What is fear to YOU?

Trust me my friend. The world we are all living in right now is full of people like you. In some ways we are all like you. This world isnt healthy for any of us, its so superficial and wrong that its really hard to get any ''real'' happiness out of it.

I think you are like me (but i dont know), i atleast see myself as above average smart, but i dont have anything to show for it, i do not have a supercool school diploma, a supersmart job or any of that. Because i didnt fit in to that society, the people who where living that kind of life wherent my kind of people. And the people who taught those subjects wherent really my kind of teachers either.

Ive always struggled to do something that doesnt feel right. To do something that doesnt make sense to me, to be among a crowd of people that i ''dont like''. So i didnt go to the university, i didnt want to be brainwashed by those teachers. I stayed out of it. And to be honest its been a mean, ugly long road to get where i am today.

I was depressed for many many years, but today i am so happy that i took the road that i did.

And ive talked with so many people who say the same. They dont have the exact same background but the essence is the same, they have been ''struggeling'' for years, living a life they dont understand, that they arent happy about, because they didnt see where it took them. They didnt see that the road was right, until they finally found the last puzzlepiece.

Now i dont claim to be psychic, but to me it sounds like you are in the same cathegory.

Does your fear come from you feeling that you dont ''fit in''?

Maybe my friend you are trying to fit in, in a place where you simply dont fit in. Maybe the goal in your mind, doesnt match up with where the road you are walking is leading you.

Now listen mate, i have to catch a flight in about 10 minutes (im sitting at the airport now) i would love to write more about this, but time is running out on me.

And hey, maybe you dont even relate to this, but if you do =)

Please give me a response.

Please share your true self =)

I would love to hear what you have to say.

I love fear, and i love listening to other peoples fears. And i will do everything i can to give you some advice, IF i am able too.

Best of wishes =)

Again , fear is an INSTINCT not an emotion. Its hard wired. Just because you skydive to overcome fear of heights wont suddenly make you impervious to fear...


There is always something around the corner , lurking , waiting to take you by surprise...


Hence fear of the unknown is the sign of a healthy psyche.

I relate to almost everything you are saying! I never really fitted in with this society at large and struggled to find my place in it. With people it's a different story because everyone likes me for who I am but that's only been happening in the recent years, because I've been finally overcoming social anxiety yet Sometimes it likes to rear its ugly head around the corner.

I am just a dreamer, right brained with no realistic goals in my mind, just dreams that I can't find a way to accomplish because of fear. Fear demotivates me and causes a paralysis in my mind and body. It takes this hold on me and then the ego constantly seeks pleasure, sex or other vices to deal with 'fear of the feeling of fear'.

I'd like to to talk more about this, you seem well informed but I'm typing as fast as I can on my phone, I wish you well on your trip my friend!

You have some fears that are directly related to your reptilian part of the brain (the ones you are talking about).

Its the instinctive fears, and those cannot be compared with the other fears. Its worked out in way different parts of the brain.

Being afraid of hights, being afraid of that truck on the road, being afraid of that man with the gun, that is instinct and a complete different fear than 98% of the fears that approaches our mind every day =)

Trust me i have readen a lot about this, im not just rambling around.

Last Edited by D0NTBeAfraidEVER on 02/21/2014 06:28 PM

My flight just got delayed by an hour (or more), so im here again.

Im very happy to hear that you relate to it, although its not a big shock to me, as i belive that millions of people are struggeling with the same thing you are struggeling with. I struggle with it to some extent myself (still) although i have learned how to find happiness.

It is not easy to find happiness in a world that doesnt fit you, in a society that is fake, that is not natural for us. I belive the ''graynumbers'' of people struggeling right now are huge, some admit their problems (like you), and even more live in a fake bubble, pretending to be happy. Most of us doesnt even know what real happiness is, because we never experienced it. We never had the time and room to be our true self, to live the life we want, because it doesnt fit into the mold that is given to us.

For me everything changed about two years ago, after many many years of struggeling to fit in. I came to a point where i just gave up. I cried like a baby, i laughed, eventhough i shouldnt because everything was a mess. It just came to a point where my life was so unrealistic, so unatural that i just had to let go of my fake expectations, the dreams of my ego, and just start to be me. Its impossible to explain really, but if i would give it a try i would describe it as meeting the bottom.

I came to a point where it couldnt get worse, eventhough i tried and tried, and tried. I realised that whatever im doing, it wont get me anywhere, not with the thoughts/fears i have today. I have to let go of the fears, and just do what i want to do, without fear. Only then will i ever manage to be happy.

So i did. I started out by stating my opinions in all possible situations, i pushed that tiny voice that had been in the back of my mind for so many years forwards. I started to face my fears, no matter how bad it was for my ego, no matter how embarresing i felt.

It was incredibly hard in the beginning, but it quickly got easier. It was just a small small step i had to make, to make the snowball roll. After some time everything started to go automatic, i became unstoppable. I could smell my real self for the first time in my life.

I often say now that i was reborned, that i never lived life before, that i didnt know how to do it, and i truly belive in that.

If you dont dare to be yourself, you are not truly alive.

It takes some courage to get there, but if you get there it will be worth it a million times over.

There wont be a question about it anymore =)

Anyhow, you seem like a smart, reflected person, down to earth.

I belive you can get anywhere you want, you just have to face your fears/your illusions =)

Please try it =)

And please my friend, feel free to share your problems in this thread, talk about it, ask for advice or whatever you feel that you need to do.

This thread is for exactly that =)

Last Edited by D0NTBeAfraidEVER on 02/19/2014 01:58 AM

Real fear is to believe, pass that fear and you conqer all

Oxx

Thats deep =)

Im not sure entirely what you mean though.

Feel free to explain a bit more detailed (if you want) =)

Love this =)

When I was a child, I had a fear of being led to a room by adults that I trusted and then for whatever reason, in that room, I stopped being able to breathe and I died. Well, I'm still here, but the fear continued.

Now, my fears are different and related to society. Humiliation, discord and what have you.

Yes, we have to overcome them and once that is done, then we can move on.

It's not easy though.. I have built in antagonists that keep me rolling on everything that has ever happened in my life.. one day it will all be over and hopefully I can rebuild what's left of myself.


But it is hard to forget Auschwitz.

The epitome of fear itself. The Phobetor.

Imagine Paradise Lost and Prometheus Unbound were only just beginning to scratch the surface of a figure so tragic he could never even be given a real name, only known by his unmistakable likeness. The true Magnum Innominandum...

You couldn't possibly know it, but all fear can be attributed to one original source. Before Icelos, the very concept didn't previously exist. So why did it all go so wrong? Why was Fear necessary? Why was Necessity necessary? Perhaps Nyx gave birth to Icelos just to have some leverage over Anance in a classic primordial power struggle.