I don't usually do this, post personal stories, but I'm lost, beyond lost right now.

Lol You began your next post with another "trust me".

OP let me guess... you're aged somewhere between 22 and 37.

What type of work did you leave to help assist with your father?
I was asking because you come across as a Millennial. I lost both my parents early and I truly feel your pain, Hard place to be in and a sad lonely road follows.

You need to get the fight back and go back and get a paycheck.

There are no fucks given for middle aged white guy in America.

Good luck.

Let me preface this by saying this is going to be quite the post. I have to travel back to 2013 so you guys can get all the facts, as best as I can recall them at least.

That year in January I was forced due to certain unforeseeable circumstances to move back into my parent's home. To me, it was a blessing in disguise, as I am an only child and My parents are up in their age.

My father was dying with cancer, and just taking care of him became too much for her alone, so around August I spoke with my boss to see if I could take a leave of absence up to December 31st, as we knew he would probably not make it to Christmas. They denied my request, and I when gave them my two weeks notice.

He passed Dec. 10th.

The following year, mom decided the house was too much for her. Too much upkeep, and it needed a lot of repairs, so selling was her choice. But she had nowhere to go, so one day my cousin says to us, move in with me. I have more rooms than I need, and it's just me and my dog.

What you need to understand before going farther is that my mother has end stage COPD, and is on oxygen. Simple things like cooking can really take it out of her.

When we first moved in my cousin acknowledged all of this, and assured us that as long as bills were paid, it wasn't an issue if I didn't go find a job.

Let's throw on super mega fast forward.... BAM! It's November 2018.

Mom's health is getting worse, her eyesight isn't what it used to be. I do the cooking, the laundry, the shopping, doing what needs doing for this woman is my job. She's all I have left in this world. I also do a lot of stuff around the house, my cousin works 60 hours a week, and it's my contribution.

Trust me when I say this, there are more than just her income keeping things afloat here. The household has an estimated yearly income of 100k+. My place is with my mother, no one can tell another what their place is in life.

Yet it isn't enough for some people. So because I am unable to place myself above another, my cousin is going to kick me out. Yep, just me. My mom is a mess, it's a horrible situation.

My cousin doesn't understand that not every job ends with a paycheck. In her eyes stay at home mom isn't a job. She's definitely thrown doubt my way; maybe I am wrong. Maybe I should sell my soul, my integrity, and become dead with the herd of zombies.

If she throws me out, that's it, mom will effectively die here. No one else in this house even talks to her anymore. It's like we're social outcasts shunned to the outskirts of the community.

I'm beyond lost. I'm terrified, not for me, but for my poor mother. She never asked for this, for any of it. I'm trying to do the best I can with what I have.

The future looks bleak. I trust God, he hasn't led me astray yet. I trust things will get better, I just hope sooner before later.

I don't even know the point of this thread. I'm just at the end of my sanity, and feedback, advice, whatever from a neutral party might be what is needed here.

Very sorry about your current situation, but don't get depressed, there are options. Check out Caring.com, Carepathways.com, payingforseniorcare.com, agingcare.com, Mcclarenlaw.nt/family-caregiver. There are many programs available for you, those are just a few links. Once you can acquire an income you can MOVE out of this hell house your cousin has turned it into. I really admire your unconditional love & loyalty to your mom. That's a rare thing in these dark times. God bless, ask Holy Father to cover you both, keep you safe & help provide the answer. I'll pray for you. Don't give up!!

Definitely. I told mom last night the only way I'd leave this house without her was if I was in a body bag. I mean it, too.

Based on all the information/advice given this morning, I'm thinking leaving with mom and looking into being her paid caregiver is a solid move, and one that gives me hope. There was a lot of info about that peppered throughout the thread as well.

There's not a lot that's given me hope lately. I've held jobs, but they were all just that, they were jobs. But a job where you can make a solid difference in not just someone's day, but also their life? Um, yes, where do I sign up!

Edit - I've always been a selfless person, and wanted my life to have meaning. It just seems right.

My parents had me when they were older in life. My dad was probably close to 50, and my mom has never told me the truth of her age.

I know they had issues and it was a fluke during pre-menopause that she even became pregnant.

The rest is, as they say, history.

But I think it's pretty cool that I was apparently pretty determined to be here. I almost never made it.

I,I,I...me, me, me

Thank you. Checking out those links asap.

I,I,I...me, me, me

Oh, good Lord, man.

Life isn't about us as an individual, but as a whole. If you're unable to grasp that, well, I don't know what to say.

Your GLP pic portrays your soul u douche..always one asshole in the bunch

Definitely. I told mom last night the only way I'd leave this house without her was if I was in a body bag. I mean it, too.

Based on all the information/advice given this morning, I'm thinking leaving with mom and looking into being her paid caregiver is a solid move, and one that gives me hope. There was a lot of info about that peppered throughout the thread as well.

There's not a lot that's given me hope lately. I've held jobs, but they were all just that, they were jobs. But a job where you can make a solid difference in not just someone's day, but also their life? Um, yes, where do I sign up!

Edit - I've always been a selfless person, and wanted my life to have meaning. It just seems right.

That was taken care of last year. Everything was placed into my name, because strangely enough, mom said, I just plain don't trust them.

I'm not sure I follow as to what you mean by what can I do.

As it stands, I handle cooking meals, after meal clean up, the laundry when my aunt isn't up to it. It hasn't come to having to bathe her, or have her take her meds, she's still fully aware and able to do those as of now. I also do the grocery shopping as walking long distances really drains mom.

I help clean the house, and I do all the yard work as a thank you to my cousin.

There is a Quantum software developed by a former NASA engineer, it scans your body, energy field, beyond time space and beyond 3D.

A woman who is chosen by a spirit will have the future child seen hoovering as a little white cloud, anchoring to her aura.

The circumstances to get "created" in 3D carbon atom vehicle is pushing partners together that will make sure the new person can incarnate.

If this tool and that fact could be made mainstream, most people on the planet would find a new outlook on life, death and the meaning of it all...


When I ask God, I get a knowing insight that life here is all about expanded awareness...

I often forget though, I get so caught up in the drama.

I think we are supposed to be forgetting though, go all in, and get ruffled up by the soul changing friction...

Evolve as champions...


((The software is called Scio --- QXCI-SCIO. Developed by Bill Nelson. Yes, I've tried it. It showed me I was under black magic Quantum attack. I had a black cloud hoovering around my neck by the spine, right where I had a tumor. After surgery the black cloud was gone.

This spiritual warfare is manifesting in 3D.
If more white hats could get access to SCIO bio resonance healing and diagnostics, you could fight back easier.

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I have read the entire thread and responded earlier to op...they only want the "atta boy" responses, not real solutions...sorry if the hard truth hurts.

That's basically how my cousin looks at it, I think. Like I'm cooking up some big scheme to rob my own mother or something. It isn't even like that.

But no, this isn't even our house so to speak. We were invited to live here by someone who understands the existing circumstances. It was never mentioned or insinuated that it was be short term.

But as a few have pointed out, looking into the whole care giver option seems a good move, as does possibly getting a small apartment.

Lots of very unrealistic advice itt .

The only advice I gave was, if someone no longer wants you in their house...get out...it really is pretty simple, after all it is their house!

It reminds me of all the times I've loaned people money and at the time I loaned it to them I was the greatest human being on the planet....come time for them to pay back what they had borrowed? Well....you know....every single time, I was a monster.

Cuz was great when she offered her house, now she wants op to leave and she is the bad guy? ok then, if you all say so....I will just leave this bait thread and go down the road.

The future looks bleak. I trust God, he hasn't led me astray yet. I trust things will get better, I just hope sooner before later.

I don't even know the point of this thread. I'm just at the end of my sanity, and feedback, advice, whatever from a neutral party might be what is needed here.

The gov will only pay for palliative care OR curative care.

"For instance, a person with end-stage renal disease, who has been certified as terminally ill, would probably be told that she could not elect the Medicare hospice benefit until after she discontinued her dialysis. Dialysis, of course, is the process of removing waste products and excess water from the body. Without dialysis, a person with end-stage renal disease would most likely die within a two week period. In other words, this beneficiary would be told that in order to receive Medicare covered hospice care, she would have to sign her own death sentence, a death sentence with a time line of less than fourteen days. Talk about a Hobson’s choice."

"Prior to receiving Medicare coverage for hospice care, beneficiaries must sign a hospice election form which indicates that they have a “full understanding of the palliative rather than the curative nature of hospice care as it relates to the individual’s terminal illness.”"

[link to www.medicareadvocacy.org]

Sometimes, just venting it all from your head, allows you to examine the problem from another perspective.

Prayers for you and all your family in this dire time.

Even with zero background? That would be awesome!

You're right, mom needs me now, absolutely. Way more than a stranger.

I'll look into this for sure.

The only advice I gave was, if someone no longer wants you in their house...get out...it really is pretty simple, after all it is their house!

It reminds me of all the times I've loaned people money and at the time I loaned it to them I was the greatest human being on the planet....come time for them to pay back what they had borrowed? Well....you know....every single time, I was a monster.

Cuz was great when she offered her house, now she wants op to leave and she is the bad guy? ok then, if you all say so....I will just leave this bait thread and go down the road.