What happened 20+ years ago should not even be thought about. Let it go.
Quoting: TheLordsServant I had. She brought it up in a conversation.
She has accused me of cheating on her again, which I have not. I have talked to female friends, but get accused of cheating when I have.
Make a list of good and bad of say - the last 5 years.
Have you ever heard of a book by Dr Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages"?
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I have that book and ebook. I have read it multiple times when I we had issues. Her love language changed a few times already.
I have made that list and it sits near me on the night stand.
I want to say this is a phase. She was ridiculed at school about believing in God when I was going to church in the past with them. The wife said she no longer needed to go.
She is currently 12yo. She shaved off most of her hair and has adopted a goth look now.
She just recently started her monthlies about 8 months ago.
His wife has never been a believer - and the daughter claims the same. This is a major stumbling block these days in reconciliation IMHO.
As GFG said - the wheat and the tares are being seperated.
I will quote the text that I got from her when I was trying to get the kids for the weekend.
Her text is as follows after me sending her a message that we would be in church at a time she wanted to call the kids.
If you are really going to church for your well being, I am happy for you. If you are going to impress someone new, I wish her well and pray that some of the mass will finally touch some part of your soul. I wish hat you had wanted to invite GOD into our lives before you belittled and insulted us and my family. The attorney should be contacting yours, it was me that was the hold up. The kids and I are very cynical about your sudden change of heart about religion and the children both.The odd part here is as follows.
1. The wishing I had wanted to invite God into our lives. I had tried. I was thwarted.
2. Belittling her, the kids and her family. I've had issues with her family from historical things they did to her. The main one was sexual abuse/rape when she was a pre teen. She confided that in me and I refused to be social with them and did not want them near our kids. Her dad included.
3. Cynical of my change towards the children and religion. I have always loved my kids. I was one that had to be the parent in the house. She always wanted to be their friend and nothing more. This caused riffs between us. I caught my daughter looking at porn on her phone. I took that away from her and all internet access. In span of the evening she had her phone back. Her mom gave it back to her. Saying I was wrong for taking the phone away.
Her parenting style is to be a friend and nothing more. I had to be the one that doled out punishment for lying, stealing, looking at porn, etc and at every turn I was refuted by her and punishment was removed. I was then labeled as the bad guy. It was not limited to punishments either. She believes that the children should not have chores or do things that teach them responsibility. So when I do that, again I am called a bad guy by her to the children for making them do chores or take responsibility for their actions.
Sorry for the long post.
