How does one find grace in suffering?

I always thought that you choose your life before your born. Maybe to be forgiven of a previous wrong, maybe to get to a higher level spiritually or in heaven.

You may think only you notice the grace with which you handle suffering, but others do notice and in time you will be thought of as a hero by someone and it will change their life.

Grace is a gift few truly have and there is a special place for them.

We all suffer, one way or another. If not now, later. The only thing that ennobles suffering is giving it to God because He can do unimaginable things with it. Both for your soul and the souls and lives of others. God bless.

No hope involved.

It's a fact.

So you help people to make yourself feel good?

I don't think I've ever heard a more egocentric thing in my life...and I'm 40.

I've never been able to take comfort in knowing that others feel worse. :-(

Water
Breathing
Mantras/ affirmations that invoke what you believe in
Self massage
Ho'oponopono

We each have our burden to bear. You identify suffering because of your pain of the body. Someone else suffers through divorce. Some cancer or another illness. Some suffer the loss of house, car, job. I suffer through the loss of my only child. How do I suffer this grief and survive ? through hope, through what faith I can muster each day with the knowing beyond this Earthly life I will see my child again. What gets me through each day. Proverbs 3:5-6

I'm not in control of this life. This is not my home. I'm just passing through. Ready to move on would be a grand understatement.

A most excellent answer!

Those who believe suffering brings learning are more likely to inflict it on others, especially the helpless and young.

I have thought that way a few times myself, though not with the pain you have to bear.

I think it is working out past karma, past wrongdoing, past hurtful and selfish behavior.

My blessings go in your direction...



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I am truly sorry for your loss and thank you for your heartfelt response!! You understand the question when I asked about "others" who suffer, not that everyone else didn't but you suffer to me the unsufferable which is the loss of ones child and may you find peace!! I truly hope that for you

By uniting your suffering to Our Lord's suffering on the Cross, and offering it up.

Oh, please, I bet you love to find fault in things expressed by those who are not finding fault.

You misunderstand what has been expressed. It is not "taking comfort" in another's misery, it is comprehending that while we think we will not survive what it is that we experience, we come into an understanding that others Are carrying larger or more painful burdens so we see them carry on and realize we have a lot less to deal with than we thought.

maryjane.





i shit you not.






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Wow. This is a pretty profound question, kinda slapped me in the face.


As for emotional suffering.....I have walked through it the best I can. I do not know how graceful I have been. I have at times used various means to try and numb myself to certain issues. None of which helped in the long term but honestly without them I may have killed myself. I look back and wonder how I got through it. During these times I abandoned my faith as much as I felt God abandoned me. Its still hard for me to wrap my head around some things, but not as bad as I have been in the past. I am on the other side of the heartache and emotional pain, for now.


I am kind of in the same situation with physical pain.The hardest part of this is that there are some things I just cannot do any longer as much as I want to, I have to concede and accept things the way they are. When you have things working against you, obstacles that you can do nothing about....it's a very hard pill to swallow.I just do the best I can to get through it and I ask God to give me strength. I go to church a couple times a month, it gives me some comfort. The first Sunday of every month they do communion, that helps me on a spiritual level and a psychological one as well.


True story:

My mom had gone in for surgery to remove a kidney. They brought her back to her room, told us she had stage 4 cancer, inoperable and there was no treatment for it. She was dying.

A nurse told me the next day that the young surgical intern came to see her after we had left for the night. She told me he broke down crying, telling my mom how sorry he was and he had his head in my mothers lap and she was comforting him. She died 3 weeks later and she was as graceful the whole time. And her faith in God never faltered.

She is my hero and now when I feel like I can't go on, I think of her courage and grace. I can only hope to be that graceful....


Ok I am done, emotional overload. Need a break

Well I am 45 and I don't think that is egocentric at all. So I win right?

Suffering has given me much more compassion for others. That is grace.



17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.




3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

5 Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.

6 Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.

7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.

8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.

9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.

10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.

12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.

You are not alone! We are one in Christ!g

Cant agree with that.I know a few people that have DESERVED it for years but keep flying high and winning at everyone else expense,
The kindest,most humble,giving,caring,and loving people seem to be the ones that suffer.Rarely the ones that really deserve to suffer.

You are not alone! We are one in Christ!

I am sorry for the loss of your mother and for the emotional and physical pain you endure!! But your story is one of hope and inspiration for others!!
Thank you for sharing
Guitarguy55

it's all bullshit.

Humbled Humility.

Not everything is grace. Have you forgot this world is a testing/sifting process? Cling tight.

The weeds are being pulled.

All can find strength in these words religeous or not

God found me and I found God at my very lowest low.

Well I have to go for now but keep on posting and a big thanks to all who have responded!!

Thank you hun. I hope that you find some peace amidst the pain. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message. Hugs

If that's the most egocentric thing you have ever heard at 40, well my suggestion is to crawl out from under the rock you reside at. Sad that you down someone for doing something nice.