Is it weid that a husband doesn't buy gifts

of course , darling , you're absolutely right . it is weid .

My husband has picked me flowers many times.He also loves to take photographs and shares them with me.Like these.

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Neither of us are really impressed with consumer culture.
If he did actually go out and BUY flowers I would probably be insulted,but when he goes out and spends a few hours picking them for me I actually get excited lol.Not to mention the ones he finds there is no way you will ever find them in a store.
He has made me/us a few things over the years.He is excellent at wood working.Our kitchen cabinets he made from an Ash tree that fell in a storm(we have a sawmill,220V planner,routers ect).
Point being.To me the most valuable thing he can give me is his time,not by spending money.We both have busy lives even though our kids have moved out.We both work,have hobbies,and friends.He never fails to show me he appreciates me and my time either.
Good luck with your gift buying and any relationship that considers it important,because it will not last.

Oh one last thing.Watching two baby moose play in the water for the first time for 45 minutes is a memory I will have for life,and a hell of a lot better than a new blender or pair of sweat pants.Sorry for the picture quality,but we took a cheap camera on the trip for obvious reasons(water and expensive electronics do not get along).It was also pretty windy that day.

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With the way that women view men as totally "disposable" nowadays, it's no wonder they don't want to buy gifts. After all, who wants to buy gifts for someone you won't likely be with soon.

What about you? Are you buying THEM gifts, or is it (like most women) a one way street with you?

so then...you're a glutton for punishment as that's what you'll get here...opinions. no presents or gifts though.

Maybe he figures you could not voice a proper thanks just like you cannot spell.

Here's a little secret for the ladies.

One no-strings-attached blow job equals one fairly expensive gift in hand.

If you want more gifts, then start swallowing his nuts.

And don't forget to cup the balls.

Hehe

How could he ever top the gift that you brought to his life. All is pale compared to that?

My husband does buy a few things before Christmas. However this coming year I have decided not to buy him as much as I normally do, last year I bought him a brand new generator, and some power tools along with 8 pairs of jeans, and a brand new pair of work boots. This year he is getting tons of things, including another pair of work boots.

Next year he is going to get very little from me because he has over the past 3 years bought me 5 things each Christmas from the dollar store and only once bought me something that didn't come from dollar tree, however it was a pack of underwear so big I could have put 5 of me in them.

However his issue is that he buys last minute things. When I see what he picks up at Christmas I am shocked, even for the kids he picks them up little cheap things at the dollar store. Then I ask what he gave his mom and every year he sends her $500 cash.

Next year I am spending all of his Christmas on the kids and myself and give him a $20 home depot card lets see what happens then.

wow you are good with words. i also think it is fun and nutring to buy gifts for each other when you dont do it all the time go to the doalar store together and fill a stocking youll find it romantic. try not to look in the stocking till christmas morning. the kid are worried he may not be honoring the union, maybe, i have 4 kids and a couple X's bker guys seem embarassed to go out shopping. so .... i came up with the dollar store thing and it was really cute. and it kind of started a seed of giving even after years of nothing.

funny timing on my post ...maybe im wrong but i was hard up for presents.LOL

My husband and I, 15 years here, do not exchange any gifts at all and never have. Both of us don't want the stress involved in doing it and also the "fakery" of it all, feeling obligated to do it just because the world says so.

We do get eachother a birthday card, but I"d prefer not to do that too. Just cook a nice dinner instead.

We buy what we want, when we want, or when we have the extra money to do so. Neither of us are into material things or appearances, traditions anyway.

I guess I am not so big on gifts because I am spoiled very other day of the year .. There isn't something I don't want or need, I don't have .. Like I mentioned my husbands birthday is on Christmas .. So beside the kids I make it about him .. But he always gets me a big something .. Or takes my teen daughter to get me things I use regularly ..

Buy there used to be a time he would be super tacky and it upset me .. Like on my bday before valentines day go on my bday and get me a valentines sock monkey from rite aid ..

That time is still here



If everyday was equal and we didn't stress one day is more important .. Everything would be equal and non of this would matter because every day should be made great (as possible)

Last Edited by RosieontheRoad on 11/30/2014 08:37 AM

I would not allow anybody to talk bad about the other parent in my house. Sounds like a jealousy issue. When people are putting effort into creating factions they usually want to win one party to themselves. What is your girl really lacking? Maybe you can help her there?

My wife stays at home. I work hard and we live well. There is no gifts on any special days here, no special days even. I think the idea of gifts is a bit strange. Everything we buy is a gift. Everything we spend is a gift. Nobody is lacking. Why have certain days with built up expectations? Why not just live freely and give and share freely?

Sounds like OP is a good wife just like mine and my wife says the same about me and she would agree with your husband as well.

Don't let anybody drive a wedge between the two of you!

Ahh, don't you just love how the Christmas season brings out the best in people.

We don't do gifts either, and life is less stressful without all the artificial consumerism expectations

and this is how many to most women think. buy them nothing and let em compare that to what they bought you. the great relief of not havin to go out and fight the masses for something she'll complain and bitch about to others and the internet feels great. funny thing is that it's been women that are constantly lying about..."it's the thought that counts" bullshit. oh it definitely counts and she'll continue to count it against you for a long time. so...like i said...buy nothin except maybe for yourself and enjoy the freedom. and really...they know what the color...size and quality they want so should just buy there own gifts too. my wife and i have in the past bought our own gifts and actually had them wrapped to sit under the tree. it was great...no pressure...no returning HER presents because it didn't fit or wasn't the right color and the shopping was actually fun.


MERRY FUCKIN CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY!!!


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that's what people have let the capitalism part of Christmas turn them into. spiteful bitches.

exactly. working to pay the bills are gifts. mortgage, insurance, vehicles, food, taking care of the house, electric for all your needs, phones and internet, water, trash collection, taxes, car repair and maintenance, cloths, things the kids need, even doing the dishes and helping with housework. it amazes me that women and kids don't think those things count. all while he has to take mistreatment at work constantly and cannot give it back in order to keep the job and keep working to pay for all those things. gifts are being given constantly if they are counted.

Seems odd to me... I would buy gifts for the right one... if Im really lucky she'd be aware of the true value of diamonds, the de beers monopoly, and want something else.

As a man my heart is through my stomach... a cheesecake and some pizza will do... its the love that matters not monetary value of the gifts...

Last Edited by Sholomar on 11/30/2014 04:40 PM

and let's not forget protection if he cares enough to want to protect his family as well as provide for them.

why not give your guy a hug and thank him for the things he gives all the time in taking care of his girl and children. how many guys go through their whole lives receiving no thanks for the things they give every day by being responsible providers for their family?

not only that but they can also be resented for little reasons all while they work their butts off trying to keep up with daily needs. let him know you recognize the love he expresses by trying to take care of you.

concerning protection, you may never know if or even how many times your guy protected you. kind of like taking a walk at night by yourself or with a big dog. any would be attacker would have second thoughts if he had to tangle with the dog to get to you. that would likely discourage an attempt to do you harm. your man protects you by being there in many cases.

so what are gifts. if you want gifts you just need a good paying job and you can buy all you can afford and shower yourself with flowers and perfumes and nighties and jewelry or whatever your heart desires. you don't need a man for that.

how could you?

why would a computer program, like you, care whether your husband gives you babbles that will mean nothing a few years from now?