seek these relations with the Divine only after they have had the most bitter & disappointing experiences in their search for human relationships

The Mother from April 25, 1956, From The Mother: Questions and Answers 1956, page 121:
But here too, if one wants to have this experience [of a relationship with the Divine], one must not seek in life among men for these relationships, because if one seeks them in the ordinary life, as ordinary relationships, one becomes incapable of feeling them exactly as the Divine can give them. And usually, most people, even those who have a living soul, seek these relations with the Divine only after they have had the most bitter and disappointing experiences in their search for human relationships.
This makes them lose much time and wastes a lot of energy. And usually, they are already quite worn out and spent when they reach the state in which they are capable of having these relations in all their splendour with the divine Presence.
That means much time lost and much wastage of energy; but, it would seem that very few people can go straight avoiding all these roundabout ways. Mostly, when they are told that there is a divine Joy and a divine Plenitude which far surpass all they can imagine in ordinary life, they don't believe it; and, to believe it they must have, as I said, goes through a painful experience of all that is false, deceptive, and disappointing in ordinary relationships.
It is said that example is the best teacher, but, in fact, there are very few who care to follow an example -- especially when the examples are a little too far beyond them. They all want to have their own experience -- they have the right to it, but that makes the path interminable.

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