Beware the Narcissists Sociopaths Psychopaths!

puffftttt everyone is crazy !!!

I agree! I posted this on fakebook today: "I've determined that EVERYONE has "mental issues". Name all the conditions and you can find pieces of yourself somewhere."

I've been saying that for over 40 yEARS. Best anyone can do is maintain a non violent existence while we deal with serious inner beast. Its my best advice.

Narcissistic behavior is as ancient as love making. Science is good at labeling ordinary human behaviors as psychpathic sometimes in order to further their science and pharmaceutical agenda. People confuse normal narcissitic behaviors with full blown narcissism sociopaths. So if someone is selfish don't mistake this a narcissism. However, the phenomenon of extreme narcissist sociopaths is definitely at an all time high. Gas Lighting, stonewalling, mental abuse is real. Stay away from these types. Don't try to 'fix' them. They don't want to be fixed. They enjoy the demons that drive them, and the false self in control of their lives.

Especially present in Millennials, will be more of an epidemic in the next generation with the influence of social media.

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My mother is a controlling Narcissist. Sometimes dealing with a Narcissist makes a person feel like they are in the twillight zone. The best thing to do is to love and not give in to any hate or vengeful attitudes. Be blessed.

Thats right, its never the pot smoker's fault, or responsibility for their own actions. Its always the somebody elses fault.

Lol classic narcissist behavior. Justlike I know my narcissist baby mamma will want to get back with me. Even Christians can be effected by this mental disorder. I feel if one truley repents God can heal anyone of this. If you guys aren't aware of this a good fasting and detox along with a vegan diet (raw vegan preferably) can cure these mental disorders. This is only conjecture and hyperbole.

But what if a person doesnt smoke pot is a hard worker and has their crap together. Trust me narcissism sociopaths are real and you will know if you ever deal with one.

Many Narcissists are highly intelligent. They use the watch my right hand while my other hand is doing this. In other words, they may convince you they need love when their true agenda is straight up cash and everything you have. This is why many victims of Narcissists are usually emotionally, financially, and spiritually destroyed by these vampires.

yeah, you guys are the worst. it is absolutely no wonder that none of you were able to help any of the narcis you knew.

in order to make the back burner person cool, the narci needs to realize that they were in a traumatic situation, or an x-factor. they need to understand that whatever the soul crushing episode was that caused them to kill their old self was a very mean or violent or traumatic thing, that honestly not everyone goes through. they need to understand that who they really are is a wonderful human being, that persona or that personality that soul is beautiful and needed and loved.

the soul gets killed when it is rejected, deemed unsatisfactory, ugly, not good enough.

Of course there will be an asshole on here who says that that soul is weak. More often than not, the trauma happens during childhood.

Narcis are not soulless evils who wander the universe preying on the emotions of their victims. That is full retard.

They are kind and gentle people who are full of life who have been trampled on by somebody mean.

It is a defense mechanism, often leaving the person without hope. If a narci were to read this thread, they would be left without hope still.

The unfortunate reality is that at this point, there is no evidence to show that a sociopath can change. Currently, there is nothing that has been proven effective as a treatment for a sociopath. Researchers and practitioners aren't giving up, though. Can sociopaths be cured? Experts hope they can.

In the meantime, professionals advise that the best way to deal with a sociopath is to cut off all contact. Doing so may be the best treatment possible, at least for the non-sociopath.
[link to www.healthyplace.com]

Four Steps to Protect Yourself

Be on your guard at all times. Know what you can and cannot expect from the sociopath.
Avoid going to this person for emotional support or advice. Being vulnerable in this way opens you up to being hurt.
Imagine a boundary between yourself and the sociopath. Form a picture of it in your mind. Build a wall that you can see in your imagination that protects you. Everything the sociopath says or that is hurtful bounces off this imaginary wall.
Don’t make excuses for the sociopath. Instead, hold him accountable for his actions. The stronger and more direct you are, the less the sociopath will try to take advantage of you.
[link to blogs.psychcentral.com]

As we can see in the verses above, people who are classified as having a reprobate mind have some knowledge of God and perhaps know of His commandments. However, they live impure lives and have very little desire to please God. Those who have reprobate minds live corrupt and selfish lives. Sin is justified and acceptable to them. The reprobates are those whom God has rejected and has left to their own devices.

[link to www.gotquestions.org]

I didn't find out the hard way, my daughter did. I never liked him from day one and told her so. He just was off from the beginning. I have no doubt that evil people are out there and take advantage of others. I've never deluded myself to the contrary.

OP. I am sorry you have gone through that. However, your thread is enlightening and I appreciate it. This is a great warning on what to look out for and how to protect yourself. Thank you.

You are very welcome! I am also healing thru this...

Last week I read a woman (40's and gorgeous) who has lived with a man for the past 5 years (also 40's handsome and healthy). They started with a health sex life and all seemed well in the world. Then the pressures of every day life began to mount and he felt loss of control after which he lost all interest in sex. Recently she watched a TV show about something called Sexual Anorexia, which described him perfectly. When she told him about it, and discussed how similar his symptom were, he refused to listen, stating that he no longer has sexual interest.


There are few men these days who have given up on sex. There are just too many options out there when there is a physical problem. In the case of my client, she has a troubled male who won't get professional help and uses sex as a control tool ... yes ladies ... men can play that game too ... and you know what's going to happen. She is leaving him, especially as she is totally into self-help and the healing arts and he is into frustration which always leads to verbal abuse.

Sexual anorexia is a term used to describe a loss of "appetite" for romantic-sexual interaction. However, the term is used broadly and can be better defined as a fear of intimacy to the point that the person has severe anxiety surrounding sex with emotional content i.e. in an intimate relationship.
Other practitioners have applied the term in their own way. In the view of some practitioners, corroborating the seminal work of Patrick Carnes, there are people who appear to have a sexual addiction which is expressed through a variety of behaviors such as the compulsive use of strip clubs, prostitutes, cyberporn sites, etc. but more accurately fit the definition of sexual anorexic in that they seem to lack the ability to have a relationship of a sexual nature beyond a paid-for or anonymous experience. The person does not have an aversion to sex but to intimacy.
[link to www.crystalinks.com]

For those that are healing it is hard but know that each passing hour it will get better...

I feel like I'm emerging from a cocoon... I feel love from the people close to me that love me unconditionally no matter my past mistakes or imperfections...
I am SO appreciative of the many colors and brightness of other human beings... The emotions are a colorful facet and really help and embed our souls...
I can finally feel the sun on my face (he forbade this cuz it would age me)... I can take deep breaths and fill myself with life and not be ashamed of being the feeling human being that I am, schakles off!

I appreciate real feeling emotional humans so much more now and tho I may be guarded I can't let this affect how I deal with everyone, and I can embrace the sexual being that I truly am without feeling ashamed for it...

Stay tuned ha ha!

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Love and Light to you all! Shine brightly! They hate that!

The close proximity—living and working together—began to change things. After a short time, McKenna found herself growing repulsed by Dan’s habits, his nearness. She rarely felt affectionate toward him anymore and even when she did feel her old fondness, she withheld. He often said to her, “It feels like I’m alone here,” but McKenna resented what she thought of as Dan’s neediness. She never wanted to have sex anymore, which left them both feeling unsatisfied and resentful.

Two years had gone by and the couple had only been intimate a handful of times. When Dan told McKenna he wanted to move out, she broke down. She knew he was only doing what was best for him, but she felt abandoned. That night, she took off to the bars, dressed in a plunging neckline and knee-high leather boots. She wanted to escape inside the skin of a stranger, to feel numb but wanted.

Weiss, like other experts in the field, believes people who suffer from sexual addiction experience disordered intimacy, a condition that causes intolerance to (emotional) closeness. The term “sexual anorexia” describes a period of sexual and emotional abstinence, in which an individual, usually with sexual addiction, avoids emotional or sexual proximity. Usually, sexual anorexia emerges when a person becomes involved with someone who is available for an intimate connection, not just sex. In this way a person with sexual addiction may go through “bipolar” periods, swinging from episodes of hypersexuality and times of sexual anorexia. This causes confusion not only for loved ones, but for the sex addict.
[link to www.hypersexualdisorders.com]

Many marriages or long-term relationships may endure symptoms of intimacy anorexia, not just ones in which a partner suffers sexual addiction. The reasons, again, have to do with disordered intimacy and until those issues have been resolved, the behaviors are unlikely to change. Some of the symptoms of intimacy/sexual anorexia are:

Withholding love
Withholding praise or positive attention
Withholding sex
Using silence or anger to control
Consistent or unfounded criticism
Unwillingness or inability to share feelings
Staying busy so that no time is left for your partner
Controlling or shaming partner over matters of money
[link to www.hypersexualdisorders.com]

Sexual Anorexia may have a component of abstinence, but it differs in that all of the person’s energy is focused on avoiding sex or intimacy at all costs. In general Sexual Anorexia is an addiction that shuts down a person’s ability to truly love others or God. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous claim that “anorexia is a busy addiction it consists of not doing something and not doing something and not doing something. Not trusting. Not committing. Not surrendering (quoted in Carnes, 1997, p.55).”

This affects all relationships creating an unhealthy situation in which the person may shut down on all forms of intimacy with the opposite sex or the same sex. This also tends to deteriorate one’s relationship with God. If someone is unable to trust others enough to enter into healthy relationships they will probably be unable to trust God enough to be intimate with him. Additionally when one’s whole mental energy is put into avoiding sex there is no energy left for that person to engage God.
[link to wheregraceabounds.org]

The video of the catholic lady was most compelling on this thread.

When she described the Nazis training having a puppy to mingle with the soldiers and then they would have the soldiers watch as other tortured and killed the dog as the men cried only to go back to their living quarters and be presented with another puppy to do it all again until love was killed was a perfect description of living with a broken person.


Men or Women that are married to someone who is a perpetual cheater no longer "care" if their spouse cheats. The silent treatment after expressing something important to the spouse only works for so long and then the spouse does not "care".

All of this dysfunction kills love.





I think the reason we are seeing an avalanche of Narcissists/empty souls is directly related to divorce trauma and sexual trauma. (yeahh for teen promiscuity)

Children were never meant to be exposed to the pain of losing the family unit. Children were never to be exposed to sex before they are in a protected marriage environment to develop love.

We NEED both a father and a mother. Each parent has unique qualities and a role to play and can not be replaced. The world around us is in so much pain.


Abandonment is not really the answer. Love TRUE righteous LOVE is the answer. IMO Start today in your own home.

Many anorexics play a game called, “Starve the dog”. They starve their spouse or partner of intimacy which, long term, causes the spouse or partner to act out in some way, for example, anger or overeating and then blame their spouse for the problem in the marriage.

A second game I see intimacy anorexics play is, “I can read your mind”. In this game the intimacy anorexic declares, in their mind, what you are thinking or feeling and guesses your motives (they are always negative interpretations). They don’t have to tell you what you’re thinking, they just get to treat you as if that’s what you’re thinking. They get to treat you poorly, create distance and blame you for the whole thing. Crazy, right? However, this game is constant in a relationship with an intimacy anorexic.

Intimacy anorexia is a stealth process. Once you understand what it is, you will never go back to not seeing it. It’s like Neo in the Matrix movie, once he took the pill he couldn’t go back to his previous life.
[link to www.drdougweiss.com]

And yet, what I see in this thread is a gender war of "the other sex is the narcissist".

It seems we should agree that both sides are right and both sides are the narcissist and that it is not a gender thing but a people thing and if we can look inward first and point our fingers at our own chests and at the chest of OUR OWN genders in our minds, we may find what we need to break the cycle of blame and accusations by identifying these same traits everyone is attributing to narcissist in ourselves and in our support systems around us.

Narcissism can not beat from the outside with a label to attach to people willy nilly but must beat from the inside starting with ourselves and those close to us that we routinely forgive and ignore their narcissistic behaviors because they are "one of us". A fellow man, a fellow woman.

That is why this is getting worse, because no one is honestly looking at this from a perspective outside of relationships of the male/female dynamic and it is not and has never been a gender specific or relationship specific disorder.

Everyone is hunting rabbits with a fishing pole and using worms as bait.

No one is looking at the big picture of how ridiculous they look applying the narcissist diagnoses to gender and relationships only.

Narcissistic abuse is an emotional trauma. It targets your primal abandonment wound. When you feel betrayed, rejected, and abandoned by the Narcissist, your amygdala hijacks your your rational thinking and sends you into fight-or-flight mode. You have a thought (I’ve been rejected because I’m not good enough), you experience an emotion from that thought (panic, sadness, depression), and then you run with it like a Running Back on crack with blinders on.

Yeah…you’ll want to stop doing that.

There’s not a lot you can do to prevent this from happening completely, but practicing self-soothing methods and grounding techniques will help damper this emotional hijack if repeated consistently. The best techniques are the same ones used to help with PTSD triggers and emotional trauma.
[link to letmereach.com (secure)]

Healing and moving on from pathological narcissistic abuse requires immense inner strength, the very strength that narcissists systematically try to strip from their victims. Survivors must rebuild what they’ve lost, or create what was never created in the first place. That is not an easy feat, but it is an attainable goal; something that must be done for personal sanity and peace of mind.

It doesn’t seem fair. Survivors must do all the work; they need extensive counseling, must stay dignified under the pressure of unfair judgment, must take actions that feel contrary to their natural behavior or inclinations, and must accept the reality that they will never make sense out of the irrational behavior exhibited by their narcissistic abuser.

Survivors have the right to live their lives unencumbered by the abuse of their past. They have the right to live happy lives, despite the malevolent intent of narcissistic abusers that wish them otherwise. And they have the right to do whatever is needed to protect themselves from abusive relationships. Saying “yes” to happiness means saying “no” to toxic relationships.
[link to www.healthyplace.com]

The narcissist ages without mercy and without grace. His withered body and his overwrought mind betray him all at once. He stares with incredulity and rage at cruel mirrors. He refuses to accept his growing fallibility. He rebels against his decrepitude and mediocrity. Accustomed to being awe-inspiring and the recipient of adulation - the narcissist cannot countenance his social isolation and the pathetic figure that he cuts.

The narcissist suffers from mental progeria. Subject to childhood abuse, he ages prematurely and finds himself in a time warp, constantly in the throes of a midlife crisis.

As a child prodigy, a sex symbol, a stud, a public intellectual, an actor, an idol - the narcissist was at the centre of attention, the eye of his personal twister, a black hole which sucked people's energy and resources dry and spat out with indifference their mutilated carcasses. No longer. With old age comes disillusionment. Old charms wear thin.

Having been exposed for what he is - a deceitful, treacherous, malignant egotist - the narcissist's old tricks now fail him. People are on their guard, their gullibility reduced. The narcissist - being the rigid, precariously balanced structure that he is - can't change. He reverts to old forms, re-adopts hoary habits, succumbs to erstwhile temptations. He is made a mockery by his accentuated denial of reality, by his obdurate refusal to grow up, an eternal, malformed child in the sagging body of a decaying man.
[link to samvak.tripod.com]

You are right. Every soul needs love, but some souls don't want to change. They hate the light and love the darkness. This coping mechanism is the result of childhood traumas. But I think it's foolish to think anyone can change a Narcissist or Sociopath. We can only pray for them and if you don't keep them at arms distance you will dance a dance of death.