Do women have unrealistic fantasies about becoming a mother? | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77197203 United States 12/16/2019 10:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | TV is one reason: woman has baby on TV, and then is still going to lunch with friends, on vaca with hubby, isn't covered in vomit and doing dishes and laundry 24/7... Then, the child appears next season and is 7 years old. Another reason is that we aren't taught enough motherhood SKILLS and instead are taught office skills |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77197203 United States 12/16/2019 10:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Regular motherhood has unrealistic fantasies and SINGLE MOTHERHOOD fantasies are even worse. If at all possible you should have a husband. You need it, the kid needs it. In fact, you need even more than a husband to do this right. You need a tribe. You need other people IN TOWN. Grandparents. Friends. Aunts. Don't go this alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help. And you will be saner/less stressed if you are part of a group, and not ISOLATED. You are going to be TIRED. And busy. You thought you were "busy" before you had kids. You weren't. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76273531 United Kingdom 12/16/2019 11:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | TV is one reason: woman has baby on TV, and then is still going to lunch with friends, on vaca with hubby, isn't covered in vomit and doing dishes and laundry 24/7... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77197203 Then, the child appears next season and is 7 years old. Another reason is that we aren't taught enough motherhood SKILLS and instead are taught office skills Well, because its important for good parents to make sure they don't raise regressive women, made for making babies. |
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User ID: 78144147 United States 12/16/2019 12:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My daughters are now in their early twenties. I'm noticing the differences between the young men who grew up in a "normal" family with mother and father and those who didn't have a man around. No one taught them to be a man. It's pretty frightening. When you are afraid of losing your life, you have already lost your life. Don't be afraid. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78254856 United States 12/16/2019 12:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The majority of women, yes, fantasy, irrational and illogical constructs are a major biological component in female thinking. Why this is must be a remnant survival mechanism in the distant past. We can see how this outcome has played out since the 1960's and women participating within government and the corporate environment. Has it been for the better or worse depends upon your perception. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77197203 United States 12/16/2019 12:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | TV is one reason: woman has baby on TV, and then is still going to lunch with friends, on vaca with hubby, isn't covered in vomit and doing dishes and laundry 24/7... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77197203 Then, the child appears next season and is 7 years old. Another reason is that we aren't taught enough motherhood SKILLS and instead are taught office skills Well, because its important for good parents to make sure they don't raise regressive women, made for making babies. Great at microsoft word Horrible at raising kids yah that makes sense. there is an old saying: throwing the baby out with the bathwater |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78235149 United States 12/16/2019 12:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | im a girl and i never actually THOUGHT about having babies as i grew up. i loved playing with baby dolls and dressing up our cats in doll clothes, but the idea of having my own never seemed that important. i was more interested in who my man would be and trying to find him. ive had five healthy beautiful children, i never tried to have an abortion either. they came when they came, none were planned. as for the extra part, the day to day being a mother, i only knew i would NEVER treat my own babies like my mother did and it all worked out beautifully for me. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77713188 United States 12/16/2019 01:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Regular motherhood has unrealistic fantasies and SINGLE MOTHERHOOD fantasies are even worse. If at all possible you should have a husband. You need it, the kid needs it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77197203 In fact, you need even more than a husband to do this right. You need a tribe. You need other people IN TOWN. Grandparents. Friends. Aunts. Don't go this alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help. And you will be saner/less stressed if you are part of a group, and not ISOLATED. You are going to be TIRED. And busy. You thought you were "busy" before you had kids. You weren't. I completely agree. You need all of these things, with 10-minute breaks every four hours. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76273531 United Kingdom 12/16/2019 03:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | TV is one reason: woman has baby on TV, and then is still going to lunch with friends, on vaca with hubby, isn't covered in vomit and doing dishes and laundry 24/7... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77197203 Then, the child appears next season and is 7 years old. Another reason is that we aren't taught enough motherhood SKILLS and instead are taught office skills Well, because its important for good parents to make sure they don't raise regressive women, made for making babies. Great at microsoft word Horrible at raising kids yah that makes sense. there is an old saying: throwing the baby out with the bathwater By now as we all know only horrid perverted (essentially meaning degenerate) men are attracted to women (by rule of exclusion actual perverted and literally degenerate 'lifestyles' are treated and promoted as generate/wholesome). As far as I can see this is what successive generations wanted. Its why most of us argue over which members of our ancestral enemies sworn to destroy us, are the best leaders for us, the best entertainers for us, food suppliers and medical providers, providers and organisers of education and materials ... Look at Maslows Heirarchy, people have gone out their way to make sure each successive generation from 1600 onwards has been less capable of, by today, reach the second step. Sod full self actualisation. |