If you skip a funeral/visitation, will there be regrets? | |
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Southern Lighthouse
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FalseFlash
User ID: 63443617 United States 12/05/2014 06:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I never go to funerals if I get permission from the loved one first. Last Edited by FalseFlash on 12/05/2014 06:33 AM |
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Vroude
User ID: 60333397 United States 12/05/2014 06:41 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, you will. Be there for the family and offer comfort. Go and pay your final respects. Your time will come one day, and you will reap tomorrow what you sowed today. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1560850 Yea because being stone dead....you will totally care... Your decision OP. Ive sworn them off , personally. No point. Want to remember people alive not a hollow shell. Sleep, those little slices of death. Oh, how I loathe thee. ~Edgar Allan Poe |
Southern Lighthouse
(OP) User ID: 64487439 United States 12/05/2014 06:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This site has been totally overwrought by the seemingly adolescent dredge of society recently. It's odd how they think they are being witty, when in reality, just reveal their filthy souls, for all the world to see. Oh well, carry on wayward travelers. Life has a way of teaching you the lessons you are in desperate need of learning. Good luck with that. Love is the highest form of spiritual warfare. |
Ontheverge
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Southern Lighthouse
(OP) User ID: 64487439 United States 12/05/2014 06:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, you will. Be there for the family and offer comfort. Go and pay your final respects. Your time will come one day, and you will reap tomorrow what you sowed today. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1560850 I totally get what you're saying and, like it or not, I will be attending the visitation. I have to disagree with you on this though, "Your time will come one day, and you will reap tomorrow what you sowed today." I believe we reap what we sow in the land of the living. My friend and I sowed loving kindness towards one another over the years, and as a result, we reaped a beautiful friendship. Love is the highest form of spiritual warfare. |
Southern Lighthouse
(OP) User ID: 64487439 United States 12/05/2014 06:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes you will. Quoting: Ontheverge Maybe not today or tomorrow but soon and for the rest of your life. This is not a time to think about what you want or how you feel. It is for his family. Stop being selfish. Just avoid the body if it bothers you. Selfish? I'm asking a question. Perhaps you didn't read past the title. And thank you, my plan was exactly that- avoid the casket. He isn't there. I am going to love and grieve with his beautiful family. Love is the highest form of spiritual warfare. |
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Ms. Superduper
User ID: 65307248 United States 12/05/2014 07:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To me it's my personal beliefs for me. Example: when my brother became very ill, I went to TX to spend a week with him. The day after we came back here, he passed away in his wife's arms. He wanted to be buried in MA. I could not and did not fly up for that service. I felt like since he got right with God before he passed, that I will see him again. It was more important to me, and I believe to him, to have spent those days with him when he was on this earth out in TX. I believe it's all such a personal and individual thing. Maybe there were people at my brother's service who thought this or that about my non-attendance, but I gave up being concerned about what others think a long time ago. You know the saying: what people think of me is none of my business. And no, I do not have regrets. Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. Whatever feels good to your soul, do that. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 56697389 United States 12/05/2014 07:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've never met anyone that enjoys funerals. The idea of a wake is to pay respects to the surviving family members. I've gone to wakes for parents of co workers parents and siblings. You would be amazed how much it means to the family. My dad passed a few years back and I was surprised at some of the people that showed up. It helped me get through a rough time knowing I had more support than I originally thought. |
BRIEF
User ID: 39607259 United States 12/05/2014 07:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't go because I can't resist the urge to poke them with a stick...and I always see the body move,out of the corner of my eye. I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Southern Lighthouse
(OP) User ID: 64487439 United States 12/05/2014 07:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To me it's my personal beliefs for me. Example: when my brother became very ill, I went to TX to spend a week with him. The day after we came back here, he passed away in his wife's arms. He wanted to be buried in MA. Quoting: Ms. Superduper I could not and did not fly up for that service. I felt like since he got right with God before he passed, that I will see him again. It was more important to me, and I believe to him, to have spent those days with him when he was on this earth out in TX. I believe it's all such a personal and individual thing. Maybe there were people at my brother's service who thought this or that about my non-attendance, but I gave up being concerned about what others think a long time ago. You know the saying: what people think of me is none of my business. And no, I do not have regrets. Thank you for sharing a personal story. I would have done exactly what you did, in a situation such as that. And I am so truly sorry for your loss, Ms. Superduper. I'm glad you were able to spend that precious time with your brother before he passed. Love is the highest form of spiritual warfare. |
Southern Lighthouse
(OP) User ID: 64487439 United States 12/05/2014 07:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've never met anyone that enjoys funerals. The idea of a wake is to pay respects to the surviving family members. I've gone to wakes for parents of co workers parents and siblings. You would be amazed how much it means to the family. My dad passed a few years back and I was surprised at some of the people that showed up. It helped me get through a rough time knowing I had more support than I originally thought. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 56697389 Thank you, AC. Love is the highest form of spiritual warfare. |
Southern Lighthouse
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BRIEF
User ID: 39607259 United States 12/05/2014 07:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't go because I can't resist the urge to poke them with a stick...and I always see the body move,out of the corner of my eye. Quoting: BRIEF LOL! Good morning, Brief. You always bring a smile to my face and give me a good . Have a great day! I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Ms. Superduper
User ID: 65307248 United States 12/05/2014 08:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To me it's my personal beliefs for me. Example: when my brother became very ill, I went to TX to spend a week with him. The day after we came back here, he passed away in his wife's arms. He wanted to be buried in MA. Quoting: Ms. Superduper I could not and did not fly up for that service. I felt like since he got right with God before he passed, that I will see him again. It was more important to me, and I believe to him, to have spent those days with him when he was on this earth out in TX. I believe it's all such a personal and individual thing. Maybe there were people at my brother's service who thought this or that about my non-attendance, but I gave up being concerned about what others think a long time ago. You know the saying: what people think of me is none of my business. And no, I do not have regrets. Thank you for sharing a personal story. I would have done exactly what you did, in a situation such as that. And I am so truly sorry for your loss, Ms. Superduper. I'm glad you were able to spend that precious time with your brother before he passed. Thank you. Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. Whatever feels good to your soul, do that. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 59224834 United States 12/05/2014 08:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Please go. When a family loses a child at 19 it is a complete tragedy. Please let the family know how much you cared for their son by showing up. You don't have to say anything to them, but when they see all the people that cared for their son, it will bring them some comfort in the years to come. You don't have to walk up to the casket. Just stay in the background. I know this first hand. Over 600 people showed up for my sons funeral. There was a line to get in. It is a comfort to know how many people cared. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 65779053 India 12/05/2014 08:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | A friend/associate passed away, quite unexpectedly, in his sleep on Tuesday. The wake/visitation is today. I'm having a hard time, I don't want to see him laying there lifeless. He was the most beautiful soul; always smiling, happy, spring in his step, encouraged everyone he encountered, always putting other's needs before his own. I want my last memory of him to be our cheerful conversation the day before he passed away, not his lifeless body laying in a coffin. I can't bear the thought of seeing his beautiful family, heartbroken and grieving, especially their youngest... only 19 years old. Oh my, my heart breaks for them. Quoting: Southern Lighthouse I think I already know, that as much as I don't want to, I will attend... and my heart will break along with theirs. Guess I'm just voicing an internal struggle this morning. Sometimes writing it out, helps to sort it out. Thanks for listening. Any of my GLP friends experienced something similar? If you didn't go, did you regret it? Rest in peace, dear friend. I'm so thankful to have known you and had the pleasure of being your friend. if you don't go to funerals of your friends,who will come to your funeral? think of this |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 65756375 Canada 12/05/2014 08:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 1. My grandfather was dying in hospital. My father and I were supposed to go and visit him. I was just turned 18 at the time. My grsndfather was really, really deeply upset and disappointed that I did not go. This however had catastrphic consequences for me. MY grandfather deeply hated and distrusted my grandmother, so he had actually written a Will granting me EVERYTHING upon his death, house, furniture, money etc. The house today would be worth about $600,000. And looking back, I am convinced that he wanted to put his Will in my hands. Once he died, my grandmother IMMEDIATELY ripped up his Will and my father and my uncle covered it and huge pressure was put on me to shut up about it. The house instead went to my grandmother who died a few years later. My father and my uncle sold the house for peanuts and divided the cash between themselves - my father pocketed some $20,000 from the sale. At the time this occurred I was living rough in the street and had no welfare of money. I have been penniless for much of my life in consequence whilst my parents have enjoyed a fat and wealthy lifestyle on what should have been my money and my home. 2. My great uncle Reginald died. I chose not to go to the funeral. My great uncle Reginald turned out to be the family genealogist. All the family portraits and records - boxes and boxes of them - were at his funeral. Other than the little my mother took, the rest was destroyed. Because I would not grovel to my mother, in a fit of pique, my mother destroyed all the remaining family photos and records about 6 months ago. I do not even have photos of any of my grand parents. AND ALL BECAUSE I MISSED TWO DAMN FUNERALS. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 64355588 United States 12/05/2014 12:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Funerals/visitation are difficult for attendees, but from personal experience, it's worth doing. I've been both a visitor and family member and as a family member I very much appreciated the friends/coworkers who went out of their way for me. You'll feel good about yourself if you go. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 65232126 United States 12/05/2014 01:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was really close to my grandmother but I couldn't bring myself to go to her visitation. I did attend her funeral which was held the day after. I have no regrets. Personally, I don't want a visitation when I pass and I've told my husband that. It creeps me out to think about people lining up to gawk at me just laying there. |