Advice Please On What Handgun & Where To Buy

Go down to the police station in person and file a complaint for whatever laws you think they are breaking. If you start messing with a gun to settle a neighborhood dispute, you will likely find yourself behind bars.

You definitely want a revolver of any caliber. Regardless of what others might say, nobody wants to get hit with even a small caliber bullet. It might not blow their head or arm off, but it will definitely give them something else to think about besides you. With a revolver, all you have to do is point and pull the trigger. Please make sure that any kids or grandkids have absolutely NO access to your purse or gun. The gun has to be loaded and ready to use, or it is worthless.

Until your 12 year olds hangs are surgically attracted to op's arms, that doesn't mean shit.

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Get some training and get a glock 17.