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(OP) User ID: 51882530 United States 11/30/2016 10:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ask him if you can borrow can thousand dollars. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1164656 Every time you see him ask for a loan. He will avoid talking to you. That could work. Unless he says yes. Tell your mutual friend you're not interested and having trouble getting the message across. It was his/her idea that no strings would be attached. Enlist their help. Maybe they won't be so quick to play matchmaker next time. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 32185784 I think I will. She's the expert. She dates all the time. I haven't in over 20 years. But if memory serves there were generally more to it than just coffee. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 46893394 United States 11/30/2016 11:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's not like him texting you all the time would change anything. :o) I wouldn't feed the stray either. I would tell him I'm not interested in a relationship and leave it at that. Tell your friends to stop prying. I get the quick sense you're capable of setting them all straight. I like that in a woman. Hey what's your #? Sorry just had to try... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 72666162 United Kingdom 11/30/2016 11:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Best way to be let down gently is to tell a white lie. Start talking about another guy you've been interested in, assuming he's not a complete nutter you will probably survive the jealousy onslaught considering you've only had coffee. Worse case scenario, you end up chopped into pieces and buried somewhere. Life is about risks. |
Garufal
User ID: 71592440 United States 11/30/2016 11:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think you should have some pity sex with him, I feel sorry for him already with his broken heart. lol Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9066334 Wouldn't that be kind of like feeding a stray cat in order to get rid of it? Bad Bad advice. I think he/she knew it too. Op just don't answer his calls if you're not into him. If you bump into him, tell him you're busy & not interested in any relationships right now. Be nice...but keep him at arms length... A epiphany I had watering my lawn one day. "Karma is the universal judicial system that NOBODY is Immune from" -Me I LOVE good juicy gossip. Lay it on me. |
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(OP) User ID: 51882530 United States 11/30/2016 11:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's not like him texting you all the time would change anything. :o) Quoting: Anonymous Coward 46893394 I wouldn't feed the stray either. I would tell him I'm not interested in a relationship and leave it at that. Tell your friends to stop prying. I get the quick sense you're capable of setting them all straight. I like that in a woman. Hey what's your #? Sorry just had to try... Lol! Thanks Best way to be let down gently is to tell a white lie. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 72666162 Start talking about another guy you've been interested in, assuming he's not a complete nutter you will probably survive the jealousy onslaught considering you've only had coffee. Worse case scenario, you end up chopped into pieces and buried somewhere. Life is about risks. That crossed my mind. The first part. All of it actually. Lol What's the worse that could happwn? I think you should have some pity sex with him, I feel sorry for him already with his broken heart. lol Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9066334 Wouldn't that be kind of like feeding a stray cat in order to get rid of it? Bad Bad advice. I think he/she knew it too. Op just don't answer his calls if you're not into him. If you bump into him, tell him you're busy & not interested in any relationships right now. Be nice...but keep him at arms length... Yeah I think have to combine telling him I'm just too busy. He can come to my job as a legitimate customer but has not. I think it won't be terribly difficult to run him off. You can't blame a guy for trying. But I want to make sure he doesn't waste any more time hoping. |
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User ID: 62181644 United States 11/30/2016 11:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Be straight up, just say: "Listen Coffee is Ok, but really I only like it about once every year, so call me next year maybe?" also bring another dude with you next time Last Edited by Thisismyusername on 11/30/2016 11:25 AM "He who strikes terror in others is himself continually in fear." - Claudius Claudianus. Aka. Tatanka |
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User ID: 62181644 United States 11/30/2016 11:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Be straight up, just say: Quoting: *Link* "Listen Coffee is Ok, but really I only like it about once every year, so call me next year maybe?" also bring another dude with you next time Oh. He might forget by next year! exactly... "He who strikes terror in others is himself continually in fear." - Claudius Claudianus. Aka. Tatanka |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 48669907 United States 11/30/2016 11:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All the warning signs were there from the beginning. Either your friend was trying to set you two up or offload them onto you. Either way take it as a learning experience and remember that having coffee with someone who is not already your friend is either gonna be for business or sex. Since your friend would not state the business it's obvious the guy wanted to hook up with you. You should grill your friend for being underhanded and get them to pass it on that you are not interested in this person. |
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(OP) User ID: 51882530 United States 11/30/2016 11:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Be nice but firm. I've been single for a while and it can be lonely at times. Quoting: Flyover County Maybe he is just looking for a friend. You are in a difficult situation for sure I know. Believe me, I get it. The holidays can make it even worse. Plus I'm not a mean person to begin with. I don't like to hurt someone's feelings. But I know the quicker I'm honest with him the better. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 9066334 United States 11/30/2016 11:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He was probably already interested in you & had your mutual friends suggest meeting him for coffee. Now he is going to be a nuisance until you tell him you're not interested. Good luck, I hate finding myself in these kinds of situations. Quoting: Adorable Deplorable He may be lonely so be gentle no matter what. Could just create some other things that keep coming up, and he'll get the point gradually. Quoting: Sungaze_At_Dawn That's it! I want to be kind. He's nice. I don't want him to think I'm interested. But saying I just want to be friends doesn't sound nice. Tell him you just want to have sex, nothing else and you'll contact him and he better be "up for it" when you call. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 70138644 United States 11/30/2016 12:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Be straight up, just say: Quoting: *Link* "Listen Coffee is Ok, but really I only like it about once every year, so call me next year maybe?" also bring another dude with you next time Oh. He might forget by next year! Or he may never forget. Again, nice way to poke fun at a lonely guy. You'll be in that boat soon enough. |