Discouraged after move to Tampa, Florida. Need creative job.

one thing about Tampa, the women are all Ratchet as fuck. Stay away. Just pump your scum and move on. Ain't none of these hoes worth more than that.

Hi OP.
I met my wife here a few years back. I moved here in 2004 from the mid-northern states. We enjoy it. I live right in Tampa by USF.
I have seen the ups and downs but its coming back believe it or not. Have faith and keep your chin up.
It's a great place..

coming from the ghetto side I presume

to each his own

Sounds like you need to give it a bit more time.

Imagine what you want, visualize it, stay positive, often things come to you in that way :)

GOOD LUCK!

:smiledaisy:

All sides. Trust me. Been to Land O lakes, Seffner, riverview...etc..they are all like. Everybody sleeps with friends these days while they are sleeping with you. No Joke.

St. Augustine - excellente.

Now you're talking my language! :) I believe that...it's just everything has been clicking for me since I had a spiritual Awakening in March...but it hasn't been after getting here. Which is where I "needed to be". It will come, right? I know I'm meant to be here.

My first few experiences here, oddly enough, were that I'd seen the people/places before. I can't tell you how many times I've met people here that I find myself going, "I know this person from somewhere..." Not in a spiritual sense, but in a literal, physical sense. I've SEEN them before. Happened more than half-a-dozen times already. Thank you!

I've seen on craigslist that quite a few people are asking for help writing papers...I could definitely do that. I wrote all of my brother's papers (or rewrote them) while he was in high school and college. So why not? Great idea.

Hahaha. You so funny!!

She is pretty hot, I must say.

I know there are a lot of artists that say this, but it's the truth - I do. I was born an artist. Because of it, every time I get a regular job I want to shoot myself in the face. It's so against my natural state to do anything but be creative. I could work 12-hour days in a creative space...7 days a week.

I've seen on craigslist that quite a few people are asking for help writing papers...I could definitely do that. I wrote all of my brother's papers (or rewrote them) while he was in high school and college. So why not? Great idea.

That's not exactly a good long term plan is it?
That sounds more like something to do part time. I don't know man. I live close and Tampa is the least likely place I would ever want to start over at.
Nice to visit Clearwater though right across the bridge.
Good luck

You're so great to me, Sloane. And you're right. I never had anxiety out west...but here, because I want it to happen so quickly, I do. Thank you again.

Yeah, I've been there a few times already. GORGEOUS! I'm actually up in Palm Harbor...

Palm Harbor is nice. Right up the "screet" from where I am. A few miles from the Pinellas line. Pinellas and Clearwater in particular is pretty and less congested. I go over there when I want to "get away". Also, I'm a 'thrifter' and there is a lot to work from over in that area.

Ever been to Safety Harbor? I love it there. It's like a "Pleasantville", a world of its own. Not even a grocery store in that town. It's like it's being saved from the world.

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Well if TSHTF then we should all travel together. :) Haha.

Safety Harbor (con't) heh. They have all kinds of activities there - artsy, little concerts and they have a calendar someone makes up with the activities for the month - even have a little produce stand by the pavillion. I struck up a conversation while there with a woman and she gave me one last year. (You didn't answer whether you had been there or not - so I'm just going on and on. Heh.)

Also, don't miss the little Greek restaurant on the main drag. Real Greeks and real Greek food. The dad/owner is the best cook of them all - makes an awesome Greek omelet with feta cheese, of course, spinach, tomatoes, onions, etc.

Ya' never can tell where you might meet the right connection, while enjoying oneself at the same time. Maybe your girlfriend knows of this little laid back place.

Peace.

I am an old married guy. Married 15 years, no divorce, raising kids. I'm no ladies' man but I have some sense of relationships apparently.

And I know that feeling of young or early love, it lasts a year or two typically for a guy, maybe up until the woman threatens divorce around year 7 ...

And the woman who put quotes around "amazing woman" is more objective in some way than you are. You have not yet learned the character flaws of women. But one of them is staring you in the face.

That flaw is that your "amazing woman", after a week and a half of your not providing her an income, is ready to leave you.

Think about that. Repeat it to yourself 10 times in a row. It's not an unfair statement. It is the truth.

I would advise you to read some "red pill" "pua" "mgtow" sort of sites. Maybe this happened to you with your ex. Shit like that happens to guys all the time. Not saying all girls are like that, but the woman who responded to you probably saw that and knew the type, because women know women. That's why they aren't so impressed by each other.

Don't be a slave to your ex, and don't panic because of her. The most important thing you can do is to tell her that she's free to leave because you don't have money, but then you never want to see or hear from her again. Like a divorce, thankfully before she too can demand money from you.

As for Tampa, I have no specific knowledge. I used to think it would be the best place in the world to live and wished I had had a chance to live there. If you like it there, stay! And good luck finding a job that works for you. Not you and her, just you. If she wants money, she can find a job and you can both chip in on expenses so you can be together.

may I suggest meth lab operator hear its a growth industry up there.

I meant "don't be a slave to your new gf" not "don't be a slave to your ex". Though they're both good advice. Acting slavelike to a woman is never right. It will always hurt you and will not get you what you want from her.

In this case it will not get your new gf to stick around, which you so desperately want. She will only stick around if she's attracted to you. If she's never attracted to you but marries you because you will provide for her, you are looking at a miserable life and a future divorce. Best to flush that sort away asap.

I was born and raised in Tampa and recently moved to Texas. Go to the Ybor district on 7th ave. there's a really diverse artistic area for you to start looking.

Good Luck!!!

I appreciate the time you took to respond but you didn't even understand my post whatsoever. Never said shit about her leaving me. Ever. The only pressure I'm feeling is coming from ME. And your take on "women" (putting quotes around that because you didn't likely date/marry a real woman) is negative...so I have to dismiss it as either a bad experience or a series of poor choices.

Okay, rereading it I did make an error in writing - when I said she "wants to leave", I meant her job.

Hang in there. Things will fall in place soon.

What are your skills? By that I mean, make a list from 1 to 12, where your most expertise skill is 1, to your least expertise skill is 12.

LinkedIn

Yeah, I don't do LINKDN or any of those other websites like that.

I was transferred to the area in '08 from Madison, WI and enjoyed it at first since we were very avid boaters and lived in Terra Ceia. Seemed like paradise. As time went on the honeymoon waned and we slowly started to hate FL. It is a miserably hot and stinky place where the middle class is diminishing at a much faster rate than anywhere else, pay sucks, crime is rampant, empty houses rot in the humidity, there are more closed storefronts than open ones, junk cars are all over like a disease on the highways... You will find this to be true after a few years at the most. We lasted for 3.5 years. Moving to Austin was like a night and day change - almost like moving back to the "old" US from a Third World country. We've been very happy here for 3 years now.

Are you the OP?

Nope. I live in Florida, make a great living, have a home in an orange grove, kids that ride dirt bikes, don't smoke, don't do drugs and don't have sex, and an air conditioner. So, Florida works for me, and I wanted to see if OP had some skills that I could use.