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Anonymous Coward User ID: 34747296 United States 11/29/2014 11:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Now ladies you have to turn things around and show your men that you really appreciate them,too. You know what they want most of the time,too, food beer and sex. Then he's good to go for another few weeks. |
Whiskey*Tango
User ID: 62416357 United States 11/29/2014 11:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't work, well other than raising and homeschooling our children. I occassionally have a litter of rare breed puppies or trade penny stocks. So buying him a gift seems silly to me, him giving me money to buy his christmas or anniversary present. We exchange cards. We try to out sap each other. If you make the other person tear up, you win. He wins occassionally. Our holidays are built around our children. My parents were unhappily married and the holidays were filled with fighting, sometimes physical. My kids will have good, happy memories. We always have cake for birthdays and a special dinner with the kids. There are other ways to make holidays special without buying gifts. So I guess I am saying I don't think the gifts are what matters. What you do with your holidays/anniversary is what is important. |
Annihilation
User ID: 62875879 United States 11/29/2014 11:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband just bought me a bad ass pair of North Face boots for the polar vortex occasions. Quoting: nahkers Was it a gift .. I was thinking gifts on non holidays, and he does christmas, but it is his Bday and we focus on that beside the kids Last Edited by RosieontheRoad on 11/29/2014 11:49 AM If your dreams don't scare you.. they aren't big enough. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 56215584 United States 11/29/2014 12:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I literally hate buying gifts on demand...... I normally refuse to do it anymore. I buy gifts when I want to. Quoting: scimitar I give my wife flowers when I want to. I never expect any gifts at all. Gladly receive what ever gifts are freely given, do not feel a repayment is owed. Give only what you want to give and never expect anything in return. YEP!!! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 64040337 United States 11/29/2014 12:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sounds like a tight ass , cmon bdays and xmas only happen once a year , would giving you a bunch of flowers kill him ? FFS its a way of showing how you care and have taken the time to think about them . maybe hes just a lazy coont and cant be fucked with it . I think the fact that you have even had to discuss the issue says it bothers you . Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24599577 You think material gifts show how you care.What a piece of shit.Sorry...maybe just a brainwashed consumer. My husband and I have been together 14 years and do not get each other gifts.Neither of us,and we both work. We do however make sure on special occasions to spend time together and do things.This year on my birthday we went on a canoe trip(our canoes,no expense really involved).It was one of the most memorable days of my life(saw a moose with twins!).No gift can ever come close to replacing time. We do plan on buying things we need...January 1st.You can keep your commercial holidays,we will take advantage of the after effects. |
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Dazey User ID: 57552511 United States 11/29/2014 01:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No I'm the wife,I just never thought about it. He works hard and pays the bills and buys me anything I want or need so why the big deal about gifts on Christmas or birthdays! Quoting: Kelley_girl There we go. One in a million right there. That is a good man. My husband is the same way. He will buy me whatever I need/want. He will also randomly buy me things that he thinks I will like. He has never wrapped a present to give to me and we have been together for 17 years. |
Ms. Superduper
User ID: 65307248 United States 11/29/2014 01:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ignore others' opinions is a good rule of thumb, esp. with personal and sacred matters of the family. And, don't ask them what they think either. If they gratuitously offer their opinions, just tell them kindly in your own sweet words that it is none of their business. And all of that is my personal experience. I am not a counselor. lol Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. Whatever feels good to your soul, do that. |
Interested_1
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 27331193 United States 11/29/2014 01:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've been married for 10 years and I don't buy shit. I boycott all holidays because they are for sheeple. But I did just pic up the iphone 6 for my wife because I thought she needed a new phone. And last year I gave her a brand new Tahoe. I follow my own rules. Not what some jew marketing company tells me I should do. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27331193 United States 11/29/2014 01:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It'a an appreciation thing for women. Little things like flowers once in awhile, not every damn week. A bracelet with keepsakes on it for some anniversary gift. hell, something. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 34747296 Now ladies you have to turn things around and show your men that you really appreciate them,too. You know what they want most of the time,too, food beer and sex. Then he's good to go for another few weeks. You meant hours. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 64872189 United States 11/29/2014 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have this issue too with my boyfriend, except that he does buy others gifts. Just not me. Also he didn't call me on my birthday, he texted me. I was out of town. He said he didn't want to "bother me". What should I think? I find myself jealous of his friends and family who he does call and do cutesy texts with lots of emoticons and stuff for, and all I get is a plain old HB text, not even HB baby, or I love you and hope it's a good day for you, nothing. How could he be so clueless? |
Kelley_girl
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Interested_1
User ID: 30318195 United States 11/29/2014 01:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, not weird at all. I didn't know about the 5 Love Languages until about 5 years ago...but they make total sense in EVERY relationship. The 5 Love Languages: Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Physical Touch More at: [link to www.5lovelanguages.com] Neither my late fiance nor I had receiving gifts as our primary language, so we didn't do a lot of gift giving. It was random and thoughtful. We were both quality time with physical touch as a strong second. It's all very interesting...I learned by this that part of the reason my mom never felt "loved" by any of us kids (we're all in our 40's) is that her love language *is* receiving gifts. So now I try to remember to pick up a magazine, favorite donut, silly (to me) little seasonal statues/decorations and our relationship has become better. Or, at least she doesn't think we don't love and respect her. BTW--I agree with whoever said that you should ignore the unsolicited advice from your family. Not their business. Take the red pill now...later it will come as a suppository. |
Kelley_girl
(OP) User ID: 40433562 United States 11/29/2014 01:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, not weird at all. I didn't know about the 5 Love Languages until about 5 years ago...but they make total sense in EVERY relationship. Quoting: Interested_1 The 5 Love Languages: Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Physical Touch More at: [link to www.5lovelanguages.com] Neither my late fiance nor I had receiving gifts as our primary language, so we didn't do a lot of gift giving. It was random and thoughtful. We were both quality time with physical touch as a strong second. It's all very interesting...I learned by this that part of the reason my mom never felt "loved" by any of us kids (we're all in our 40's) is that her love language *is* receiving gifts. So now I try to remember to pick up a magazine, favorite donut, silly (to me) little seasonal statues/decorations and our relationship has become better. Or, at least she doesn't think we don't love and respect her. BTW--I agree with whoever said that you should ignore the unsolicited advice from your family. Not their business. Thank you,we've been together seven years and have never exchanged gift for a specific holiday. He buys everything I need and want,hell now a days most people are to lazy to even work and support their family. I'm grateful for his love and patience:) ~~Karma might be a slow train But she tears some shit up When she comes through!~~ |
Mickeyblue User ID: 9806228 United States 11/29/2014 01:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My own daughter got mad last week just because I wasn't mad about not getting a birthday present.She wasn't raised that way but now everyone wants to throw their opinion out there and I don't like it! Quoting: Kelley_girl Wow, wait a minute. You are absolutely entitled to your opinion but so are anyone else who have a position on this. You have brought this out for public scrutiny. |
beeches
User ID: 28167778 United States 11/29/2014 02:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The only reason men by women gifts is for sexual favors. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45107896 And, from as you mention, the pressure of the collective retards ready to judge how they were programmed too from the commercials. you must have a terribly low estimation of men to say that. I bet you are one. Liberalism is totalitarianism with a human face – Thomas Sowell |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 35042068 United States 11/29/2014 08:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was a similar husband. wife didn't work, stayed home while I went to work, and watched the kids... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 49347390 I don't buy presents. I never got anniversary gifts.. she left me, cheating I suspect with people she met in the night at the carwash. I always wonderd why the car was never clean.. back on topic. if I had it to do over again, I would have spent about 9grand less on the ring. materialistic biatches. op is a good woman, so long she aint a cheeter. your man clearly is keeping it real. good luck. Not that it excuses the cheating but was the ring the only gift? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 65106508 Australia 11/30/2014 01:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sounds like a tight ass , cmon bdays and xmas only happen once a year , would giving you a bunch of flowers kill him ? FFS its a way of showing how you care and have taken the time to think about them . maybe hes just a lazy coont and cant be fucked with it . I think the fact that you have even had to discuss the issue says it bothers you . Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24599577 You think material gifts show how you care.What a piece of shit.Sorry...maybe just a brainwashed consumer. My husband and I have been together 14 years and do not get each other gifts.Neither of us,and we both work. We do however make sure on special occasions to spend time together and do things.This year on my birthday we went on a canoe trip(our canoes,no expense really involved).It was one of the most memorable days of my life(saw a moose with twins!).No gift can ever come close to replacing time. We do plan on buying things we need...January 1st.You can keep your commercial holidays,we will take advantage of the after effects. your a fucking dumbass , of course giving gifts is a way of showing you care , giving a gift doesnt mean you have to go out and buy something , my husband plucks flowers from the garden and gives them to me and i LOVE it !!! sounds like your jelous cause all you get from your husband is a fucking canoe trip hahahaha , dont get your knickers in a knot just because your husband doesnt care enough about you to buy you a lousy bunch of flowers . |