Some advice for those who are suffering in a hellish relationship...have lost a relationship...or are about to lose one.

And yet he abused his subjects to the point of losing ninety percent of his kingdom and involving it in civil war until the entire country was destroyed by its enemies.

Like Kissinger or Pilate?

And do you know what ruined him?

Women.

Lots and lots of them.

Thats how he knew so much.

They seduced him away from God to building temples for idols.

He became hard and cruel and greedy.

The pagan women rubbed off on him.

And in the end...he died a fool.

Because he trusted and listened to....women.

Same thing happenned to Adam.

He started off hard and cruel, assassinating a general, his cousin, whom his father had promised not to harm. He was seduced by women because that is what God would said would happen to the disobedient and faithless Israelites.

Thats not how it started out. But thats how it ended.

And wow...whoever did you over seriously hurt you bad.

Are they still hassling you?

I can understand anger and bitterness like that.

It does pass eventually. But it hurts like hell on the way past.

That they did, several times, and it was intentional. They preach forgiveness in place of legal redress because they hold the law in contempt. And where they could no longer appeal to love they appealed to fear. And yes, they are still doing it. They think it's funny, because the way they live no one who does such things is held responsible, and those who would are called selfish. Everyone hates them, and they pretend to not know why.

I know what ya mean there.

Just recently I had to cut someone off that was doing the very same thing.

Changed my number. No more hassles.

I tried to help them...they just used me and stole from me then slandered me.

7 times I forgave and gave another chance.

Then on the 8th time I didnt even say goodbye.

Just changed my number.

Peace returned.

And I knew the person for 20 years.

And it was so easy to snip the line when the time came.

This is a whole group of people. And it would be easy to cut them off, except they also threatened to hurt me or even kill me.

Same here.

Sometimes it takes more courage and faith to walk away than to stay and take the threats and the abuse.

They have a way of making you feel sorry for them at first.

But as time passes you harden up...and in the end you know what must be done.

I always felt sorry for them. It's the manipulation of that into something else which makes it impossible to love them...because I feel used.

Do not cast your pearls before swine.

They will trample them...and then turn on you.

Jesus knew what he was on about.

Solomon might have stuffed things up in the end.

But Jesus didnt.

He held true...and they killed him for it.

Cause truth hurts.

I recently watched the film DaVinci Code again, and it mentions Mary being the bride of Jesus during a time when the Pagan feminine was being removed. Do either of you believe Jesus and Mary Magdaline were a couple?

Time heals all dooms.

If we were to live 1000 years...at year 950 we would not remember let alone give a stuff about anyone we knew in the first 30 years.

Also...1000 years from now all we are...all we knew..all who knew us...all we hoped...dreamed...loved...built...

Will be nothing but ash and dust remembered by nobody and nothing.

So in the lonrun it does not matter.

Keep the longrun in view...the bigger picture...and all the pain seems to just dissapear.

Ive been through some serious heartbreaks.

Its how I coped...its what made me.."THE DOOM".

Times and places and people and events no matter how wonderful...terrible...exciting. ..joyful...or heartbreaking...all have one thing in common.

ALL are TEMPORARY...all finite...all transient...and soon...too soon...ALL GONE.

So if you are with someone who makes your life heaven...KEEP THEM...TREASURE EVERY DAMN SECOND YOU HAVE WITH THEM.

If you are with someone who makes your life hell...DITCH THEM ASAP AS FAST AS POSSIBLE AND NEVER LOOK BACK OR REGRET IT.

Life is way too short for that.

Better one year of real love...than any amount of time spent in the hell of a person who torments you.

And its better to be ALONE...than to live in hell.

Dont ever EVER LOOK for love.

Let love...when its ready...FIND YOU.

If it does not...it simply means you are happier alone.

Being with someone who does NOT make your life hell has its own stresses.

Love...and insecurity...go hand in hand.

If everyone you date makes your life hell, then you are definitely hated by many people.

May love find you.

I realized long ago that I am better off as a loner not only because of the pain others caused me, but, because of the pain I brought to others. It is a two way street OP.

Yet, I still long to find true love. I just don't know what it is. I know what love is from my parents, but, never found love with a partner throughout life.

I had one boyfriend 25 years ago but he had many women. I couldn't accept that so I told him no. Maybe I could have if he didn't lie about it, but, his lies drove me crazy. Lies like, no, I am not seeing someone else, but, my heart knew that he was. My friends told me that he was. I finally caught him and knew that I could not trust him. Why couldn't he just be honest and tell me instead of putting me through that heartbreak over and over again? I may have still seen him, but, I could have protected my heart.

To this day, he still calls. I know that he loves me in his way, but, for me love means monogamy. He married 15 years ago. I could have had a strong relationship with him even after his marriage, but, on his terms, his time, his place. That is not what I want, so, I live with my loneliness.

I am no longer young and beautiful. I don't want second hand love. I know that I will not find that love in this life. It is sad. I have a lot of love to give. I just could never find the right person, or, I never went for the right person.