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Some advice for those who are suffering in a hellish relationship...have lost a relationship...or are about to lose one.
Time heals all dooms.

If we were to live 1000 years...at year 950 we would not remember let alone give a stuff about anyone we knew in the first 30 years.

Also...1000 years from now all we are...all we knew..all who knew us...all we hoped...dreamed...loved...built...

Will be nothing but ash and dust remembered by nobody and nothing.

So in the lonrun it does not matter.

Keep the longrun in view...the bigger picture...and all the pain seems to just dissapear.

Ive been through some serious heartbreaks.

Its how I coped...its what made me.."THE DOOM".

Times and places and people and events no matter how wonderful...terrible...exciting. ..joyful...or heartbreaking...all have one thing in common.

ALL are TEMPORARY...all finite...all transient...and soon...too soon...ALL GONE.

So if you are with someone who makes your life heaven...KEEP THEM...TREASURE EVERY DAMN SECOND YOU HAVE WITH THEM.

If you are with someone who makes your life hell...DITCH THEM ASAP AS FAST AS POSSIBLE AND NEVER LOOK BACK OR REGRET IT.

Life is way too short for that.

Better one year of real love...than any amount of time spent in the hell of a person who torments you.

And its better to be ALONE...than to live in hell.

Dont ever EVER LOOK for love.

Let love...when its ready...FIND YOU.

If it does not...it simply means you are happier alone.

Being with someone who does NOT make your life hell has its own stresses.

Love...and insecurity...go hand in hand.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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Opie, if you have anything tell us more about finding relationships in general. Five stars
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Opie, if you have anything tell us more about finding relationships in general. Five stars
 Quoting: BremertonHardcorePunk


Relationships in general do one of two things.

Enhance your life and bring happiness.

Or

Destroy your life and bring doom.

Or they could be dull relationships...not hellish...but not heavenly either.

They stagnate your soul in the end.

You have one life...one spark in all time...gone in a flash.

If you are gonna join with another spark...make damn sure you do two things first.

One...MEET THEIR PARENTS...and see how they relate to them.

If they hate their father or mother they WILL hate you too.

And two...get them really pissed off about something. See how angry they get...see what they say...see how they act under pressure.

Then ask yourself..."could I honestly live with this for a year...ten years...for life"?

And another thing to really find out WHO they truly are deep down...

Have a few drinks with them. Get em reasoably drunk...then bring up a touchy subject and see what TRULY lies beaneath.

IN VINO VERITAS.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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Opie, if you have anything tell us more about finding relationships in general. Five stars
 Quoting: BremertonHardcorePunk


Relationships in general do one of two things.

Enhance your life and bring happiness.

Or

Destroy your life and bring doom.

Or they could be dull relationships...not hellish...but not heavenly either.

They stagnate your soul in the end.

You have one life...one spark in all time...gone in a flash.

If you are gonna join with another spark...make damn sure you do two things first.

One...MEET THEIR PARENTS...and see how they relate to them.

If they hate their father or mother they WILL hate you too.

And two...get them really pissed off about something. See how angry they get...see what they say...see how they act under pressure.

Then ask yourself..."could I honestly live with this for a year...ten years...for life"?

And another thing to really find out WHO they truly are deep down...

Have a few drinks with them. Get em reasoably drunk...then bring up a touchy subject and see what TRULY lies beaneath.

IN VINO VERITAS.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Blah blah blah...the key is to listen when they say they want nothing to do with you.
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Opie, if you have anything tell us more about finding relationships in general. Five stars
 Quoting: BremertonHardcorePunk


Relationships in general do one of two things.

Enhance your life and bring happiness.

Or

Destroy your life and bring doom.

Or they could be dull relationships...not hellish...but not heavenly either.

They stagnate your soul in the end.

You have one life...one spark in all time...gone in a flash.

If you are gonna join with another spark...make damn sure you do two things first.

One...MEET THEIR PARENTS...and see how they relate to them.

If they hate their father or mother they WILL hate you too.

And two...get them really pissed off about something. See how angry they get...see what they say...see how they act under pressure.

Then ask yourself..."could I honestly live with this for a year...ten years...for life"?

And another thing to really find out WHO they truly are deep down...

Have a few drinks with them. Get em reasoably drunk...then bring up a touchy subject and see what TRULY lies beaneath.

IN VINO VERITAS.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Blah blah blah...the key is to listen when they say they want nothing to do with you.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Thats why you get em drunk.

The truth always comes out when drunk.

If they say something like that thats when you walk away.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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Opie, if you have anything tell us more about finding relationships in general. Five stars
 Quoting: BremertonHardcorePunk


Relationships in general do one of two things.

Enhance your life and bring happiness.

Or

Destroy your life and bring doom.

Or they could be dull relationships...not hellish...but not heavenly either.

They stagnate your soul in the end.

You have one life...one spark in all time...gone in a flash.

If you are gonna join with another spark...make damn sure you do two things first.

One...MEET THEIR PARENTS...and see how they relate to them.

If they hate their father or mother they WILL hate you too.

And two...get them really pissed off about something. See how angry they get...see what they say...see how they act under pressure.

Then ask yourself..."could I honestly live with this for a year...ten years...for life"?

And another thing to really find out WHO they truly are deep down...

Have a few drinks with them. Get em reasoably drunk...then bring up a touchy subject and see what TRULY lies beaneath.

IN VINO VERITAS.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Blah blah blah...the key is to listen when they say they want nothing to do with you.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Thats why you get em drunk.

The truth always comes out when drunk.

If they say something like that thats when you walk away.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Or you can fail to listen during the initial courtship where they tell you that based on what they've seen of you, that they want nothing to do with you, pressure them into a relationship, then feel constantly suspicious of their loyalty and do all these things to 'test' what you already know and accuse them of being unfaithful! God, you people are sick.
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Relationships in general do one of two things.

Enhance your life and bring happiness.

Or

Destroy your life and bring doom.

Or they could be dull relationships...not hellish...but not heavenly either.

They stagnate your soul in the end.

You have one life...one spark in all time...gone in a flash.

If you are gonna join with another spark...make damn sure you do two things first.

One...MEET THEIR PARENTS...and see how they relate to them.

If they hate their father or mother they WILL hate you too.

And two...get them really pissed off about something. See how angry they get...see what they say...see how they act under pressure.

Then ask yourself..."could I honestly live with this for a year...ten years...for life"?

And another thing to really find out WHO they truly are deep down...

Have a few drinks with them. Get em reasoably drunk...then bring up a touchy subject and see what TRULY lies beaneath.

IN VINO VERITAS.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Blah blah blah...the key is to listen when they say they want nothing to do with you.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Thats why you get em drunk.

The truth always comes out when drunk.

If they say something like that thats when you walk away.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Or you can fail to listen during the initial courtship where they tell you that based on what they've seen of you, that they want nothing to do with you, pressure them into a relationship, then feel constantly suspicious of their loyalty and do all these things to 'test' what you already know and accuse them of being unfaithful! God, you people are sick.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


I dont know what you are so agitated about.

If you fail to listen....the fault is entirely yours.

But listening is a skill that comes with age and experience.

Its hard to listen when young. Hormones and the urge to merge tend to overpower logic and commonsense more often than not.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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Blah blah blah...the key is to listen when they say they want nothing to do with you.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Thats why you get em drunk.

The truth always comes out when drunk.

If they say something like that thats when you walk away.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Or you can fail to listen during the initial courtship where they tell you that based on what they've seen of you, that they want nothing to do with you, pressure them into a relationship, then feel constantly suspicious of their loyalty and do all these things to 'test' what you already know and accuse them of being unfaithful! God, you people are sick.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


I dont know what you are so agitated about.

If you fail to listen....the fault is entirely yours.

But listening is a skill that comes with age and experience.

Its hard to listen when young. Hormones and the urge to merge tend to overpower logic and commonsense more often than not.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


I met someone once, someone I didn't need and who it was rapidly apparent I didn't want. They wouldn't take no for an answer, broke into my home, and said that they would do something to harm me if I didn't start a relationship. Afterward, they constantly tested me on a suspicion that I would betray them. They also accused me of being crazy, whatever perspective they saw that from is beyond me. They're just so apeshit that I end up being afraid to seek outside help, but they're really incurable this much is obvious. Do you have any advice?
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Thats why you get em drunk.

The truth always comes out when drunk.

If they say something like that thats when you walk away.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Or you can fail to listen during the initial courtship where they tell you that based on what they've seen of you, that they want nothing to do with you, pressure them into a relationship, then feel constantly suspicious of their loyalty and do all these things to 'test' what you already know and accuse them of being unfaithful! God, you people are sick.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


I dont know what you are so agitated about.

If you fail to listen....the fault is entirely yours.

But listening is a skill that comes with age and experience.

Its hard to listen when young. Hormones and the urge to merge tend to overpower logic and commonsense more often than not.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


I met someone once, someone I didn't need and who it was rapidly apparent I didn't want. They wouldn't take no for an answer, broke into my home, and said that they would do something to harm me if I didn't start a relationship. Afterward, they constantly tested me on a suspicion that I would betray them. They also accused me of being crazy, whatever perspective they saw that from is beyond me. They're just so apeshit that I end up being afraid to seek outside help, but they're really incurable this much is obvious. Do you have any advice?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Yes...they sound dangerous.

Solution.

Move house...change number.

Ive had to do that once too.

Best decision I ever made.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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Or you can fail to listen during the initial courtship where they tell you that based on what they've seen of you, that they want nothing to do with you, pressure them into a relationship, then feel constantly suspicious of their loyalty and do all these things to 'test' what you already know and accuse them of being unfaithful! God, you people are sick.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


I dont know what you are so agitated about.

If you fail to listen....the fault is entirely yours.

But listening is a skill that comes with age and experience.

Its hard to listen when young. Hormones and the urge to merge tend to overpower logic and commonsense more often than not.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


I met someone once, someone I didn't need and who it was rapidly apparent I didn't want. They wouldn't take no for an answer, broke into my home, and said that they would do something to harm me if I didn't start a relationship. Afterward, they constantly tested me on a suspicion that I would betray them. They also accused me of being crazy, whatever perspective they saw that from is beyond me. They're just so apeshit that I end up being afraid to seek outside help, but they're really incurable this much is obvious. Do you have any advice?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Yes...they sound dangerous.

Solution.

Move house...change number.

Ive had to do that once too.

Best decision I ever made.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Should I go to the police?
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I dont know what you are so agitated about.

If you fail to listen....the fault is entirely yours.

But listening is a skill that comes with age and experience.

Its hard to listen when young. Hormones and the urge to merge tend to overpower logic and commonsense more often than not.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


I met someone once, someone I didn't need and who it was rapidly apparent I didn't want. They wouldn't take no for an answer, broke into my home, and said that they would do something to harm me if I didn't start a relationship. Afterward, they constantly tested me on a suspicion that I would betray them. They also accused me of being crazy, whatever perspective they saw that from is beyond me. They're just so apeshit that I end up being afraid to seek outside help, but they're really incurable this much is obvious. Do you have any advice?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Yes...they sound dangerous.

Solution.

Move house...change number.

Ive had to do that once too.

Best decision I ever made.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Should I go to the police?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Nah...they will probably turn up and shoot your dog.

Just kidding.

The police never act until after the murder is done.

So...change number...move location.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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I met someone once, someone I didn't need and who it was rapidly apparent I didn't want. They wouldn't take no for an answer, broke into my home, and said that they would do something to harm me if I didn't start a relationship. Afterward, they constantly tested me on a suspicion that I would betray them. They also accused me of being crazy, whatever perspective they saw that from is beyond me. They're just so apeshit that I end up being afraid to seek outside help, but they're really incurable this much is obvious. Do you have any advice?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Yes...they sound dangerous.

Solution.

Move house...change number.

Ive had to do that once too.

Best decision I ever made.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Should I go to the police?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Nah...they will probably turn up and shoot your dog.

Just kidding.

The police never act until after the murder is done.

So...change number...move location.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Now I'm really thinking I should go to the police. Your joking really isn't giving me many other options.
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5 stars. Need to hear that.
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Yes...they sound dangerous.

Solution.

Move house...change number.

Ive had to do that once too.

Best decision I ever made.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Should I go to the police?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Nah...they will probably turn up and shoot your dog.

Just kidding.

The police never act until after the murder is done.

So...change number...move location.
 Quoting: THE.DOOM


Now I'm really thinking I should go to the police. Your joking really isn't giving me many other options.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


You see, I'm trying to force your hand. You say you're not a murderer, rather that you would prefer not to murder. Which of course means that you are a murderer, since how else could you have a preference? I won't work with murderers, it's who you are. I know this has cost you, I know the range of people involved in trying to sway me. I know that this necessitates murdering the person who stands up for himself, because what would happen if that attitude were contagious? But why do something for which I could never forgive myself?
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Most “people” have been replaced with clones and organic portals so someone with a soul can tell when someone does not have one. Relationships and love was fun in the old Earth, I loved and have been loved. In this reality, virtual love is the trend. Women want to be men and men want to be women...
~Learning to Love Myself~

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~Everything is funny, you just don’t get the Cosmic joke. But when you do, you’ll never stop laughing.~ Catalyst42
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I gave you five stars as well.

What is your perspective on kids being involved? Say the mother is nuts and won't let go and you know she is damaging the kid but are scared to leave for fear of what might happen when you aren't there to take the heat of her crazy?

Been doing that for years. Gonna cause me a stroke most likely.

The easy answer is just run. THe kid loves his mom, she is a master manipulator. SHe will throw massive crazy fits, bitch and gripe over nothing, make us both so nervous we cant function. Then when it is apparent I have had enough, she will switch to sweet mommy and ask him to cuddle and tell him how much she loves him.

I stay out of a sense of duty. Know it is wrong.
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I give people a bite of my world and then they want the whole pie. These beings can’t generate their own energy so they find beings with souls to leech onto.
~Learning to Love Myself~

~When people ask me what I do for a living, I tell em I’m a Demon Hunter~

~Everything is funny, you just don’t get the Cosmic joke. But when you do, you’ll never stop laughing.~ Catalyst42
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I gave you five stars as well.

What is your perspective on kids being involved? Say the mother is nuts and won't let go and you know she is damaging the kid but are scared to leave for fear of what might happen when you aren't there to take the heat of her crazy?

Been doing that for years. Gonna cause me a stroke most likely.

The easy answer is just run. THe kid loves his mom, she is a master manipulator. SHe will throw massive crazy fits, bitch and gripe over nothing, make us both so nervous we cant function. Then when it is apparent I have had enough, she will switch to sweet mommy and ask him to cuddle and tell him how much she loves him.

I stay out of a sense of duty. Know it is wrong.
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Crazy talk is allegorical. When you show candor, then your criticisms of her behavior will possibly be accepted. But you have something to hide...apparently that is a flaw to be exploited.
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IN VINO VERITAS.
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oh man.

cheers
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I gave you five stars as well.

What is your perspective on kids being involved? Say the mother is nuts and won't let go and you know she is damaging the kid but are scared to leave for fear of what might happen when you aren't there to take the heat of her crazy?

Been doing that for years. Gonna cause me a stroke most likely.

The easy answer is just run. THe kid loves his mom, she is a master manipulator. SHe will throw massive crazy fits, bitch and gripe over nothing, make us both so nervous we cant function. Then when it is apparent I have had enough, she will switch to sweet mommy and ask him to cuddle and tell him how much she loves him.

I stay out of a sense of duty. Know it is wrong.
 Quoting: Almost the End


Crazy talk is allegorical. When you show candor, then your criticisms of her behavior will possibly be accepted. But you have something to hide...apparently that is a flaw to be exploited.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


No, not really. We have been through three bouts of therapy together, another one solely for her, at my behest. I have talked with her kindly and openly hundreds of times concerning the situation. Abuse and a bad childhood in her background, opposite for me, I had a good upbringing. Signs manifested about a year in to the relationship, we didn't plan the child, I decided to stay because I am no deadbeat dad. Parenthood has driven her totally insane. Totally selfish, all about her, expects everyone to feel bad for her all the time. Lots of shit there I wont get into. I am not hiding anything, just stupidly got involved in something I was not prepared for.
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I gave you five stars as well.

What is your perspective on kids being involved? Say the mother is nuts and won't let go and you know she is damaging the kid but are scared to leave for fear of what might happen when you aren't there to take the heat of her crazy?

Been doing that for years. Gonna cause me a stroke most likely.

The easy answer is just run. THe kid loves his mom, she is a master manipulator. SHe will throw massive crazy fits, bitch and gripe over nothing, make us both so nervous we cant function. Then when it is apparent I have had enough, she will switch to sweet mommy and ask him to cuddle and tell him how much she loves him.

I stay out of a sense of duty. Know it is wrong.
 Quoting: Almost the End


Crazy talk is allegorical. When you show candor, then your criticisms of her behavior will possibly be accepted. But you have something to hide...apparently that is a flaw to be exploited.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


No, not really. We have been through three bouts of therapy together, another one solely for her, at my behest. I have talked with her kindly and openly hundreds of times concerning the situation. Abuse and a bad childhood in her background, opposite for me, I had a good upbringing. Signs manifested about a year in to the relationship, we didn't plan the child, I decided to stay because I am no deadbeat dad. Parenthood has driven her totally insane. Totally selfish, all about her, expects everyone to feel bad for her all the time. Lots of shit there I wont get into. I am not hiding anything, just stupidly got involved in something I was not prepared for.
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Sounds like she didn't want the kid and you forced her to bring it to term. Sounds like you were totally prepared to force her to do this, and now want to bitch like bringing a kid to term is work on the man's part. Like I've said, if your story were sympathetic, you'd have an audience that wasn't on GLP. Plenty of your kind here though.
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I gave you five stars as well.

What is your perspective on kids being involved? Say the mother is nuts and won't let go and you know she is damaging the kid but are scared to leave for fear of what might happen when you aren't there to take the heat of her crazy?

Been doing that for years. Gonna cause me a stroke most likely.

The easy answer is just run. THe kid loves his mom, she is a master manipulator. SHe will throw massive crazy fits, bitch and gripe over nothing, make us both so nervous we cant function. Then when it is apparent I have had enough, she will switch to sweet mommy and ask him to cuddle and tell him how much she loves him.

I stay out of a sense of duty. Know it is wrong.
 Quoting: Almost the End


Crazy talk is allegorical. When you show candor, then your criticisms of her behavior will possibly be accepted. But you have something to hide...apparently that is a flaw to be exploited.
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


No, not really. We have been through three bouts of therapy together, another one solely for her, at my behest. I have talked with her kindly and openly hundreds of times concerning the situation. Abuse and a bad childhood in her background, opposite for me, I had a good upbringing. Signs manifested about a year in to the relationship, we didn't plan the child, I decided to stay because I am no deadbeat dad. Parenthood has driven her totally insane. Totally selfish, all about her, expects everyone to feel bad for her all the time. Lots of shit there I wont get into. I am not hiding anything, just stupidly got involved in something I was not prepared for.
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Sounds like she didn't want the kid and you forced her to bring it to term. Sounds like you were totally prepared to force her to do this, and now want to bitch like bringing a kid to term is work on the man's part. Like I've said, if your story were sympathetic, you'd have an audience that wasn't on GLP. Plenty of your kind here though.
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No, she actually was totally in love with the idea of having a child. I was weary because we were having issues, but we got married and I have done the best I can.

You are totally wrong in everything you are posting. Not sure where you are getting your ideas. I work and she does not, she is angry at the world and anxious constantly.
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Crazy talk is allegorical. When you show candor, then your criticisms of her behavior will possibly be accepted. But you have something to hide...apparently that is a flaw to be exploited.
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No, not really. We have been through three bouts of therapy together, another one solely for her, at my behest. I have talked with her kindly and openly hundreds of times concerning the situation. Abuse and a bad childhood in her background, opposite for me, I had a good upbringing. Signs manifested about a year in to the relationship, we didn't plan the child, I decided to stay because I am no deadbeat dad. Parenthood has driven her totally insane. Totally selfish, all about her, expects everyone to feel bad for her all the time. Lots of shit there I wont get into. I am not hiding anything, just stupidly got involved in something I was not prepared for.
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Sounds like she didn't want the kid and you forced her to bring it to term. Sounds like you were totally prepared to force her to do this, and now want to bitch like bringing a kid to term is work on the man's part. Like I've said, if your story were sympathetic, you'd have an audience that wasn't on GLP. Plenty of your kind here though.
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No, she actually was totally in love with the idea of having a child. I was weary because we were having issues, but we got married and I have done the best I can.

You are totally wrong in everything you are posting. Not sure where you are getting your ideas. I work and she does not, she is angry at the world and anxious constantly.
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I usually hear people speak on here and invert it because almost no one is trustworthy. There are people advising that people take turpentine internally, which a quick search shows is potentially fatal, but they do it anyway. The discussions of the suffering husband have tons of clues that the abused is an abuser, and so forth. If the medical advice is quackery at best, and malicious at worst, then what of the relationship counseling and armchair psychiatry? Most likely, you're a fake.
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No, not really. We have been through three bouts of therapy together, another one solely for her, at my behest. I have talked with her kindly and openly hundreds of times concerning the situation. Abuse and a bad childhood in her background, opposite for me, I had a good upbringing. Signs manifested about a year in to the relationship, we didn't plan the child, I decided to stay because I am no deadbeat dad. Parenthood has driven her totally insane. Totally selfish, all about her, expects everyone to feel bad for her all the time. Lots of shit there I wont get into. I am not hiding anything, just stupidly got involved in something I was not prepared for.
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Sounds like she didn't want the kid and you forced her to bring it to term. Sounds like you were totally prepared to force her to do this, and now want to bitch like bringing a kid to term is work on the man's part. Like I've said, if your story were sympathetic, you'd have an audience that wasn't on GLP. Plenty of your kind here though.
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No, she actually was totally in love with the idea of having a child. I was weary because we were having issues, but we got married and I have done the best I can.

You are totally wrong in everything you are posting. Not sure where you are getting your ideas. I work and she does not, she is angry at the world and anxious constantly.
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I usually hear people speak on here and invert it because almost no one is trustworthy. There are people advising that people take turpentine internally, which a quick search shows is potentially fatal, but they do it anyway. The discussions of the suffering husband have tons of clues that the abused is an abuser, and so forth. If the medical advice is quackery at best, and malicious at worst, then what of the relationship counseling and armchair psychiatry? Most likely, you're a fake.
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I've never physically harmed a woman and never would. Utmost respect for women. Not an arguer, I like to reason and make sense and have a peaceful life. Had a great mother who taught me how to treat a lady and I am kind to a fault. Truthfully, all the research I have done leads me to believe my wife has borderline personality disorder. It is actually sad, it stems from childhood abuse most of the time.

Am I perfect? Hell no. But I try to be kind and take care of things the best I can.

You sound like a female who has been hurt. I don't mean that to be rude, and if that is true, I'm sorry. But not all guys are jerkoff idiots. I'm no fake.
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Jeremiah 15:19 (KJV) Therefore thus saith the LORD, If thou return, then will I bring thee again, and thou shalt stand before me: and if thou take forth the precious from the vile, thou shalt be as my mouth: let them return unto thee; but return not thou unto them
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OP 5*'s. Best advice I've ever read on here. As I always say, it is better to be alone, then wish you were.
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Jeremiah 15:19 (KJV) Therefore thus saith the LORD, If thou return, then will I bring thee again, and thou shalt stand before me: and if thou take forth the precious from the vile, thou shalt be as my mouth: let them return unto thee; but return not thou unto them
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You are the vile.
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OP 5*'s. Best advice I've ever read on here. As I always say, it is better to be alone, then wish you were.
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Solomon once said...

"Tis better to live in the attic in the corner alone than to be down there in the house with a contentious woman.

He was not called the wisest man who ever lived for nothing.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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OP 5*'s. Best advice I've ever read on here. As I always say, it is better to be alone, then wish you were.
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Solomon once said...

"Tis better to live in the attic in the corner alone than to be down there in the house with a contentious woman.

He was not called the wisest man who ever lived for nothing.
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And yet he abused his subjects to the point of losing ninety percent of his kingdom and involving it in civil war until the entire country was destroyed by its enemies.
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Jeremiah 15:19 (KJV) Therefore thus saith the LORD, If thou return, then will I bring thee again, and thou shalt stand before me: and if thou take forth the precious from the vile, thou shalt be as my mouth: let them return unto thee; but return not thou unto them
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Many years ago I had that verse....in slightly different words...handed to me by a total stranger in the street.

Even though it didnt have verse or chapter numbers I knew it was from the bible.

And you posting this is a reminder of that angel delivered note all those years ago.

Im not an athiest.

But nor am I a religionist.

I am a realist.
JUST FACE IT..

We are ALL DOOMED.

ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

NO ONE GETS OUT OF THIS LIFE ALIVE.
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Jeremiah 15:19 (KJV) Therefore thus saith the LORD, If thou return, then will I bring thee again, and thou shalt stand before me: and if thou take forth the precious from the vile, thou shalt be as my mouth: let them return unto thee; but return not thou unto them
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Many years ago I had that verse....in slightly different words...handed to me by a total stranger in the street.

Even though it didnt have verse or chapter numbers I knew it was from the bible.

And you posting this is a reminder of that angel delivered note all those years ago.

Im not an athiest.

But nor am I a religionist.

I am a realist.
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Like Kissinger or Pilate?





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