I agree. I understand the concern of the OP....but it's her daughter's choice, not hers. Cutting any part of this off to me will just lead to more problems. What is said here is the best approach I think, be honest with her, make sure she knows for sure what she's into and if she's happy with that....and beyond that let her go from there. She'll trust you a lot more if she is trusted too. I know from my own family experience on both sides.....if I don't feel supported/trusted, it's hard to wanna open up on something I am doing or want to do.

You mentioned also OP about Pagans being strict.....if she WAS getting back at you as some have suggested (though I can't say for sure one way or the other she is), maybe it's cause of how strict her upbringing woulda been? An act of rebellion? That's a thought to consider as well.....but in any case, let her figure out what she's doing and just be there for her wherever that leads. It will be better for both of you that way.

Remember, this isn't about you and what you want for her or think is best for her, but rather about her. That's where many parents lose their kids I believe.....trying to mold them into what THEY want them to be rather than listening and paying attention to what they actually want themselves. Don't make that mistake.