive to men where as oriental men are not too women. Hell that two headed woman even has two boyfriends where as if there was a two headed man He would spend the rest of His days alone.

a feeling where you know them. Yet, bone cartilage will make or break your chances.

Funny because My EX did gain 50 pounds and She was the one whom went out and cheated. I confronted Her about Her actions and I asked Her did She even think what that would do to Her daughter and Her only response was She just wanted to be happy. I was willing to go through a boring relationship for My daughters sake but She couldn't do it which goes to show Your opinion sucks.

To answer OP's question.

I look for beautiful, brainy and accomplished women.

No woman wants to live under a bridge and no man wants to live with a woman who'd put him under a bridge.



So what if a woman takes half of your stuff? If you really loved her, you'd give her the house, the car and all your stuff.

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You're not a female, you lying sack of filth.

They want someone who spoils them and treats them like a king. Most men aren't king material, just like most women aren't queen material. Both are way too selfish to make real sacrifices for the other.
Yall need to get a grip and go back to HONORING EACH OTHER! RESPECT EACH OTHER! LOVE EACH OTHER!
But, you dont even know how to do that. Why? Again, selfishness!

A woman that is not on social media, constantly staring into her smart phone or posting selfies all day long.

Take the smart phones away from women and life can go back to normal.

I am still looking for the right woman. I'm turning 33 in 2 days.

I want someone who accepts me for who I am.

I won't date a woman who is on social media or has too many friends. Yes, it is possible to have too many friends.

Add exercise freak to the above too. If your life is the gym/cross fit/insert other trendy fitness fad here....no thanks.

If a man does not have money to secure a woman's future the he is out of luck. Money in love. Without money there is no love.

Any guy that stops giving his woman money will find very shortly that she does not love him.

Whores they are all whores.

The only real important question is why do females feel entitled to misrepresent themselves to fool a male into supporting them and their spawn.

The only honest complaint from the estrogen toxic is that its too hard and too unfair for most to actually find a sucker to hand over free money and put up with the generally childish and illogical desires for endless uncompensated support.

There's no question of the profession, the only real variable is the price.

The very first thing in a relationship is the female doing all she can to change the the terms of the 'deal'.

The attraction to beauty is primal. So hard to overlook it. It’s like a magnet, snap your neck to have a look. Devouring with the eyes. So hard to ignore.

But the soul is important too. Just that some women make such an effort to be ugly because they want to be seen for who they are (soul) not what they have (body). It doesn’t help you one bit.

You want a shallow man or no? If no then don’t measure men based on the ones who are shallow and only respond to beauty. There are men whose eyes can penetrate much deeper. But here is the thing you can think about, the deeper you can understand this the better:

The essence of beauty is feminine energy. Femininity is the essence of why beauty is so attractive. (And Purity is always superior to beauty, but that’s a side note) .

So if you want a man with depth to notice you, you still must make yourself attractive to him. Not by changin what you have but by giving it the best expression. If you do frizzled hair and shabby clothes it’s 100% your fault that you don’t get attention. If you want to catch the attention of a shallow man who doesn’t see past skin deep, it’s your contradictory desires.

So much of beauty is: feminine presentation and subliminal seduction.

If you’re not gonna do any of that then get real. You’re not going to attract a man you consider worthy. You’ll attract someone who...likes plain ugliness? Usually a man with no sense of self-worth.

And the secret to influencing your man is not whining and complaining and playing a damsel in distress. Not every man has a hero complex. You just need to figure what IS his complex and (the most important point) MAKE HIM FEEL REAL AS HIS IDEAL.

that doesn’t mean lying to him though some role playing can help move the process along. It’s encouraging him to live as the man actually wants to be (not what society wants him to be or what his parents tried to mold him into or even your own projection of the ideal man).

And if who he wants to be is not a man you find attractive, you need to let it go. It will never work, you’ll only drag each other down into emotional and spiritual hell.

It should actually be very easy for you if you see that men are rather simple. Woman are inherently desirable. Just by being a woman, just for the sake of feminine energy, that’s enough. Only make sure to reveal yourself slowly so the intoxicating seduction seems to last forever.

When he can no longer hold himself back from you, he’s yours.