Is men's need for sexual variety conducive for a monogamous relationship?

Or the muslim asshats with 20 wives... that's religion for ya.

Porn and sexual variety is modern cult worship, still worshipping your poles.

Not me.

I think it was here WAY before any cults were invented. So you fail.

Men are hard-wired to fuck as much pussy as they can.

of course our programming isn't conducive to a monogamous relationship. We all get tired of the same ole thing and want something new once in a while. That's just human nature.

But, if you have a good woman, it's a lot easier to be monogamous, that's for sure.

No we don't. I mean don't get me wrong, it's nice to look at women with perfect bodies getting banged, but I sure as hell would never cheat on my wife.

Because first off my wife is my best friend and she is more than able to satisfy any of my needs. Also infidelity brings about more trouble than its actually worth. In fact I would rather stick my dick in a light socket than deal with the drama that cheating would cause.

i.e. losing the house, kids, money etc.. and my best friend.

and they still haven't learned.


They got dumber.

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Fucking is one thing. Fucking and falling in "love" with it is quite another thing. Seems to me it's the "love" thing that fucks it all up.

No more than a woman's need for a variety. We are all in this shitpot together...gender is the least of our worries.

The problem is women crave a monogamous relationship with Chads, who are hypergamous by nature.

OP, if you want an honest, trustworthy, monogamous man, why is it so hard for you to settle with the loyal beta. You know he won't sleep around since he has no other options and won't work to try and get attention/flirt elsewhere. He'll be perfectly happy and fulfilled to have you and just you alone.., what's the big deal?

see what you are forgetting is that humans are more JEALOUS than they "need" variety. they WANT THEIR PERSON TO BE THEIRS. and theirs alone. and in return, they pledge their monogamy. it isn't easy. those instincts are strong to spread the seed.

and it is kind of beautiful in it's way. it becomes a crystal thing, this pledged love.

sometimes a person backslides, and then they regret it. statistics will tell you that in a very very long marriage (and marriage is LONG! haha) you can expect for things to get hard now and then.

i don't know why people aren't easier on their spouses? probably you should SAY you'd divorce over cheating, but not really DO it. i think europeans get this. when someone cheats they roll their eyes and say "oh my god you IDIOT! Stop It! you're married, remember?" and get on with life together.

A very excellent, succinct explanation!

No. The only thing that separates us from dogs humping stuffed animals and monkey's fucking holes in trees is our sentient conscientiousness. In other words, it takes effort to be monogamous. For me, it takes little effort. I think the amount of effort depends on how attracted you are, physically, to your partner. The older I get the more FAT and ugly other women seem to be compared to my wife. When I see my wife hanging out with a bunch of hippos and old looking hags, I know I'm lucky as fuck.

Its desire, not a need. I have overcome porn and mastrubation and havent done so in over a year. Also sexual fantasies, gone 100%. But it took me over a year step by step to overcome this.

Nothing more deplorable than a woman in a relationship trying to comfort a lonely depressed man with anything but sex, laughfable

Just putting it out there that STDs came from fucking sheep.... So yes for a long long time.

Me too. I don't see how a man's WANT for variety is a NEED.

Sounds like total BS men use to justify acting like tomcats. I'm so ashamed to be a guy sometimes.

Man wasn't created to have multiple sexual partners. This is a degenerate state that only occurs when man chooses to reject his Creator, the Lord Jesus Christ.

OP I am not writing this to criticize you - but simply sharing an observation... From having come across some of your posts in the past - I was given the impression that you are still struggling with unresolved emotional 'wounding' from your previous relationship(s)? This would contribute to some very polarized/strong opinions and for many people, often leads to making broad-sweeping generalizations about the opposite sex... If the emotional 'wounding' had been healed and resolved - there's a very good chance you would find yourself operating with a much more balanced and more objective outlook....

How many of the bible characters had multiple wives in that story?

its like an apple
we dont want the hole thing
just a bite then move on to the next apple
they all taste just a little different
some better than others

As a man born into a family of male whores, I can tell you I think there is a supernatural component to it, especially when men are driven to sleep with many different partners.

I have seen some men who are clearly not in control of themselves over ANY woman who passes by…

Biblically, there are NO good examples of polygamy. They all end poorly. The most famous, King David, almost lost his kingdom, his life and he actually did lose his favorite son all because of desiring another man's woman…

The truth appears to be that men are not necessarily wired for polygamy. Choices they make can lead them down this path.

The way I see it now, is you either follow God and light or you find yourselves following death and darkness…

the more you follow God, the less you desire godless behavior and the more you see it for what it is. Otherwise, you are in darkness and do not see it, chasing your own tail or other's.

Nope. Evidence is in the the consumption of pornography, a decidedly male activity.

Truth.

this is an illusion of idolatry, imo…

your focus is idolizing women, as in objectifying them, and using them for some erroneous method of self-pleasing…

the actual plan, as if it needs to be said, is for men and women to marry one partner, become one, and procreate, which leads to much more profound realizations and awarenesses than spinning your wheels whoring…

aside from producing life, eventually we learn to value love beyond the physical as we age together…raise grandchildren… prepare for and experience death...

No it's not, after being married for 25 years the sex is terrible if existent at all. I met a 34 yo Asian girl and the wood is constant. Must be the way God wired us: "Be Fruitful and Multiply"

It's a need, not a want really. Hard to explain, and NO, we don't see the same for the female.

Umm, all men in that time had multiple wives, you fail.