so get to know yourself better and take back control

for a hidden influence to parade as self, influencing from behind a veil is much easier if said self is largely unaware of itself

if self knows itself well the veil disappears and what is not self becomes clear and apparent

( sorry for the flagrant overuse of 'self' )

good luck

OP- couldn't agree more on your conclusion
but the end is a beginning and bitter , not a foregone conclusion
it's a choice

:-)