Has Your Toddler/ Child Ever Talked To or With Himself Constantly?

Perfectly normal. Happens all the time and not just when playing with toys.

Why would she share with you who she was talking to if she's been punished for it?

Ignore it. It will pass.

People have imaginary conversations with themselves...all the time. Sometimes outloud.

Your daughter may have been having a conversation with herself after being punished, to deal with her feelings. Saying she does NOT want to hurt you, shows her dealing with those emotions, properly.

Totally normal OP. She is just young and learning social mores.

Clarification we never punished our child for talking to herself.. apologies if my wording came off as such. She was punished for something else and then went to her room to 'get away' and start talking to 'someone'.

Hopefully it is just a phase.

My youngest doesn't have a thought that doesn't come out of her mouth.

This is how every episode of "a haunting" started.

How is it justified to punish her?

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they do it all the time..it's called imagination. No worries, that usually goes away by the late teens

Thanks, I didn't initially see it that way, guess my mind is always inclined towards doom.

OP, you are not strong enough to have children.

Ha ha I do this all the time and they have not come to take me away yet!!! In fact,I have heard it is a sign of intelligence.... I am not very bright but I bet your child is!!

Happy to help. I was a preschool teacher and nanny for much of my 20s.

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Where did that come from? You don't even know this guy and you make a judgement like that based on a single slight incident that he asks a question about. Asking others for insight shows strength in this situation.

Kids often act out to deal with their emotions, either by imaginary friend conversations, talking with themselves, drawing pictures, etc. Does she have any exposure to prayer or religion? Maybe what you think of as an imaginary conversation is her attempt at "prayer" to God or a guardian angel, etc.

Put a recorder in her room so you can hear the conversations if you really want to kno whats up.

Yes it is. :)

She is utilizing projection, reasoning skills, and imagination to balance herself and the angry emotions that come with being punished.

LOL, well I did have a blender inexplicably throw itself violently from the kitchen counter-top during the Witching Hour last week. I was in the living room taking a nap which is adjacent to the kitchen area.

I was initially thinking that the negative energy she might have given off attracted something from the other side. She has a wild imagination, this one time while were vacationing in the Caymans, I think she had one of those REM Sleep Dreams and said she saw an "Evil Cinderella" hovering over her and that the ceiling fan turned into an eye. She did contract a fever that night so I dismissed it as a hallucination symptom.

I like your perspective better than mine!

We aren't very religious in regards to attending mass and also we don't pray..she's only been exposed to prayer/religion during Pre-K at a Baptist church.

i know this can be a worrying thing OP.
i can talk only for myself because i don,t know you and/or
your child:

been doing it ever since i was born ,
when i was born i needed to be slapped because i didn,t cry
i cried a bit and then lay still looking around the room.
the docter and nurses found that very weird but i was healthy.

after a few months i still didn,t laugh, my grandmother came by one day, and told my mother that:today he will laugh at me, she has been doing ridiculous for 2 hours before i let go a smile.

when i was 4 my grandmother asked me why i was so quiet what i was thinking about.
i answered: im talking about the environment. and shutted up again.

ive never stopped thinking ever since i was born, its one big maelstrom in my head.

i worry a lot ever since i was born, i think alot ever since i was born, i contemplate everything ever since i was born.

and i have been talking to myself forever to put things in perspective, to give it a place in my head, i know that i get anwers from God in my thoughts because they are totally familiar in how i do it, its natural to me.(hard to explain)

some say that little kids that talk to themselves talk to angels(i don,t know enough about that).

what i do know is that over all these years (im 34 now) ive been doing the same thing.
people that talk to themselves are lonely people they say,
and in fact that is true, you talk to yourself because you don,t trust other people with you thoughts, afraid of people getting angry at you or ridicule you.
ive never felt quite at home in this world.

your daughter could be that way too,like i said i don,t know her.
my nephew(6) is in some way the same as me, he talks the ears of the people he knows and trusts , otherwise he talks to himself.
getting real angry at him shuts him up and shuts him down, he gets so upset that he doesn,t want to talk anymore.
my sister knows this so she has a different approach.

couple of years ago i heard a song from above and beyond
(trance music (like old gospel music) has a way of soothing my head)

the songtext applied perfectly to my life.
and im not even ashamed for it to say i cried.

on a good day;

A little bit lost and a little bit lonely
Little bit cold here, a little bit of fear
But I hold on and I feel strong
And I know that I can
I'm getting used to it
Lit the fuse to it
Like to know who I am

I've been talking to myself forever, yeah
And how I wish I knew me better, yeah
Still sitting on a shelf and never
Never seen the sun shine brighter
And it feels like me on a good day

I'm a little bit hemmed in
A little bit isolated
A little bit hopeful
A little bit calm
But I hold on and I feel strong
And I know that I can
I'm getting used to it
Lit the fuse to it
Like to know who I am

I've been talking to myself forever, yeah
And how I wish I knew me better, yeah
Still sitting on a shelf and never
Never seen the sun shine brighter
And it feels like me on a good day



do with it what you want OP.
i don,t think you have to worry too much,
but try to gain her trust, and find a different approach.
God bless.

It's completely normal for children to do that, please don't scold her. She's just being herself, don't stifle that.

Geniuses and very creative people are knowing to have full blown conversations. One of my best friends did that even as an adult and she became a very successful saleswoman.

Her imagination does run wild during angry emotions, I guess I can see it that way.. While the wife was scolding her one time, daughter looked at her in complete horror like she saw a ghost..later she said "mommy's face changed, you don't look like mommy, you look like someone else" I get what she was saying. However wife was spooked by this actually. Especially after the "Evil Cinderella" thing that daughter mentioned in the past. My wife's friends always talk about their vacation ghost stories and saying spirits might follow someone they get attached to.. I don't know if true. But the wife sure is eating it up. Hence my initial inquiry on this thread.

Ask her if her imaginary friend ever told her to hurt anyone.

Have her draw her friend for you.

If you are really concerned, and feel it might be more than just innocent muttering, pm me.

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Probably an imaginary friend like many kids probably have at some point, or your daughter is a starseed empath who doesn't like bedtime.

Try singing to her the behavior you prefer. Would you rather have a reclusive poet or a singer?

People's faces are genuinely scary when angry. Especially to a small child.

With that said, your daughter could be psychically sensitive. Poltergeist activity does usually revolve around specific people. The age of 5 seemingly has special significance as well.

As long as she is not scared, feels like she can tell you, I wouldn't make it creepy for her. Hope that make sense.

Mine used to write REDRUM on the walls...never figured out why, but then he grew out of it.

...they grow up so fast don't they.

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Good inspirational thoughts as well as song

My oldest two kids are very close in age... When they were little their toys would play by themselves, and the whole time we lived there, they would be playing in a room, talking to someone. I asked who they were talking to, and every time, it was "the man in black". Always creeped me out.

Another time, in that same house, they were on the couch and I had my back to them...they were singing happy birthday to " grandma", and at some point they were acting mad that "she" wouldn't blow out the candles. They kept on, and out of curiosity I asked where she was. She'd moved from between them to the couch closer to where I was... There was a lot of creepy stuff in that house.

That brings back so many fine memories...I still remember the first dog we killed together.

We all talk constantly with ourselves. But adults tell children not to do it out loud anymore at a certain age.

Besides that, who wants others to know what your inner conversations are?