Family member imposing on your home what to do???

If you were lucky enough to sucker a family member into letting you move in with them so you could get back on your feet would you constantly hide in your bedroom to play CoD on your xbox, only take on a part time job, and go out a handful of times drinking in a months period and still expect to have a place to live?

I feel like such a tool thinking everyone is like me. I would never impose on someone else's family, thinking I could live there indefinitely, while eating all the ready made food in the house rather than the home cooked meals that they went out of their way to buy extra of and not come out of my room for the meals.

I would never go out repeatedly to drink and go to the movies while someone else is footing the bill for my room and board. The one time my cousin gave me money, he then turned around and stole it out of my wallet and then acted like he didnt do it. Like money just walks out of my wallet when I havent even left the house for the day...

The crappy part is he is family and I hate being the bad guy, but I also hate being walked all over and taken advantage of. I hate playing the martyr, and I also despise being lied to.

I dont know how to tell him to GTFO, nicely. He is 22 years old. I have 2 kids and we are living on a fixed income. It may be nicer than what he makes, but we havent had a 3rd child for a reason. We cant afford it!

What would you do in my situation? I'm quickly learning I cant be captain save-a-hoe. Im at the end of my rope. When he moved in he didnt have a car, and was constantly taking one of ours which left me with no vehicle to even be able to take my kids to and from school. When he had enough saved up I literally forced him to get one, which he was resentful of. WTF!? He can NOT be my basement child!

If you were lucky enough to sucker a family member into letting you move in with them so you could get back on your feet would you constantly hide in your bedroom to play CoD on your xbox, only take on a part time job, and go out a handful of times drinking in a months period and still expect to have a place to live?

I feel like such a tool thinking everyone is like me. I would never impose on someone else's family, thinking I could live there indefinitely, while eating all the ready made food in the house rather than the home cooked meals that they went out of their way to buy extra of and not come out of my room for the meals.

I would never go out repeatedly to drink and go to the movies while someone else is footing the bill for my room and board. The one time my cousin gave me money, he then turned around and stole it out of my wallet and then acted like he didnt do it. Like money just walks out of my wallet when I havent even left the house for the day...

The crappy part is he is family and I hate being the bad guy, but I also hate being walked all over and taken advantage of. I hate playing the martyr, and I also despise being lied to.

I dont know how to tell him to GTFO, nicely. He is 22 years old. I have 2 kids and we are living on a fixed income. It may be nicer than what he makes, but we havent had a 3rd child for a reason. We cant afford it!

What would you do in my situation? I'm quickly learning I cant be captain save-a-hoe. Im at the end of my rope. When he moved in he didnt have a car, and was constantly taking one of ours which left me with no vehicle to even be able to take my kids to and from school. When he had enough saved up I literally forced him to get one, which he was resentful of. WTF!? He can NOT be my basement child!

Awe I am so sorry you are going through that. The only expectations I have of my cousin is the desire to want better for himself. If he was going to school, or even actively trying to better his situation I would be feeling the way I do. I am not the first family member he has done this too. I wasn't aware of his situation before, but he did this to his younger sister for six months before she lied and said she was getting evicted just to get him out. But back then he didn't even have a part time job or a car. Now hopefully he will feel a little more confident about branching out on his own.

Thank you for letting me vent. I needed to get it out there so I could see the situation myself. For a few weeks I was wondering if I was being unreasonable in my expectations, but now seeing it on paper (figuratively) I see than I am being a little too nice. I have thrown hints out, and have even found him the job he has now. I have gotten him to get himself a vehicle. Now I just need to give him the push to grow up and get out. I just dont know how to word it nicely. I have a habit of either being too nice, or way too firm. There is no in between when it comes to my tone of voice.

honestly I've listened all your responses and I can't believe how horrible your families are I wouldn't put up with that s*** for 2 freaking seconds if anybody my family ever tried to pull some s*** like that i would have thrown them out in the street within 10 freaking seconds man that kids a piece of s*** and needs to go you got bills to pay you got a family to raise.this adult man is 24 years old you need to get him the f*** out and tell the moocher to get a job when I was 21 years old I join the military never looked back since then I have my own house my own family... tell that spoiled little game plane f***** to go out and get a job or f****** and drop him off at a homeless shelter and leave me the f*** alone you don't have responsibility to help extended family you only have responsibility to help your immediant family..
If you were lucky enough to sucker a family member into letting you move in with them so you could get back on your feet would you constantly hide in your bedroom to play CoD on your xbox, only take on a part time job, and go out a handful of times drinking in a months period and still expect to have a place to live?

I feel like such a tool thinking everyone is like me. I would never impose on someone else's family, thinking I could live there indefinitely, while eating all the ready made food in the house rather than the home cooked meals that they went out of their way to buy extra of and not come out of my room for the meals.

I would never go out repeatedly to drink and go to the movies while someone else is footing the bill for my room and board. The one time my cousin gave me money, he then turned around and stole it out of my wallet and then acted like he didnt do it. Like money just walks out of my wallet when I havent even left the house for the day...

The crappy part is he is family and I hate being the bad guy, but I also hate being walked all over and taken advantage of. I hate playing the martyr, and I also despise being lied to.

I dont know how to tell him to GTFO, nicely. He is 22 years old. I have 2 kids and we are living on a fixed income. It may be nicer than what he makes, but we havent had a 3rd child for a reason. We cant afford it!

What would you do in my situation? I'm quickly learning I cant be captain save-a-hoe. Im at the end of my rope. When he moved in he didnt have a car, and was constantly taking one of ours which left me with no vehicle to even be able to take my kids to and from school. When he had enough saved up I literally forced him to get one, which he was resentful of. WTF!? He can NOT be my basement child!