I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done | |
TheTruthMonger
User ID: 58505489 United States 05/27/2014 01:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done I had a really nice lunch with my son who attends the Art Institute in Pittsburgh yesterday. After that I told my Wife (yes the one who asked for a divorce) and my children to come over to my oldest daughters house and that I wanted to talk. Quoting: Guitarguy55 After everyone got settled I started by bearing myself open and broken and apologizing for every wrong, mental trauma that they had to endure either through my misadventures and folly or every bad decision that I have made that affected them. Then I got on my knees and begged for their forgiveness. It was a very emotional moment. I figured that this was a start to try and keep my family together. Then I told them that The past is the past and I have made peace with it Today is Today Tomorrow is Tomorrow All we can hope for is that each day is better than the day before and that tomorrow will be better than today. It's a start I guess At least she took divorce off the table for now I only talk to my friends here because I've no one else to talk with. I hope you all understand that. Peace and love Guitarguy55 What step in the program of AA is that? How did they react? What the fuck have you done to them?! It's no step of AA and they reacted with tears and acceptance!! I'll bear my soul here and get crucified by the masses that wouldn't bother me. If you want me to Nah, that's family stuff...just wanted to hear they accepted it. Shocking that you didn't delve further! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 52319143 United States 05/27/2014 01:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done Well done. It must have been very difficult for you. Let the peace and healing begin! I know you said you are not working AA but the 12 steps are very helpful in recovery from any trauma, pain, addiction or rage problem. You in fact worked a step and it takes a lot if courage to do a self inventory and make amends to those you hurt. 12 steps: 1 We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. 2 Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 5 Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. 6 Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. 7 Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 8 Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. 9 Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 10 Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. 11 Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. 12 Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. If we all practiced this in our lives maybe the world would be a better place. This principles can benefit everyone. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 58375848 United States 05/27/2014 01:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done I had a really nice lunch with my son who attends the Art Institute in Pittsburgh yesterday. After that I told my Wife (yes the one who asked for a divorce) and my children to come over to my oldest daughters house and that I wanted to talk. Quoting: Guitarguy55 After everyone got settled I started by bearing myself open and broken and apologizing for every wrong, mental trauma that they had to endure either through my misadventures and folly or every bad decision that I have made that affected them. Then I got on my knees and begged for their forgiveness. It was a very emotional moment. I figured that this was a start to try and keep my family together. Then I told them that The past is the past and I have made peace with it Today is Today Tomorrow is Tomorrow All we can hope for is that each day is better than the day before and that tomorrow will be better than today. It's a start I guess At least she took divorce off the table for now I only talk to my friends here because I've no one else to talk with. I hope you all understand that. Peace and love Guitarguy55 What step in the program of AA is that? How did they react? What the fuck have you done to them?! It's no step of AA and they reacted with tears and acceptance!! I'll bear my soul here and get crucified by the masses that wouldn't bother me. If you want me to Sounds awesome! Kudos to you and your family. You can all move forward again, together. It really can work with some effort, understanding and patience. :) |
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Rufus Juice User ID: 47300304 United States 05/27/2014 02:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done just remember it is the beginning not the end ~ and those that feel wronged will test the new beginning. Understand it when it comes and keep your eye on what you saw as important enough to call this meeting. its not the destination but the journey |
Guitarguy55
(OP) User ID: 57064084 United States 05/27/2014 05:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done Remember, though, that you will still have to assert yourself in the world and people may not like what you have to say. If you respond to their displeasure by retreating into a pansy state you will have robbed them of knowing you. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1391745 You're off to a good start but don't fool yourself by thinking this is the end of it. You and they will still grow and change. You will all need to learn how to negotiate the rough spots. Trust may be hard to come by. But you've shown courage and that's critical for any chance of success. Wise words thank you for that!! Guitarguy55 The Breaker of many a G-String! |
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(OP) User ID: 57064084 United States 05/27/2014 05:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done Isn't it freeing to be so humble? I love it. Keep up the good work and I hope you won't have to apologize like that ever again. God bless you. :) Quoting: shyrlymyrly I made a complete moral inventory of myself,my demons and skeletons that haunt me and made my peace with it! it was a freeing moment of humility and being humble before God and my family I can do no more than that!! Guitarguy55 The Breaker of many a G-String! |
Guitarguy55
(OP) User ID: 57064084 United States 05/27/2014 05:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done I have made my peace with the past!! Guitarguy55 The Breaker of many a G-String! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 56895008 United States 05/27/2014 05:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done Someone called me a narcissistic Asshole in my Karma vault if they only knew how far from the truth that is. Believe me I don't look in the mirror and love myself. I never have put myself on a pedestal and said hey look at how wonderful I am If that person understood how broken I am they wouldn't say such things. I have reaped what I have sown and know the consequences of it. Quoting: Guitarguy55 I have made my peace with the past!! Don't try and prove yourself to anyone here. ------ |
Guitarguy55
(OP) User ID: 57064084 United States 05/27/2014 05:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done Someone called me a narcissistic Asshole in my Karma vault if they only knew how far from the truth that is. Believe me I don't look in the mirror and love myself. I never have put myself on a pedestal and said hey look at how wonderful I am If that person understood how broken I am they wouldn't say such things. I have reaped what I have sown and know the consequences of it. Quoting: Guitarguy55 I have made my peace with the past!! Don't try and prove yourself to anyone here. ------ I know it's just I have no one else to talk to!!! so I don't mind the occasional bashing that i get Guitarguy55 The Breaker of many a G-String! |
LaniJane
User ID: 56792268 United States 05/27/2014 06:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done I have only the utmost respect for a man who not only hears, he listens. You've done what you can, admitted the hurts you caused and apologized. It's going to take time, GuitarGuy55. [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls." ~ George Carlin |
Guitarguy55
(OP) User ID: 57064084 United States 05/27/2014 06:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: I bared myself heart and soul to my family yesterday and apologized for every wrong I have ever done I have only the utmost respect for a man who not only hears, he listens. Quoting: LaniJane You've done what you can, admitted the hurts you caused and apologized. It's going to take time, GuitarGuy55. [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] Thank you for the inspiration LaniJane that means alot!! Guitarguy55 The Breaker of many a G-String! |