Well that was a fascinating read. I want to chime in.

i think your sister is the way she is because of guilt and jealousy. Guilt started when she sent her younger sisters to the neighbour's house knowing what would happen, jealousy has probably been around for as long. If it hasn't, seeing your solid marriage with a good looking guy who makes MONEY would be enough to rattle her cage.

I do think your husband is a little bit self righteous, and because she was financially dependant on him for a while, he might think he has a right to interfere with things. Of course, he is only protecting his wife and son, but to hope God will forgive some one, that is just plain annoying to be fair.

Hardened people have no patience for the thin skinned. I am think skinned myself and only recently have I realised that the reason people respond badly to a raw sometimes broken soul is all about instinct and survival. A tribe wants tough strong fighters to survive, not quivering sensitives. Nobody cares about spiritualism (anymore), it doesn't win any wars, we're all about fighting and flying our own flag.

I hope your son manages to harden himself somewhat in the future, because life really is going to be harsh at times. On the other hand, the poor child was upset because a young man lost his life, and the dog recently died, it's enough to make anybody a little weaker, even temporarily.

I wouldn't bother with the email. You're throwing little bits of shade and it will annoy the hell out of the old bitch, just leave it. Just let some time pass and move on. Dealings with these people might be the perfect lesson for your son to go through. you can be as soft as you want as long as you are true to yourself. He needs to realise the world is full of cunts.

I hope things are resolved for you all and I feel bad for your sisters daughter, I am sure she is an evil little shit but she seems to be learning from the best.