My wife of 29yrs just hit me today at dinner time that she wants a divorce!! I'm very sad

Couple things.
First, if you were so inclined, maybe ask her for a trail separation period in lieu of the divorce. Give her an opportunity to get her had straight while you are part.
IF that is not an option, then you need to be brutally honest with yourself and understand that the next few months will be hell in many ways. So start getting your mind wrapped around that concept.
Everyone who has gone through a divorce experiences their own version of hell on earth, so I can't tell you what yours will be like. But you must mentally prepare for this. I wish someone had told me to do the same.
I would also suggest being very kind to yourself during this time and do not blame yourself or berate yourself about a decision that she has made and that you have very little input into.
The good news is that once you get through the hell, it starts getting better a little at a time. Eventually the wound heals but leave a scar. You will look at it and marvel about what a strong person you have become because of the things you will go through. So, get mentally prepared now and treat yourself extra well.
Good luck my friend.

Sorry to hear that:(

Those of us that have been through divorces can sympathize. It's never easy, especially at first. But time does eventually lessen the hurt.

"treating" bi-polar... lol get a grip!

She is inviting all sorts of negativity into her life, if she is serious about the divorce, then so be it... Once your sadness fades, sit back with some pop corn and watch the train wreck that is about to take place... But keep your distance and don't wish her any Ill will... Plus you'll want no part of her drama... As she will likely place all her burdans at your feet.. And use you as THE excuse for her ruined life. Be the best father you can be and I hope it works out. Blessings come in different ways.. And in time , perhaps you'll look back and realize this was one of those blessings. God bless and good luck

I am in the same boat. Just waiting on the court date.It was not long have meet a good girl we get along great. Keep looking for someone you get along with. She will wake up someday and regret what she has done as will my ex.

It's more like you know f-all about women. My husband and I have lived together for 27 years and have been married for 23 of those years. I have always been loyal to him. We have been together since we were 21 years old, so naturally we had some fights when we were younger, but I can't even remember the last time we had an argument. We enjoy each others company. We always have fun together. We respect each other. We give each other compliments. We never put one another down.

My husband has a lot of confidence in his abilities, and I think I have contributed to that. An example is if he's repairing something he's never worked on before, I always tell him I have faith that he'll figure it out because he always does. I don't think I'm unique. I think there are other women out there just like me. Just because you haven't found them doesn't mean they don't exist. I think BOTH sexes have trouble finding a good mate these day because the majority of people in general are selfish, immature, materialistic assholes.

Sounds like you gave it your best under the circumstnaces. People change and our lives sometimes take us in new directions. After some time, you will find your groove again. Keep tight with your kids:-) Do some things you've always wanted to do, explore a little. Life is too short to let yourself be a slave to someone's instability. If she doesn't want your companionship and/or assistance, then it's time for you to live for you(and your kids). Good luck.

Sorry to hear about that op I'm 33 and been divorced since I was 30 still feel depressed:(

Good post ^^^^

We both have our demons and skeletons in the closet!!! I don't drink!!

She's already there but I have the paddles!!!

I feel your pain mate. After helping my partner of 10 years through the birth of our son 3 years ago, being there for her through her cancer and the death of her grandfather she comes home after a night on the town and tells me she doesn't love me anymore. I tried to make it work for 4 months and it was obvious she wasn't trying so I left. The hardest thing I've ever done. Still see my little boy all the time, but I'm still hurting 5 months on. Things will get better. Hanggon in there.

Yep. Singer of songs, breaker of hearts

Geez