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Should I confront wife about cheating more than 25 years ago before we got married? | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71510059  United States08/11/2017 10:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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the deplorable ar-15 nut
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75367087  Canada08/11/2017 10:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71510059 United States08/11/2017 10:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is what I know I should do, but it literally wakes me up in the morning. Logically I know it shouldn't matter, ancient history. She's a good wife and mom. We have a life. But it's there, in my mind. I buried it deep, forgot all about it, but now it's back. |
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| PappaDog
User ID: 2307286 United States08/11/2017 11:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before we were married, I suspect my then girlfriend cheated on me on a girls trip. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71510059 A few months ago, she let something slip in a casual conversation that pretty well confirmed this. Did you, 25 years ago, suspect she had an affair and still married her; OR do you just now suspect the affair happened 25 years ago? If it is the first, you need to get some help. If is the second, or either way really, she needs to confess and repent. Get her house in order then approach you through Strength of Spirit. Christian Scientist Patriot Pappa of 2 |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 41369230 United States08/11/2017 11:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70434452 United States08/11/2017 11:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70189922 United States08/11/2017 11:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71510059 United States08/11/2017 11:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before we were married, I suspect my then girlfriend cheated on me on a girls trip. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71510059 A few months ago, she let something slip in a casual conversation that pretty well confirmed this. Did you, 25 years ago, suspect she had an affair and still married her; OR do you just now suspect the affair happened 25 years ago? If it is the first, you need to get some help. If is the second, or either way really, she needs to confess and repent. Get her house in order then approach you through Strength of Spirit. It's hard to remember. Yes, I suspected and called her out on it, she denied it. There is some element of plausible deniability. I had totally forgotten about it until the slip, but there is a chance I have my timelines wrong. However, I really don't think so. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75272821 United States08/11/2017 11:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71510059 United States08/11/2017 11:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, I am not. She might not even remember clearly, as it would have been a ONS. I am not proud of this, but I did go read her old college diary and there is nothing in there about this, even though it chronicles every guy she dated/had sex with. I only read the years we were together, and it's all about me and how much she loves me and wants to marry me. So, yeah, I could be completely fucking wrong. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73613959 United States08/11/2017 11:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 826836 United States08/11/2017 11:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, I am not. She might not even remember clearly, as it would have been a ONS. I am not proud of this, but I did go read her old college diary and there is nothing in there about this, even though it chronicles every guy she dated/had sex with. I only read the years we were together, and it's all about me and how much she loves me and wants to marry me. So, yeah, I could be completely fucking wrong. Then maybe you should let it go. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 41369230 United States08/11/2017 11:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | NO!!!!!! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75272821 DO NOT DO IT! This was 25 years ago. It probably did not even get to the point of truly "Cheating" on you. You will ruin your marriage if you start up on this. Forgive and forget. She slipped up reciently. He wouldnt be starting anything. She may had ruined the marriage by cheating. What if it continued after marriage? Hey honey. I cheated on you but you cant be upset because it happened in the past. It doesnt matter when it happened |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 22254598 United States08/11/2017 11:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, I am not. She might not even remember clearly, as it would have been a ONS. I am not proud of this, but I did go read her old college diary and there is nothing in there about this, even though it chronicles every guy she dated/had sex with. I only read the years we were together, and it's all about me and how much she loves me and wants to marry me. So, yeah, I could be completely fucking wrong. That's creepy as fuck. |
| Patagonians User ID: 64646640  Argentina08/11/2017 11:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75272821 United States08/11/2017 11:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If this is important to you so many years after the fact...then, to me, it looks like you're looking for an "out" to the marriage. Much more going on here than you're sharing. Just my two cents.... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70434452 ^^^^ THIS Agreed. My dad started up with this kind of shit when he got very sick with a rare disease. It made my mom a nervous wreck. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 826836 United States08/11/2017 11:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, I am not. She might not even remember clearly, as it would have been a ONS. I am not proud of this, but I did go read her old college diary and there is nothing in there about this, even though it chronicles every guy she dated/had sex with. I only read the years we were together, and it's all about me and how much she loves me and wants to marry me. So, yeah, I could be completely fucking wrong. You are most likely totally misreading something. Its been 25 years. You are married. Thats all that matters now. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 41369230 United States08/11/2017 11:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What outcome are you looking for?? I'd really answer that question first before you do anything at all. Personally I don't see the upside. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73613959 Is there ever an upside to cheating on your partner. I love how people justify possible cheating because it happened in the past |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21391269 United States08/11/2017 11:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before we were married, I suspect my then girlfriend cheated on me on a girls trip. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71510059 A few months ago, she let something slip in a casual conversation that pretty well confirmed this. We've been married 25 years. I don't have any evidence she ever did it again. I know I should just shut up about it, but it is slowly eating at me. If I ever show a flash of jealousy, she is always adamant that she never has and never would cheat on me, but I know this to be untrue. What you say you, GLP? Should I call her out? How would you like to have someone get on you for anything you did before you were married and 25 years ago? Good grief, let it go. |
| jdfearl
User ID: 2298633 United States08/11/2017 11:26 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before we were married, I suspect my then girlfriend cheated on me on a girls trip. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71510059 A few months ago, she let something slip in a casual conversation that pretty well confirmed this. We've been married 25 years. I don't have any evidence she ever did it again. I know I should just shut up about it, but it is slowly eating at me. If I ever show a flash of jealousy, she is always adamant that she never has and never would cheat on me, but I know this to be untrue. What you say you, GLP? Should I call her out? Tell us about the Gals trip and why you suspect.... I'd love to change the world But I don't know what to do So I'll leave it up to you |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71510059 United States08/11/2017 11:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, I am not. She might not even remember clearly, as it would have been a ONS. I am not proud of this, but I did go read her old college diary and there is nothing in there about this, even though it chronicles every guy she dated/had sex with. I only read the years we were together, and it's all about me and how much she loves me and wants to marry me. So, yeah, I could be completely fucking wrong. That's creepy as fuck. I know. Weaksauce, but I did it. I know I should let this lie and that it is ancient history. No good can come out of bringing this up, but at the same time, part of me wonders if I have been a fucking idiot for 25 years. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73613959 United States08/11/2017 11:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What outcome are you looking for?? I'd really answer that question first before you do anything at all. Personally I don't see the upside. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73613959 Is there ever an upside to cheating on your partner. I love how people justify possible cheating because it happened in the past You sound like a Nazi. You'd have a man blow up a perfectly good 25 year marriage for something that may or may not have happened during 1 single evening prior to the marriage? Do you know most men lose 3/4 of their wealth in a divorce and their relationship with children is never the same? You are short sighted and probably shot your foot in a similar situation and want to see others suffer in your sad single brokeass boat yes? |
| Deplorable Donkey Brains
User ID: 74782812 United States08/11/2017 11:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Once a cheater, always a cheater. She's probably banging the mailman as we speak. Do you have Donkey Brains? Get certified! You can trust me, I'm a doctor. [link to www.donkeybrained.com] |
