Is it weid that a husband doesn't buy gifts

It'a an appreciation thing for women. Little things like flowers once in awhile, not every damn week. A bracelet with keepsakes on it for some anniversary gift. hell, something.

Now ladies you have to turn things around and show your men that you really appreciate them,too. You know what they want most of the time,too, food beer and sex. Then he's good to go for another few weeks.

I don't work, well other than raising and homeschooling our children. I occassionally have a litter of rare breed puppies or trade penny stocks. So buying him a gift seems silly to me, him giving me money to buy his christmas or anniversary present.

We exchange cards. We try to out sap each other. If you make the other person tear up, you win. He wins occassionally.

Our holidays are built around our children. My parents were unhappily married and the holidays were filled with fighting, sometimes physical. My kids will have good, happy memories.

We always have cake for birthdays and a special dinner with the kids. There are other ways to make holidays special without buying gifts.

So I guess I am saying I don't think the gifts are what matters. What you do with your holidays/anniversary is what is important.

Was it a gift .. I was thinking gifts on non holidays, and he does christmas, but it is his Bday and we focus on that beside the kids

Last Edited by RosieontheRoad on 11/29/2014 11:49 AM

I have kids .. give me some slack

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YEP!!!

I don't really know. Personally I get my wife something nice once every month or so.

You think material gifts show how you care.What a piece of shit.Sorry...maybe just a brainwashed consumer.

My husband and I have been together 14 years and do not get each other gifts.Neither of us,and we both work.

We do however make sure on special occasions to spend time together and do things.This year on my birthday we went on a canoe trip(our canoes,no expense really involved).It was one of the most memorable days of my life(saw a moose with twins!).No gift can ever come close to replacing time.

We do plan on buying things we need...January 1st.You can keep your commercial holidays,we will take advantage of the after effects.

If your relationship is good, true, honest, real... Then even thinking about this, even posting this OP, even feeling differently about him, thus altering the good, true honest real relationship, is fucking retarded.

The only reason men by women gifts is for sexual favors.

And, from as you mention, the pressure of the collective retards ready to judge how they were programmed too from the commercials.

No, not everyone is into gift giving as a way to show love. Learn about love languages. People have their own style. Google it. If it doesn't bother don't let others change your mind.

My husband is the same way. He will buy me whatever I need/want. He will also randomly buy me things that he thinks I will like.

He has never wrapped a present to give to me and we have been together for 17 years.

Ignore others' opinions is a good rule of thumb, esp. with personal and sacred matters of the family. And, don't ask them what they think either.

If they gratuitously offer their opinions, just tell them kindly in your own sweet words that it is none of their business.

And all of that is my personal experience. I am not a counselor. lol

thank you for the chuckle.

I've been married for 10 years and I don't buy shit. I boycott all holidays because they are for sheeple.

But I did just pic up the iphone 6 for my wife because I thought she needed a new phone. And last year I gave her a brand new Tahoe. I follow my own rules. Not what some jew marketing company tells me I should do.

You meant hours.

Seems a little weid to me. But what do I know?

I have this issue too with my boyfriend, except that he does buy others gifts. Just not me. Also he didn't call me on my birthday, he texted me. I was out of town. He said he didn't want to "bother me". What should I think? I find myself jealous of his friends and family who he does call and do cutesy texts with lots of emoticons and stuff for, and all I get is a plain old HB text, not even HB baby, or I love you and hope it's a good day for you, nothing. How could he be so clueless?

Again the only reason I'm mad is because he's a great husband and provider,I feel like this is a attack on his character. It's petty bs.

No, not weird at all. I didn't know about the 5 Love Languages until about 5 years ago...but they make total sense in EVERY relationship.
The 5 Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch
More at: [link to www.5lovelanguages.com]

Neither my late fiance nor I had receiving gifts as our primary language, so we didn't do a lot of gift giving. It was random and thoughtful. We were both quality time with physical touch as a strong second.

It's all very interesting...I learned by this that part of the reason my mom never felt "loved" by any of us kids (we're all in our 40's) is that her love language *is* receiving gifts. So now I try to remember to pick up a magazine, favorite donut, silly (to me) little seasonal statues/decorations and our relationship has become better. Or, at least she doesn't think we don't love and respect her.

BTW--I agree with whoever said that you should ignore the unsolicited advice from your family. Not their business.

Thank you,we've been together seven years and have never exchanged gift for a specific holiday. He buys everything I need and want,hell now a days most people are to lazy to even work and support their family. I'm grateful for his love and patience:)

Wow, wait a minute. You are absolutely entitled to your opinion but so are anyone else who have a position on this. You have brought this out for public scrutiny.

you must have a terribly low estimation of men to say that.

I bet you are one.

Not that it excuses the cheating but was the ring the only gift?

I think like a Tudor and the day I meet a man that does too? Its going down that night. He will be the absolute love of my life.

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A real man even if not a perfect man.

Op

It sounds like you have a good husband. Do not worry about what others think. Materialism is for fools and dreamers.

Personally I think presents on a particular day is the bane of our society.

your a fucking dumbass , of course giving gifts is a way of showing you care , giving a gift doesnt mean you have to go out and buy something , my husband plucks flowers from the garden and gives them to me and i LOVE it !!! sounds like your jelous cause all you get from your husband is a fucking canoe trip hahahaha , dont get your knickers in a knot just because your husband doesnt care enough about you to buy you a lousy bunch of flowers .