OP, here is my two cents from dealing with a lifetime of a dysfunctional family. Think about this, if you just randomly knew your Sister would you have already cut ties with her? Would you accept her behavior if she was just a friend or acquaintance? I would say most likely not or you are a doormat that needs to work on your self esteem.


It is sad that we will accept unacceptable behavior from family members that we would never tolerate from anyone else. I would make up my mind that nothing this person says will bother me and suck it up while I am around my ailing parents. Once my parents were gone those people would be cut out of my life. You didn't choose who your siblings are and certainly can't be responsible for their screwed up lives. I would bet that your Sister has always had a screwed up adult life and that will probably never change. Don't let yourself get dragged down in the muck of her drama. Enjoy your family that you have created with your husband. Life is too short to intentionally deal with drama queens and people who never learn from their mistakes.

BTW, I would not even respond to the emails between Sister and Hubby. Good luck to you.