Need advice from men and women who are in a relationship..

No it isnt!!
I have checked this and it is real!
Yuck!
BS-You are no Xtian friend of mine!

Please don't derail the thread.

I know people have said a lot of crap about Brightstarz. I asked him about it and he said that he's a different person now and has spoken in line with his new life.
So, I'm not worried about that.

Thanks though.

Hey Grace,

I'll do my best to give you my thoughts on it.

You are definitely not alone in this one and these days it's difficult to find someone trustworthy (or just a real man lol) but if you don't want your heart broken I would advise don't go by only your feeling when choosing a partner. As from the beginning it has to be someone you are going to be able to tolerate for rest of your life that suits you. If it's anything less than what God wants it will either teach you an important lesson or just end in heartbreak. They have to have God at number one, and they have to be following God. If you are lucky enough to get that far then you have a good chance of building trust because those that follow God do not break trust with their relationships.

If there is trust and clear honest communication it makes it a lot easier because you know there is no cheating or betraying. If it does happen though you need to be able to center yourself and rely on God, and not the other person for support. That's why the love of God comes first because the love from men is mostly unreliable and pales in comparison. God is the one you can rely on all relationships are built from that. That's why it's such a blessing to be following God because when you are not cursed with sinful stuff you don't hurt others.

If you do get into a difficult relationship where trust is shaky, and in which things feel insecure, I would get out as fast as you can before you get heartbroken. Even if you have feelings, it's important to let people go that are not serving a right purpose.

Oh also, seek discernment and wisdom to avoid wasting time and mistakes! An over religious person does not mean someone closer to God, An over religious person who goes to church can be in some cases a big red flag. I know of a lot of so called Christian people that are fake, and they can deceive their partner. For instance I saw one documentary where this predator false prophet guy use to stalk around churches to pick up girls, charm them, then use them for his cult. That is worst case but you just have to be careful who you get involved with. When you get it right it won't even be a question about it.

The best chance you have is build everything on a solid foundation. Everything will work out in the end.

But like I said it's not just an all easy life with flowers and roses. When you follow God you have to give up everything else that isn't his will, and in some instances that is some relationships, or timing of things, or other worldly things, just whatever he wants for you have to trust first and foremost. Patience and endurance and abstaining from sinful stuff and trust, and you will get answers.

Blessings)

My husband once told me that no man is "friends" with a woman unless he wants sex. I use to think that was a rude thing to say and I wanted to believe that my male friends liked me because I was fun or whatever (my personality) But I have found that every male "friend" I ever thought I had in life has tried to have sex with me and once you turn them down they aren't really your friend anymore. So perhaps there is truth in what my husband said. So if your boyfriend has a female friend, using that logic, then he is trying to have sex with her.

Grace

If you are in Love
Why would it be a problem?

If you are not in Love
That is the problem.

Fwiw, when you meet the 'right' person to marry, you really won't even think about anyone else in the opposite sex.That's the beauty of true love, it feeds all your needs.

Not everyone finds it, though, that's why people still have these needs for opposite sex friends.

Perhaps your mate is not your true love, otherwise you would not even have these concerns.

It's my first relationship. :|
I'm not in Love, because I'm not sure I know what love is yet.
But I do like him ALOT.

No, he's not trying to have sex with her. He's different and that's why I am with him. I know there is a good portion of the male population who don't use their brains. Lol.

Seek the Lord Live by His Laws ...
He Is the first Love
... the rest is delight, as it is His Love for You ...

I have sought the Lord and He is my first love HANDS DOWN.
His grace found me and now his laws are written on my heart.
The holy spirit leads and guides me far more than a set of rules can (10 commandments).
I loved him because he first loved me and died for my sins. He gave me the gift of eternal life and now I am his forevermore.


He is my everything :D

Jealousy is an emotion born from evil i feel, why else would the feeling give birth to so much emotions of hate and pain, i'm glad i'm not as jealous as i use to be me and my wife been married 8 years together 10 we had all sorts of friends male and female and are still strong together we are our best friends, that really is what makes a relationship worth it.

Love The Lord & neighbour as self)
... And do not eat of the fruit of the knowledge of good & evil ...
for in it is little delight ... but if/ when you do
He Is with you to help you) to give up what is good,

for the best.

:insertcornysmilie:

I ate from the Tree of Life.
People forget there were two choices in the Garden of Eden.
We are still presented with those two trees today.
They are no longer physical trees, but two belief systems.

LAW or GRACE

I don't approve.

9 times out of 10 the male friend is sexually attracted to the female and hopes one day he will get his chance.

Why else would a male want to hang around a female?

For her intellectual superiority and literary knowledge, of course!

good one
you are funny
like a clown

:funnyclown:

Funny, as in I'm right kinda funny...

We do not associate with the fairer sex because we share common interests. That said though, every now and again some of us are lucky enough to hook up with a girl who does share our interest in her fun bits.
The majority of women are unfortunately only interested in things sexual so long as their 'interest' procures the required amounts of cash...

Thanks for the reply Bright.

Honestly, I'm the only that F'd up, by going out and acting stupid when we first got together. He says he forgives me and I believe him. It's just something that can't really be forgotten. It's like a stigma. I've never doubted him being faithful to me once.
He's proven himself to me and I feel very comfortable with him.
I just wish it was mutual.
We have built our relationship on a solid foundation in my opinion. That makes me happy. This is new to us both, but despite my mistakes I always go back to my fundamental belief.
Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
I just have to look at my entire situation as a growing process. I don't have to like it, but I know something beneficial will come out of it.

As far as giving up everything for God, I kind of agree and disagree.
The harder I tried to give up certain things for God, the harder I fell into them.
Under Grace, God gave up everything so I can have everything. As a result, the things I used to hold on to that were against God's will are not as "attractive" anymore. The desire may be present, but the 'flesh' isn't in control anymore. I am a new creation in Christ!
In other words, my appetite is changing.



Thanks for the input
P.s. I don't believe in Luck(Lucifer) Lol that's just one of my hang ups.

I think there could be a sign of insecurity.

My grandparents have been married about 30+ years.
TO THIS DAY, my grandpa accuses my grandma of having "boyfriend" whenver she attempts to go someplace without him.
IT GETS ON MY NERVES. It should NOT be that way for anyone.
I udnerstand it gets complicated when there is cheating or suspicion of cheating.

*sigh*