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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73018975  United States11/02/2016 01:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29378949 United States11/02/2016 02:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Castle Law. Someone barges through my door they get shot. Now your husband seems like a beta male. That is probably your fault for neutering him through your marriage. Go buy a gun. Go take lessons at the range and practice till your an expert. Then tell your family to fuck off. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 38844485  New Zealand11/02/2016 02:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 56180063  Germany11/02/2016 02:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States11/02/2016 02:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Smart man your hubby, sticking ones nose in blood kin feuds is a lose/lose. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 56180063 I agree. OP, you need to tell your brother that he is not welcome in your home if he is going to yell at you. That is abuse. And if he does that again you are going to call the law on him. And then follow through with it if he calls your bluff. If he continues to cause problems then you get a restraining order on him. He needs to go to an anger management class. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States11/02/2016 02:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Castle Law. Someone barges through my door they get shot. Now your husband seems like a beta male. That is probably your fault for neutering him through your marriage. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29378949 Go buy a gun. Go take lessons at the range and practice till your an expert. Then tell your family to fuck off. Guns are not a good thing to have around in a family squabble. I am sure she does not want to shoot him. Better to have him locked up if he does this again. OP, you might want to keep your doors locked so no one can barge in. Especially right now when family tension is high. Grab the phone if your brother comes over and do not let him into the house. If he has anything to say let him say it outside and again if it gets out of control you call the authorities to come pick him up. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States11/02/2016 02:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 73018975 United States11/02/2016 02:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29378949 United States11/02/2016 02:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States11/02/2016 02:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73289909  United Kingdom11/02/2016 02:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
The Anonymous Deplorable
 User ID: 61180068  Israel11/02/2016 02:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have to say i disagree some. First and foremost if you where my wife you most assuredly would not have been disrespected like that. There would have been a conversation but not yelling or screaming and most assuredly no physical intimidation. That being said, I do not care who you are, you barge into my house without knocking you will be shot. My parents know to knock on my door or let me know ahead of time they are stopping by. Unannounced barging in will not end well for you. Your bro was out of line period. I would have stopped the conversation immediately and escorted him out of my house. I would also have defended my wife. I dont care that blood is blood blah blah...when you marry its more than blood. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72722600  Netherlands11/02/2016 02:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? To be honest as a man i think you should be happy your husband respected the fact this is a family thing. Probably knowing your brother wouldnt mind getting agressive with him for junping into this. Now if your brother would actually attack you... your husband should obviously jump in. In this case tho he couldnt do more than you; telling your brother to chill. But you actually have a bond with your brother so for you thats a better option than for your husband. You should not be mad at your husband imo. Not at all. It was a familyfeud.. or how you call that. He probably did what he fellt would get the best result. Wich is your brother not getting extra mad. Not just at your but also at your husband for interfering |
| T-Man
Entitled title User ID: 72722600 Netherlands11/02/2016 02:29 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29378949 United States11/02/2016 02:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? To be honest as a man i think you should be happy your husband respected the fact this is a family thing. Probably knowing your brother wouldnt mind getting agressive with him for junping into this. Now if your brother would actually attack you... your husband should obviously jump in. In this case tho he couldnt do more than you; telling your brother to chill. But you actually have a bond with your brother so for you thats a better option than for your husband. You should not be mad at your husband imo. Not at all. It was a familyfeud.. or how you call that. He probably did what he fellt would get the best result. Wich is your brother not getting extra mad. Not just at your but also at your husband for interfering THIS is a typical beta here folks. Do not be like this person. Besides being a dumb ass that can't spell. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73282826 United States11/02/2016 02:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| BrokenTech
User ID: 72994177 United States11/02/2016 02:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? Family before money, always. I think that if anyone allows money to separate a family are fucking dipshits. Last Edited by BrokenTech on 11/02/2016 02:42 PM |
| Craazee8
User ID: 71861331 United States11/02/2016 02:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First of all, your brother is acting the way your mother allowed him to act, that is showing no respect to his family members as human beings. He got away with it growing up at her home and now he is simply repeating a set of learned accepted behaviors. Your husband shouldn't have gotten in between the argument, but what he should be doing now is telling you with complete authority that your brother is no longer welcomed in his home ever because of the way he behaved there. And you should hold to that. Warn him, and if he ever shows up at your house, call the police. And what you and the rest of your family need to do is to explain to your brother that - 1. You are abusive and that that is not acceptable. 2. You as a family will meet and make decisions about what is going to happen, and he is excluded from all those decisions because he is abusive. Have discussions and make decisions without his input. Tell him what is you all have decided. And if he argues in any way, call the police. If he makes any threats, telling him to go ahead and do it and you will call the police. 3. None of you are going to entertain his behavior, he needs to stay away from all of you completely from this point forward until He takes some steps to get counseling for his abusive nature. 4. Once he has received counseling, he needs to start apologizing for his past. Stick this plan. Abusive people are mentally ill. |
| T-Man
Entitled title User ID: 72722600 Netherlands11/02/2016 02:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? To be honest as a man i think you should be happy your husband respected the fact this is a family thing. Probably knowing your brother wouldnt mind getting agressive with him for junping into this. Now if your brother would actually attack you... your husband should obviously jump in. In this case tho he couldnt do more than you; telling your brother to chill. But you actually have a bond with your brother so for you thats a better option than for your husband. You should not be mad at your husband imo. Not at all. It was a familyfeud.. or how you call that. He probably did what he fellt would get the best result. Wich is your brother not getting extra mad. Not just at your but also at your husband for interfering THIS is a typical beta here folks. Do not be like this person. Besides being a dumb ass that can't spell. obviously youre the beta here. coming here to talk shit about others cuz youre pathetic and you know it. trying to feed your ego on a forum. weakling. atleast i took the time to actually reply to the OP. cool. you be that 'alpha' that beats up her brother. good choice bro. she will love that...(not) i for one would not do that till id actually have to (if he touches my wife). Id stay out and just watch till that time. and listen to her after its over. no point in making a situation worse just by being a moron. but hey i guess thats where your view comes in. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29378949 United States11/02/2016 02:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? To be honest as a man i think you should be happy your husband respected the fact this is a family thing. Probably knowing your brother wouldnt mind getting agressive with him for junping into this. Now if your brother would actually attack you... your husband should obviously jump in. In this case tho he couldnt do more than you; telling your brother to chill. But you actually have a bond with your brother so for you thats a better option than for your husband. You should not be mad at your husband imo. Not at all. It was a familyfeud.. or how you call that. He probably did what he fellt would get the best result. Wich is your brother not getting extra mad. Not just at your but also at your husband for interfering THIS is a typical beta here folks. Do not be like this person. Besides being a dumb ass that can't spell. obviously youre the beta here. coming here to talk shit about others cuz youre pathetic and you know it. trying to feed your ego on a forum. weakling. atleast i took the time to actually reply to the OP. cool. you be that 'alpha' that beats up her brother. good choice bro. she will love that...(not) i for one would not do that till id actually have to (if he touches my wife). Id stay out and just watch till that time. and listen to her after its over. no point in making a situation worse just by being a moron. but hey i guess thats where your view comes in.  Beta cuck. Still working on that spelling I see. |
| T-Man
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29378949 United States11/02/2016 02:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73271640 United States11/02/2016 03:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? Your husband was wise to stay out of it. Because women tend to bring up shit from the past too much, and after all it would have come between you and your brother, which would lead you to blame your husband. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72568602 United States11/02/2016 03:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 66307242  Canada11/02/2016 03:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Does your brother own your house? If he does that again you need to tell him to leave and if he doesnt then take whatever action you need. ALso tell him that you will not discuss ANY matters with him if he is going to scream and yell, and stick to it. Your husband doesnt want to get stuck in the middle and you shouldnt be mad at him. He feels you are a big enough girl to handle it on your own and you are. I recommend forgiving him but explain, calmly, why you were upset. Btw I am a female. Good luck. I dont understand why so many families become torn when it comes down to inheritance. If my parents left me nothing I would still live a successful and happy life and love my brothers. Never rely or expect anything unless you earned it yourself... then you wont be disappointed. Not directed at you but just saying my 2 cents. |
| Deplorable Wisconsin User ID: 73324585 United States11/02/2016 03:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| BRIEF
User ID: 65696907 United States11/02/2016 03:50 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? Get a 12 Ga and blast a hole in anyone that busts into your home uninvited. I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.  |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73320767 United Kingdom11/02/2016 04:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We are all getting older and our parents are sick. Dad just went into the hospital, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73018975 We are having to separate family property and tension is high. But the question is more personal and I need female and male perspective. My older brother came to my house yesterday mad out of the blue. He has a hairline trigger temper and often fights with other nonfamily members. He is a big guy and has a loud voice and raises yells really really loud. Anyway yesterday he came to my house and to be honest, I am not sure what he was mad about. He barged in the front door and started screaming at the top of his lungs about me not being appreciative of this or that and me owing him thousands of dollars (absolutely not true. I don't owe him anything). So some of the ranting had a kernel of truth buried deep and some of the ranting was just nonsense. However, that is not my question. When he started yelling I yelled for my husband who was elsewhere. My brother yelled at me to leave him alone that "this" whatever "this" was was between him and me. Then he proceeded in his temper tantrum. My husband said nothing. He did not say "do not yell at her". He did not defend me in any manner. I at no time raised my voice or said anything. I did say about ten minutes into the rant that I did not appreciate the abuse. So now I am mad at my brother and my husband. My brother for his abuse and my husband for not defending me. Okay, so what do you think? Male perspective here. Didn't need to read any other posts ... your brother and your husband are fucking assholes. Bullying a defenseless woman and the other refusing to defend her. Big guy, shouts a lot, known for fights with others...yeah, a bully. Scary. Underneath every bully is a wimpy little scared kid. Your brother is frightened about your dad's impending demise. But hasn't got the skills to communicate his feelings. No excuse for frightening a family member who's not half as big and menacing. Your husband was likely steering clear of inflaming the bully. Scared too. No excuse. He's your man, he should be protecting you. My advice FWIW? Get lawyered up asap. Write a factual account of the exchange and all your brother's shouting verbatim. Lodge it with the lawyer. Only allow your brother into your house if he undertakes not to scream at you and frighten you. Don't ask your husband for advice on this, just do it. You must protect yourself...these are the first steps. If you can't afford a lawyer, go to your nearest women's aid office asap and tell them about it, with your written account. Good luck. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73139022 Canada11/02/2016 04:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't really think you should be upset with your husband. He probably thinks you're a big girl and capable of handling your brother. If I were you, I would have left your brother to his ranting and gone into another room. He needed to calm himself down; he didn't need you or your husband to do it for him. Also, once everything was fine between you and your husband, it might have put your husband in an awkward position; maybe your brother would have been pissed at him for getting involved. It was between you and your brother. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73281499 United States11/02/2016 04:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
