Problem is sometimes the break up is so bad the man's confidence is totally shot and women don't like Men whom lack confidence. My ex cheated on Me after 16.5 years and that event has totally destroyed My life and put My life is a nose dive. I am now talking to someone and I have gained Her attention because most men are a like and I am so different then what She is used too. I want a family and I want a stable relationship and I love the idea of coming back to the same woman and She hasn't encountered that yet.