Alcoholic brother

Because they are the original enablers and still are. Hubby must be a very weak man...and she dont work o no no

My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house.

Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him.

He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't).

I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it.

Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense.

I don't think I can let him live here anymore.

you should kick d50 out

WOW! After reading everyone's comments I've come to the conclusion most of you are cold hearted bastards. You would throw your own brother out in the cold....kick him into the curb. His disease is alcoholism. Would you do the same if he had Multiple Sirosis or Lou Geriggs disease? The solution here is to take the brother to AA. Take him by the hand. Tell him no more alcohol in the house. Set up tuff rules. Tough love. But don't ditch the poor guy. Jesus....

you should kick d50 out

WOW! After reading everyone's comments I've come to the conclusion most of you are cold hearted bastards. You would throw your own brother out in the cold....kick him into the curb. His disease is alcoholism. Would you do the same if he had Multiple Sirosis or Lou Geriggs disease? The solution here is to take the brother to AA. Take him by the hand. Tell him no more alcohol in the house. Set up tuff rules. Tough love. But don't ditch the poor guy. Jesus....

Sorry dont go along with the disease theory...You cant just stop a disease. If you have a real disease you cant just stop having it. Alcoholism is a choice my son is an ex alchoholic and he will tell you its not a disease it a choice. when he decided to be sober cause he did not like all the bad crap happening to him he quit drinking. cant do that with cancer...

No, we both work. I work when he is home and vice versa.

THIS^^^

Calling it a disease is a cop-out. Just quit drinking. Yes...I HAVE done it and it took a week to clean up. The rest was just making the right choice.

My older brother has lived with me for 2 years. He drinks every night and sleeps all day. I let it slide that he doesn't pay bills or babysit or do anything around the house.

Today a woman he's been talking to messaged me about how I needed to find my own place to live and take care of my own kids because I'm taking advantage of him.

He's been telling her that this is his house (it isn't) and he does all the work (he doesn't) and takes care of the kids all day every day (he doesn't).

I'm not sure what to do. I am infuriated but he has nowhere else to go. He's 45 years old without a job, doesn't know how to cook for himself. I haven't told my husband about the messages because I know he won't stand for it.

Last night he got so drunk he lost his phone and cigarettes. He woke me up, basically calling me a thief, along with a slew of other insulting things that didn't make any sense.

I don't think I can let him live here anymore.

Cock block the poor drunk? You sir are a real piece of shit!

Talk your brother up, maybe she will let him move in.

Kick his ass out! Really, I speak from the experience of having an alcoholic family member. They will devour your emotions, use you as a resouce and when they have gotten everything you have to give --they will find another person to sponge upon. When you've been consumed, broken and torn apart they will never give you a second thought.

That goes for all drug addicts and they will lie and lie and lie and justify every single thing they take from you, and turn you into the bad guy so they can be the eternal victim and protect their addiction at all costs.

That goes for all drug addicts and they will lie and lie and lie and justify every single thing they take from you, and turn you into the bad guy so they can be the eternal victim and protect their addiction at all costs.

How to break it to him so he doesn't break stuff on the way out and steal your stuff (all alcoholics steal!) :

Brother, we need to talk. I'm going to move you out immediately. If there's no place you have to go then I am going to drop you off at (insert place here).
I hope you will go to AA and get some help, there are meetings at (time) (place) and you can call (number) to get a ride. There is also a rehab location at (address).
Pack your stuff, we are leaving NOW, or I can box it up and deliver it to you at a later time.

Then write all that down and give him a copy.

addiction is horrid, the poor bloke is going through more shit than many of you ever will. try it, find out for yourselves. its fucking terrible. also alcohol is the only drug that can kill you by going cold turkey from. lock a crack head in a room, he wont die. lock a smack head in a room, he wont die. you lock a piss head in a room he will be dead within 72 hours