Why Women Have Totally Unrealistic Standards for Men, Dating, and Marriage

Depending on the age of the woman and what part of the country they were raised - brings about the expectations of a man they are seeking.

Young women want a hottie. In the 30s they want the hottie with money.

What traditional women find in many men is - a guy that plays video games, doesn’t know how to do anything at all - can’t fish, hunt, shoot, protect her, repair cars, work on the home or yard, has no hobbies other then pizza, beer and movies and video games, doesn’t cycle, hike, swim or do much of anything.

Yet they expect someone to look like a porn star and act like one too, and for that pleasure the woman gets to work outside the home and pay 50% of the bills, all while taking care of the home and children.

Men need to fall into traditional roles at a young age if they expect to find a quality woman. They themselves need to be traditional men.

Work hard, your family is the focus, love your wife like no other, you won’t find a good wife dancing on the bar during the weekend - a quality wife will be out doing normal hobbies or at church or volunteering somewhere or cycling or whatnot.

He needs to work hard, full time provide for everyone so she can take the traditional role of caring for the family, kids, home and her man and not have to work away from home. (You know the prerequisite of foreign brides).

Stop expecting her to carry 50% of the financial burden on top of the expectation of the children and household and looking like a cover model.

Be grown up enough before you marry to understand if a human being is growing in your wife’s body, it is going to change her body forever and ever , stretchmarks, saggy skin, deflated boobs. So there better be true love to keep you together and not looks.

After spending so much times stateside and overseas with military you see the same song again and again.

Men marry foreign women, they never expect her to work outside the home. They give her literally anything she needs and wants while she takes care of the house, kids and him. And if the foreign wife does work, that is typically because her family has then been brought over by the husband and they either start a business or they care for the kids. I’ve seen it over and over where the American wives were not given that luxury. They were always expected to work and pay 50% of the household on top of outside work.

Men have the same problems that they say women do - men expect a hot looking woman. They might be short, balding, out of shape and totally introverted, bad teeth but still expect a woman that looks like a model. When they could have a great life with a nice woman that looked like they do - but instead they simply get a Filipino wife and everyone knows why without even having to verbalize it...

There is enough blame to go around and can’t rest squarely on the
shoulders of women.

There are still plenty of women around that are looking for men not based on looks or money. But you have to find them in other places aside from a dating app or Saturday night club crawl. Try getting out in nature on weekends, going to whatever church function, volunteering, whatever the hobby is that you should get into.

You are paying for an art education degree? Why? What is she going to do with that? Kids I know with that degree are working for minimum wage now. She could learn that on the internet or in some community college class. You only have yourselves to blame if she is ruined. Don’t complain when you are paying for her downfall.

You are paying for an art education degree? Why? What is she going to do with that? Kids I know with that degree are working for minimum wage now. She could learn that on the internet or in some community college class. You only have yourselves to blame if she is ruined. Don’t complain when you are paying for her downfall.

I have a brilliant daughter and she is going to college on full scholarship.

However, if she found a man that would allow her to stay home and raise children, she would have as many as possible and would be very happy.

I'm curious how this goes.

Btw she’ll budge if you quit enabling her by paying for a useless degree. Whose in charge anyway? I honestly hope you are just trolling.

Thaa has a future of dealing with gallery owners/dealers who will rob them blind and expect sexual or political favors.
You can fucking forget it if youre a conservative or Christian thats not going pervert ro a very dark side.
The other aspect is that the nongay males will pretty much be groupie collectors and again hyperliberal because that what the girls fall for, and anyway, they wont be asked to pay for the abortions or support the kid.
Arr is controlled and if youre not a crazy liberal or pansexual youre as happy as a polar bear in Jamaica would be.

They don't hide that well.

Observe how they act on a Friday night at the bar around their girlfriends. Watch what they eat (make sure they eat meat and not too many carbs!) and how drunk they get and how they behave. Are they the one screaming, or the one rolling their eyes at the screamer.

Crazies are too into shopping, too into personal grooming (perfect hair and French nails and caked on makeup), too into getting likes on social media.

Want to avoid the crazies? Find women with hobbies. Women who like to sew or make crafts, women who play sports but aren't dykey, women who eat healthy. Avoid those with tattoos. Avoid those with bugged out eyes. Accept that all women are a bit crazy, but find the crazy you can tolerate. Avoid women who watch a lot of television or are always on their phones.

Avoid women who want to get too sexual straight away. They are always nuts, from what guys tell me.

I found a woman like that. Something always seemed off. Was too perfect. After we broke up I found out some horrific things about her past and sluttiness. Bullet dodged. Women are the ultimate chameleons. Your advice is not foolproof my friend.

I found a woman like that. Something always seemed off. Was too perfect. After we broke up I found out some horrific things about her past and sluttiness. Bullet dodged. Women are the ultimate chameleons. Your advice is not foolproof my friend.

The man is the provider.
The woman is the... provider of comfort, children, love, sex, meals, education, housekeeping, joy, has to be beautiful all the time, and fill expectations of being a good mother?

So what are men providing actually? just curious to see answers.

I’m 28, single . I wish I would’ve found a man earlier in life. Seems like I’m not good enough for the guys I’ve dated because they usually are the ones to break up with me.

Exactly. I’m now seeking a guy 30+. I don’t want a man that doesn’t know what he wants. Money doesn’t matter, he just needs to be established and have a good head on his shoulder.

I met my husband at age 32. You still have time.

Keep looking and work on being the best you can be as an individual. Many men don't get their act together until they are around your age, but you need to be in an environment where you can meet them. Go to professional networking events, conferences, etc. as many as you can. Or if you go to a bar, find ones with live performances, as they attract a better quality crowd including single men. Scope around and be open to being approached.

You mad 'cause your wife just bought me another Gore Tex jacket last week with your hard earned Dollars? If you only knew where your money is going.

I no longer work with women as I prefer working the Tree trimming game with other high-testosterone Men, but the last job I had with women the 19yr old 5'9" personal trainer I worked with could not keep her hands off me. Again, hairline of a 19yr old, not an ounce of fat on my body.

I thought it was funny/cute when that 19yr old asked me what my dream car was. I told her I already built 4 of them. MAGA

I have 3 daughters, I have been married to their mother for 25 years, I'm a simple country boy and my standards are God, Family and friends. 2 of my girls are married to county boys with strong family instincts. tjey will do well.

My only advice on their wedding day was the words exactly..


Keep his belly full and his balls empty, make him ache to want to come home and see you. Try to look nice for him because we are visual creatures. Don't complain because he's gone working. Be a good mother.

Are You kidding? Most men are invisible until women get their act together. We have always been there but You guys were attracted to the alpha males and You didn't give the rest of us a chance because We didn't fit Your high expectations. I for one had a miserable time in My early 20's dating so I gave up and concentrated on My career instead and when I hit 6 figures one finally came around.

Image vs substance?

Image vs substance?

I feel sorry for your daughter.

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Btw she’ll budge if you quit enabling her by paying for a useless degree. Whose in charge anyway? I honestly hope you are just trolling.

Btw she’ll budge if you quit enabling her by paying for a useless degree. Whose in charge anyway? I honestly hope you are just trolling.

She should have ditched going to college and joined a church where men have traditional values. Work a part time job/volunteer and live at home until she finds him.

We have a troll who is raging over this thread so I keep removing their hateful posts... the life of a thread MOD - SMH.

I feel sorry for your kids if you think there is a problem with what he said.

I'm a good looking 37 year old dude - divorced with 4 kids who live with me 3/4 of the time (my ex cheated and got pregnant by another guy... could not fix that - 16yr relationship)... no I'm not that beautiful... but I rarely go a week without some new woman in my inbox telling me how handsome I am. I work out... have my hair and I am 6'1 and not overweight and I make decent money.

I've been single over 3 years now.

I'll say this... I do have certain expectations when it comes to women... #1 they don't have to be the best looking girl in the room or anything like that - if we were using a number scale I'd date anything that's a 6.5 and up. My ex is a solid 9.5 (any guy would agree) for her age when it comes to looks... and comparison is wrong and unfair but it's something that's hard for me to get past. All I want out of a woman is someone that I find attractive enough to have sex with and who shares similar values, goals in life and demonstrates character and doesn't annoy the shit out of me.

At this age only 1/25 women are even a 6.5 - out of those only 1/2 are sane enough to date. Then out of that 1/50 that I will date nearly every single one has ended the same way. They all turn into flings... then I try to keep it going and they don't want to get too serious - they tell me they don't care to date a guy with 4 kids ... and they don't care but they don't want a relationship! I don't know. But I am so sick of it. These women are making me feel like a damn whore and it's not what I want. I'm getting too old and tired for this shit.

Just saying - I feel like the single women 'community' in my area has begun labeling me as a fun boy toy or something but I've got to where I ignore 3/4 women who try to talk to me now because I'm tired of getting treated like a damn whore.

Ok... sorry rant over.