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How to get people to respect boundaries you set?

 
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02/06/2013 10:05 PM
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How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
I live with a relative, and although I hope to move out as soon as possible, in the meantime I have to deal with them. They scream and yell and make repetitive noises. They repeat stuff they heard on TV a lot, like lines from movies. I think it could be anxiety or stress related, since they have been trying to get a job.

They also come in my room and mess with my stuff when I am there. I tell them not to, but it doesn't seem to sink in. Occasionally I have yelled at them and it makes them stop for a while, but they start up again after a while. The person claims they can't help the yelling and screaming (which is bullshit) and laughs like it's not a big deal.

How can I get this person to shut up and quit messing with my stuff? They don't respect my opinions or feelings as a person, obviously. I have to go to the library to study, I can't meditate when they are home.
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02/06/2013 10:06 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
threaten them with physical violence.....always works
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02/06/2013 10:13 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
I don't want to get into a fight. Maybe I should ask them what problem they have with me? The more I think about it, the more I think they are passively-aggressively expressing some sort of resentment. Anyone dealt with something like this?
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02/06/2013 10:13 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
I don't want to get into a fight. Maybe I should ask them what problem they have with me? The more I think about it, the more I think they are passively-aggressively expressing some sort of resentment. Anyone dealt with something like this?
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02/06/2013 10:27 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
they are probably extremely narcissistic as well as have tourettes
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02/06/2013 10:33 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Kick um square in the ass with a steel toes boot. Works every time.
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02/06/2013 10:38 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
I don't want to get into a fight. Maybe I should ask them what problem they have with me? The more I think about it, the more I think they are passively-aggressively expressing some sort of resentment. Anyone dealt with something like this?
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02/06/2013 10:39 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Shoot them in the knees. That'll send a message.
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02/06/2013 10:52 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
I live with a relative, and although I hope to move out as soon as possible, in the meantime I have to deal with them. They scream and yell and make repetitive noises. They repeat stuff they heard on TV a lot, like lines from movies. I think it could be anxiety or stress related, since they have been trying to get a job.

They also come in my room and mess with my stuff when I am there. I tell them not to, but it doesn't seem to sink in. Occasionally I have yelled at them and it makes them stop for a while, but they start up again after a while. The person claims they can't help the yelling and screaming (which is bullshit) and laughs like it's not a big deal.

How can I get this person to shut up and quit messing with my stuff? They don't respect my opinions or feelings as a person, obviously. I have to go to the library to study, I can't meditate when they are home.
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order a cattle prod from amazon retard.
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02/06/2013 11:12 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Hi OP,

You are asking a legitimate question and all you got (mostly) is mean answers, sorry. Without knowing why you are in this situation, I would have to say, if you are living with people that do not respect your boundaries, you really don't have any option but to move. In the meantime, try installing a lock for the door and buy a white noise machine (waves crashing on the shore etc) for sanity. Good luck! hf
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02/06/2013 11:36 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Since you are a guest and it’s not your house, how about you suck it up or man up and move the fuck out sunshine.
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02/06/2013 11:37 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Have you ever considered moving?
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02/06/2013 11:44 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Move dumbass. Nobody likes a whiner.
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02/06/2013 11:48 PM

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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
Invest in a set of headphones...

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02/06/2013 11:51 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
As you move through the house, throw punches with your hands in front of you, whilst kicking high kicks.

If they get hit, it's their fault for breaching your personal space.

For every lame quote they give you from a TV show, do the same, but from "I didnt know I was pregnant" or "1000 ways to die" and the like.

Play death metal in your room, and when they knock at the door. Shut it off and only open the door about 1/4 inch and just stare at them.

Place a sign on your door stating "leave food" and knock.

- or, just put up with it until you can move out. I dare say they are doing this to help you out?
Useless Cookie Eater

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02/06/2013 11:52 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
I live with a relative, and although I hope to move out as soon as possible, in the meantime I have to deal with them. They scream and yell and make repetitive noises. They repeat stuff they heard on TV a lot, like lines from movies. I think it could be anxiety or stress related, since they have been trying to get a job.

They also come in my room and mess with my stuff when I am there. I tell them not to, but it doesn't seem to sink in. Occasionally I have yelled at them and it makes them stop for a while, but they start up again after a while. The person claims they can't help the yelling and screaming (which is bullshit) and laughs like it's not a big deal.

How can I get this person to shut up and quit messing with my stuff? They don't respect my opinions or feelings as a person, obviously. I have to go to the library to study, I can't meditate when they are home.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19453323


You are living with someone who has mental issues.

GET OUT.
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02/06/2013 11:54 PM
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Re: How to get people to respect boundaries you set?
sleep with them, that always works.





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