Hey GLP family, need some help. Girlfriend might be pregnant. UPDATE: confirmed! | |
Smithie
User ID: 51932746 Canada 12/27/2013 09:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are too broke to support a kid, so end this kid now before its born into poverty and then drug use and crime and prostitution. It's the most merciful thing you can do. Contact family planning asap. |
Jump Room 2012
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CharlieMurphy
(OP) User ID: 51015820 United States 12/27/2013 10:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Consider adopting the kid out. Quoting: goodmockingbird There are huge waiting lists of stable prosperous families that would desperately love to provide a home for a healthy white infant. Some people say you will magically and instantly become enthralled with the child once it is born. Maybe, maybe not. I have seen the hell unwanted kids go through when desperate young couples come up pregnant unexpectedly... And life just gets worse for all concerned. Adoption truly is THE loving, wise, and doable solution. Ha ha, Charlie is black. No, I am white Fuck Yea! |
BunBun
User ID: 47029633 United States 12/27/2013 10:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's not easy being a parent, but your children are the best thing that can ever happen to you. WIC is very helpful. If your girl can stay home, have her breastfeed. It is the best for the baby to be breastfed by mama. It's also far cheaper than formula. There are crisis pregnancy centers-NOT PLANNED PARENTHOOD, which is an abortion mill and nothing else. Find some Christian Pregnancy center as they will know what services are available in your area and will probably give you free pregnancy testing and free sonogram services. Christard and Lover of God |
CharlieMurphy
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CharlieMurphy
(OP) User ID: 51015820 United States 12/27/2013 10:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's not easy being a parent, but your children are the best thing that can ever happen to you. WIC is very helpful. If your girl can stay home, have her breastfeed. It is the best for the baby to be breastfed by mama. It's also far cheaper than formula. There are crisis pregnancy centers-NOT PLANNED PARENTHOOD, which is an abortion mill and nothing else. Find some Christian Pregnancy center as they will know what services are available in your area and will probably give you free pregnancy testing and free sonogram services. Quoting: BunBun Thank you, I had already considered going to Catholic charities for some help. Fuck Yea! |
Tampa Heather
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 47581945 United States 12/27/2013 10:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | [link to www.danvilleisprolife.com] I don't know if they are near you but maybe hey can give you referrals |
ar-15 nut
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CharlieMurphy
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Tampa Heather
User ID: 22057799 United States 12/27/2013 10:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you decide to have the baby it is important the mom rake pre natal vitamins, specifically folic acid to prevent birth defects. Check out the phone book for local health clinics or programs she may qualify for free care or sliding scale cost. WIC woman infant and child is a free national nutritional program for low income moms and babies. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 35179157 ^^good advice What doesn't kill me only makes me stronger... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 41155065 United States 12/27/2013 10:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are you stupid? Get your head out of your ass, you have a child on the way!! It's no longer about you or her, it's about what is best for the child(ren). The best thing is, get her to a dr immediately. Test... then when the test is positive, it is time for prenatal visits. You need medical insurance for that, unless you are rich enough to pay out of pocket, which I'm guessing you aren't. Then if she, the gf, should apply for ILMED, if you aren't going to marry her right away and apply health insurance or if she doesn't have it either. So... be a man and at least guide her. Second, apply for Illinois Medicaid here- She will qualify because she is pregnant and Illinois and most states will (rightfully so) not leave a pregnant mother behind. Apply. Go to initial interview and show up on time and be prepared to wait! [link to www.dhs.state.il.us] In the meantime, get a job, a GOOD job with health insurance and imo marry her. Your child and the child's wellbeing should ALWAYS come first and a child bodes better in a married family. Depending on where you live, this is the address of your local Lake Cty DHS (Illinois Medicaid, SNAP, TANF) office. 2000 N. Lewis Avenue, Suite 100 Waukegan, IL 60087 Phone: (847) 336-5212 or 1-800-843-6154 Seriously, having a child isn't glamourous or easy, no matter how the media portrays it. Be a man or be celibate! |
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Founders Fan
User ID: 49976326 United States 12/27/2013 10:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Can't your "family" help you out a little? I feel like I know you a little from here...you seem like a really decent guy and you know what's right and I'm sure you will do the right thing even if it's hard Last Edited by Founders Fan on 12/27/2013 11:00 PM If something can corrupt you, you're corrupted already. Bob Marley “The duty of a patriot is to protect his country from its government.” THOMAS PAINE (1737-1809) Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one. Bruce Lee |
Only Me
Strawberry Girl User ID: 49594258 United States 12/27/2013 11:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This. Goodbye, halcyon days... There is a theory which states that if ever anyone discovers exactly what the Universe is for and why it is here, it will instantly disappear and be replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable. There is another theory mentioned, which states that this has already happened. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 24490286 United States 12/27/2013 11:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marry her you dumbass and do your best to be a good father to your child and a good husband to your wife. In other words quit being a loser and turn your life into something positive for others instead of always thinking about yourself. |
erin136
User ID: 42054945 United States 12/27/2013 11:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Baby Mommy can bring in a whole lot more Free Stuff without Baby Daddy gumming up the works with Marriage'n'Shit Quoting: goodmockingbird She can get a place in da Projects, WIC, food stamps, Medicaid etc etc etc. Baby Daddy can visit. So can all the Youths on da Projects. Baby Daddy becomes obsolete. Baby can grow up in da Projects and learn to Count to Potato in da Public Schools. And grow up to make the same mistakes. Or the kid could have decent shot at life by way of adoption. Former social worker here, seen it thousands of times Absolutely ZERO magic goes on with unplanned welfare pregnancy. Lots of misery and wasted opportunity, that and not much else Wow negative much? Unfortunately you have seen the bad and obviously never the good. I am a proud person and was laid off with no insurance when I got pregnant with my daughter I cried when I applied for Medicaid but needed to get to a doctor. Before I had my daughter I had a new job and insurance. Me and my husband have a huge happy family and are currently self sufficient he works as do I and that is the only time I took any handouts. Btw canceling Medicaid is near impossible. My point is sometimes things dont turn out for the worse. We learn and are blessed with amazing things we never thought possible. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 52026744 United States 12/27/2013 11:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get the Plan B pill asap or get her an abortion quickly. Quoting: Smithie You are too broke to support a kid, so end this kid now before its born into poverty and then drug use and crime and prostitution. It's the most merciful thing you can do. Contact family planning asap. yea murder is the way. what about adoption, i was adopted instead of killed and my company supports over 70 families. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 51447904 United States 12/27/2013 11:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi. I got pregnant unexpectedly when our finances weren't really the best. I was on Medicaid, WIC. And, you know, I love my son. It's not a horrible life. We're still poor. We're still struggling. But all our needs are met and we have a loving family. If you can't consider adoption, I don't blame you. I could never do it either. And, I was adopted and had a very happy adoption. I'm about as pro-adoption as you can get. But, me, I could never do it. First, verify the pregnancy. You can get a test at the dollar tree. Then, have her apply for Medicaid and WIC. There may be other assistance programs that she qualifies for and the DSS office should be able to help you with that. Good luck. Settle down. Take a step at a time. You have several months before he or she arrives. |
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CharlieMurphy
(OP) User ID: 51015820 United States 12/27/2013 11:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Lots of good advice here, even if some of you are taking me to be some kind of deadbeat loser. I'm not, I'm just a little down on my luck lately. I will stay with her, I will marry her. I just needed some advice one where to start looking at things. I am a little overwhelmed and need some ideas from you all. Thank you GLP. Fuck Yea! |
green_girl
User ID: 51707097 Canada 12/28/2013 12:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | almost seems unfair, op, eh? Some people want a baby. They wait around for signs of morning sickness. Wait until the next day to rush out and pick up that pregnancy test - while other couples are anxiously praying the test comes back negative! It took me six years of trying to have my first child. Then i had a second. then there were months when i said "oh god - please not another one yet!" lol. Now my husband and i want one last one, but so far the test keep coming back negative. I dont think we get to pick when our children come to us. I think we just provide opportunities, and they arrive when they want to! if she is pregnant, congrats! if she isnt, congrats too i guess! :malefav: I love this place!! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 39047899 United States 12/28/2013 12:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Lots of good advice here, even if some of you are taking me to be some kind of deadbeat loser. I'm not, I'm just a little down on my luck lately. I will stay with her, I will marry her. I just needed some advice one where to start looking at things. I am a little overwhelmed and need some ideas from you all. Thank you GLP. Quoting: CharlieMurphy First of all you are putting the cart in front of the horse. Seems to me you need to find out for sure before even going where you are now.Go to the $1 stores and get a pregnancy test.At least you will know for sure or breath a sigh of relief...Never understood why people get in an uproar before they even know for sure. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 41155065 United States 12/28/2013 12:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I gave you phone numbers and addresses of the DHS in IL. They are the agency that provides ILMED (Medicaid insurance to people who are on welfare, can't afford insurance, or people who simply have no other option). Do not be afraid, ashamed or anything. The health and wellbeing of a baby is more important then pride. I had to use Medicaid once and I had a great experience. I have friends who have used Illinois Medicaid and they will never turn a pregnant woman away unless you financially sufficient to do so. Be thankful the Creator (Whomever you deem God to be) bestowed the gift of Life onto you. You are lucky. There are people all over the world, with lots of money, stability, everything, and they are infertile, and have failed attempt after attempt to try to have a baby with technology and cannot. I know this, because I work in Healthcare. You can do this. You have to be the strong one and you will be. Now go and do what a father should do and help, guide, and protect your family. God Bless! |
The eyes have it!
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