This is in the main due to social engineering.

Women are perceived within the "lock" of objectification by men. (The one to many valueless "perception model" that women seek to subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) avoid)

Hence women raise their standards to go against their true natural instincts. It is an egotistical action. Their grading of men becomes empowered by their need for a man that does not objectify them. Hence they become so selective that their ideal can never be met.

If men and women-only followed their spiritual and natural instincts together instead of a societal one, that would be empowering.

That is not what the state wants though.

The state wants powerless separation on all counts.

All three parties are to blame. Male, female, society/state.

Just saying.