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anon User ID: 75101497 United States 11/30/2017 12:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm heartbroken. Quoting: Deplorable Azila_Again 6 years ago I took a job away from friends and family. I came several hours away from everyone and everything I'd ever known. I set up home in a new place not knowing a soul. I came for work. I just couldn't find anything where I was. This man worked at the new place. 25 years older than me. Immediately we became friends. We laughed, we drank, we ate together. He is married and welcomed me into his family. I spent many nights at his home with his wife. Spent every Father's Day with him. Not a holiday that passed did he not invite me over, knowing I'd be sitting home. He was my friend. My true friend. On Saturday he was put in ICU for organ failure. Yesterday his heart stopped. He had brain damage because of it. Today, his wife asked me to be there while they pulled the plug. What a heart wrenching thing to witness. My heart is in shambles. Please pray for Merrill (Chico) I loved that man and my heart is broken. Thank you GLP. My mother passed away and I was not there to see her goodbye. Peace brother, Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 75912218 Australia 11/30/2017 12:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Condolences. We are often brought together at these times for a reason, Merrill is blessed to have a true freind like you. I trust you will be there for her as it's often harder to deal with the aragement's post parting and family's often need a level head through the process. I hope the greif is short lived for you. |
Chugiakian
User ID: 3137409 United States 11/30/2017 01:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm heartbroken. Quoting: Deplorable Azila_Again 6 years ago I took a job away from friends and family. I came several hours away from everyone and everything I'd ever known. I set up home in a new place not knowing a soul. I came for work. I just couldn't find anything where I was. This man worked at the new place. 25 years older than me. Immediately we became friends. We laughed, we drank, we ate together. He is married and welcomed me into his family. I spent many nights at his home with his wife. Spent every Father's Day with him. Not a holiday that passed did he not invite me over, knowing I'd be sitting home. He was my friend. My true friend. On Saturday he was put in ICU for organ failure. Yesterday his heart stopped. He had brain damage because of it. Today, his wife asked me to be there while they pulled the plug. What a heart wrenching thing to witness. My heart is in shambles. Please pray for Merrill (Chico) I loved that man and my heart is broken. Thank you GLP. I was by my Dad's side, and my Mom's side when they both passed away. It is a natural part of life. While we are left behind to ponder, they have already moved on. Soon, we will be joined again, to rejoice in the after-life. Do not be troubled. this is just another journey of life. ~May your heart be comforted, as time goes on. Chugiakian |
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User ID: 75693845 United States 11/30/2017 01:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There are no words that are sufficient for your loss today. Your grief will morph and change but it will always have a place in your heart. It is what allows us to love so unconditionally. My heart is breaking for you. Be gentle to yourself and take life a bit slower for a while. But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 75918847 United States 11/30/2017 03:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was by my Dad's side, and my Mom's side when they both passed away. It is a natural part of life. While we are left behind to ponder, they have already moved on. Soon, we will be joined again, to rejoice in the after-life. Quoting: Chugiakian Do not be troubled. this is just another journey of life. ~May your heart be comforted, as time goes on. Various people who've gone through near-death experiences say that what they experienced was so embracing and gratifying, they actually didn't want to come back to the here-and-now. Some have reported that NDE made them lose their fear of death. For people like the OP and others, ultimately the only way around the heartbreak is to realize spirituality and religiosity have to take on more importance than in the past, if a person's level of non-secularism isn't already there right now. . |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 75919245 United Kingdom 11/30/2017 03:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm heartbroken. Quoting: Deplorable Azila_Again 6 years ago I took a job away from friends and family. I came several hours away from everyone and everything I'd ever known. I set up home in a new place not knowing a soul. I came for work. I just couldn't find anything where I was. This man worked at the new place. 25 years older than me. Immediately we became friends. We laughed, we drank, we ate together. He is married and welcomed me into his family. I spent many nights at his home with his wife. Spent every Father's Day with him. Not a holiday that passed did he not invite me over, knowing I'd be sitting home. He was my friend. My true friend. On Saturday he was put in ICU for organ failure. Yesterday his heart stopped. He had brain damage because of it. Today, his wife asked me to be there while they pulled the plug. What a heart wrenching thing to witness. My heart is in shambles. Please pray for Merrill (Chico) I loved that man and my heart is broken. Thank you GLP. Brilliant , just made my day that much better ... |
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User ID: 75878982 Australia 11/30/2017 04:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm heartbroken. Quoting: Deplorable Azila_Again 6 years ago I took a job away from friends and family. I came several hours away from everyone and everything I'd ever known. I set up home in a new place not knowing a soul. I came for work. I just couldn't find anything where I was. This man worked at the new place. 25 years older than me. Immediately we became friends. We laughed, we drank, we ate together. He is married and welcomed me into his family. I spent many nights at his home with his wife. Spent every Father's Day with him. Not a holiday that passed did he not invite me over, knowing I'd be sitting home. He was my friend. My true friend. On Saturday he was put in ICU for organ failure. Yesterday his heart stopped. He had brain damage because of it. Today, his wife asked me to be there while they pulled the plug. What a heart wrenching thing to witness. My heart is in shambles. Please pray for Merrill (Chico) I loved that man and my heart is broken. Thank you GLP. I am so sorry for your loss. Your friend sounded like an Earth Angel. Here is a poem that always gives me solace at times like these: Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry; I am not there. I did not die. Mary Elizabeth Frye |
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Cynical Realist
Senior Forum Moderator User ID: 37998724 United Kingdom 11/30/2017 05:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm heartbroken. Quoting: Deplorable Azila_Again 6 years ago I took a job away from friends and family. I came several hours away from everyone and everything I'd ever known. I set up home in a new place not knowing a soul. I came for work. I just couldn't find anything where I was. This man worked at the new place. 25 years older than me. Immediately we became friends. We laughed, we drank, we ate together. He is married and welcomed me into his family. I spent many nights at his home with his wife. Spent every Father's Day with him. Not a holiday that passed did he not invite me over, knowing I'd be sitting home. He was my friend. My true friend. On Saturday he was put in ICU for organ failure. Yesterday his heart stopped. He had brain damage because of it. Today, his wife asked me to be there while they pulled the plug. What a heart wrenching thing to witness. My heart is in shambles. Please pray for Merrill (Chico) I loved that man and my heart is broken. Thank you GLP. Hi Deplorable Azila_Again Im so sorry to read about your loss, the fact you have decided to tell us about your loss shows how emotional you are feeling. Reading this it seems he may have been more than just a friend, I might even go as far as to say he may have been a `farther figure` and role model for you. This would make your feeling of loss even greater. It was a very brave thing for you to be there for his wife while they pulled the plug, and that is something that is very powerfull and carries mant many emotions with it... I trully empathise for you. Its hard to show someone that it will get better the pain will ease and a veil will get lifted. Many people will say you will move on.... in a way that is true, but more so you will move with it as time passes. I will say I am proud you did what you did....What will stay with you and his wife is..... He did not die alone.. he had family there.... and you are part of it. Thanks for sharing this. IF YOU HAVE A FEVER DO NOT LOWER IT WITH MEDS.... A FEVER IS AN IMMUNE SYSTEM RESPONSE TO A PATHOGEN (VIRUS, BACTERIA ETC..) IT MEANS YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM IS WORKING PROPERLY....DONT USE DRUGS TO LOWER YOUR TEMP. |
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Cynical Realist
Senior Forum Moderator User ID: 37998724 United Kingdom 11/30/2017 05:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Okay...yeah, it happens to many. This crap is like someone who loses a family member in a car crash at an intersection, only to own the whole intersection with crosses, candles, notes and more notes. Enough already! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75825529 Why is this thread so uncomfortable for you?? Last Edited by Cynical Realist on 11/30/2017 05:28 AM IF YOU HAVE A FEVER DO NOT LOWER IT WITH MEDS.... A FEVER IS AN IMMUNE SYSTEM RESPONSE TO A PATHOGEN (VIRUS, BACTERIA ETC..) IT MEANS YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM IS WORKING PROPERLY....DONT USE DRUGS TO LOWER YOUR TEMP. |
SmoothSailing
User ID: 71448021 United States 11/30/2017 05:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry for your loss. You were blessed to have such a wonderful friend. Let your wonderful memories live in your heart. "A nation can survive its fools, and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within. An enemy at the gates is less formidable, for he is known and carries his banner openly. But the traitor moves amongst those within the gate freely, his sly whispers rustling through all the alleys, heard in the very halls of government itself. For the traitor appears not a traitor; he speaks in accents familiar to his victims, and he wears their face and their arguments, he appeals to the baseness that lies deep in the hearts of all men. He rots the soul of a nation, he works secretly and unknown in the night to undermine the pillars of the city, he infects the body politic so that it can no longer resist. A murderer is less to fear." Marcus Tullius Cicero |
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Sogeer User ID: 64841255 New Zealand 11/30/2017 05:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's as almost as if the genuine intensity of such a relationship - a joining of souls - is so powerful that it cannot last in this world of lower density. I've been there brother. And I too lost that person. The loss is mitigated by the memories of the time we had together - genuine, caring, honest, reciprocal and meaningful. |
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User ID: 75896196 Israel 11/30/2017 05:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Cycles of life and death are not natural. You're instincts are correct. We should not have to go through this. It's an insane asylum. I will not be incarnating into this 3D reality again if I can help it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75634374 I recently lost a dear friend also. I'll never forgive that. It becomes a heavy burden to live “THE LIPS OF WISDOM ARE CLOSED, EXCEPT TO THE EARS OF UNDERSTANDING” Kybalion |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74825083 United States 11/30/2017 08:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Cycles of life and death are not natural. You're instincts are correct. We should not have to go through this. It's an insane asylum. I will not be incarnating into this 3D reality again if I can help it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75634374 I recently lost a dear friend also. I'll never forgive that. cycles of life and death on these worlds are completely natural. Flesh is not eternal.. just the spirit |
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