Feeling Lonely at Christmas? Pop in here... :)

I guess it's fine.

After diving down the rabbit hole and seeing this world as is, and not what I was told/molded to believe it is, it truly is just another day.

I just feel blessed that I trust myself now. Somehow, that prevents me from getting bogged down by the plethora of fake friends/expectations that previously plagued me.

Fortunately, I have wonderful, close and fun relationships with my daughters. Besides that... I have several aquantinces... short, positive interaction. Those work well because no one ends up as a drain or headache in your life.

Less is more... that's where I'm at.... Merry Christmas :)

Merry Christmas CP!

you too!

I am alone this Christmas, because of the cruelies in my related family. I have been purposely excluded and they all revel in it.

leave behind the people that hurt you yesterday, for the people that will help you with tommorrow..

merry christmas, i will be here tomorrow if you want to talk..... same for everyone...

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Haha, yes. Those electric bills must be insane. I have a 'free nights' plan. As soon as the free part kicks in, the lights go on.

God can let good come of it. I am sure many have been brought to Christ through this holiday.

After my parents were gone, the cruelty of my siblings became glaring. It's hard, but you can get through this. Don't dwell on it. There is a kind of freedom and relief in letting go of their expectations of you.

It's time to create your own new traditions, and learn to revel in it. You can do it. Play some Christmas music. Give yourself a well deserved gift.

Merry Christmas!

In this world with the politics and monetary fuckness attitude, Christmas is an idiotic charade. Doesn't help if you have idiots for family. Already skipped birthdays but can't skip this. Will survive

Christmas is what YOU make it. I make stuff for people, listen to the music I enjoy, cook for others to share, love colors and lights, and it is a GREAT opportunity to tell all kinds of random people I love them without sounding weird. I have lost my entire family and others also, now facing my own death, but so many need a bit of cheer and Christmas is a terrific excuse to share that cheer and thus also relieve some of my own suffering. blessings.

I agree with this post. I had wonderful Christmases when my family was alive. That said, while I miss the family, I do not miss the stress of this holiday in particular. I will be alone (oh, boo-hoo me not) and will have a nice meal and watch a favorite Christmas movie and then the day will finally be over.
To the Australian Poster CP - I'm so sorry about all the fires you've had somewhere in your wonderful country and love the photos of fire fighters helping the poor Koalas get water and medical help.

everytime i hear some song like that i suddenly realize all those homeless people walking by are hearing that song too

i've had severe depression too, combined with 3 high testosterone , hyper aggressive older male schizophrenics in the family.

i would try to go to christmas with relatives but my butthead older brother would just try and ruin it for me, everytime I say something he'd be like 'nyahhhh, you're dumb', or something. then if he wanted to insult someone else, he'd come pretend to be my friend for a second, so he could gang up on the other relative he doesn't' like for some reason.

it's like the most vicious snobbery, it's like a game, he's like a ultra mean little girl only giant muscular guy.

im not gonna say 'oh its because he's got a fragile ego' no, that's bullshit, hes got a massive hyper inflated ego and is just evil.

i always craved companionship so much after being psychologically crushed by these older sadists, it's so truly sickening and i never realized the extent of it till later in life, just how bizarre and sick my life has been.

that was always their goal, to psychologically destroy you, i just never understood why they needed to do this. were they molested? both of them? i know the one was, that's why he was so cruel and weird but the other one must have been too but so the father was too? is everyone homosexually molested as a child, and becomes a psychological sadist?

then there's the possibility in my head that really all people are just like this. this is what human beings simply are. the sadistic cruel 'upper class' winners, and the depressed, destroyed 'losers'.

the good and the evil. only tehre's only the evvil and the depressed, the losers aren't really good, they just haven't found someone to abuse and henpeck to establish some position in the chimp social order spectrum of sadism, cruelty and dominance.

Isn't Christmas a pagan celebration anyway?

Nah, man. Everyone has a choice. Three options: 1) playing along 2) apathy 3) resentment

You can remain in blissful equilibrium regardless of who and what hypes when and where. So the miserable folk have a different task to complete, which is figuring out why they seem to keep making themselves miserable for no reason.

Alone this christmas..this^

wrong.

Christmas is either

for religious Christians

for families

not for those who are alone

i rarely saw any towns or cities organizing meals for those spending Christmas alone

neither any churches.

Christian families will not invite a stranger to their table for Christmas

la part du pauvre as we say in French

the extra seat for the unexpected guest.

They keep it to themselves and their next of kin.

Good thread, CP. You’re the best. :) Wishing you & everyone good things in the new year.

TY!.. and you and yours as well.... :)

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My sister is the loneliest soul out there. She calls everybody she knows everyday. The only time she can get some real attention is from the dr's. She goes to. She loves going to the dr.
She is always calling. I dont answer the phone most times bc I simply dont want to talk.
What can you do about somebody that fucking lonely?

imagine yourself in their shoes, and ask yourself what you would require from others... provide them with that answer...

loneliness is a sad dark echo chamber for many...

Thank you OP for this thread. For some this is the worst time of the year.

For me personally, I just lost my girlfriend and companion on Dec 2 and watched her die, so I'm not at all in the mood for any of this, especially since she enjoyed Christmas and decorated the house. This year I put up nothing.

Society won't allow people to grieve, especially my family. You'd think at a time like this people would want to reach out and provide comfort but it's really the opposite. Unless you're willing to partake in their fake happiness and attend their parties you're an outcast, which further isolates you.

I'm looking forward to Spring and new beginnings.

this thread is for you then.. i will talk to you anytime i'm awake...

It's ok man, I said my piece. It's off my chest. I'm sure somebody else feels like this. I think just knowing that someone notices and recognizes your pain and loneliness is enough in itself.

Just by creating a thread of compassion you have helped hundreds...maybe thousands...that's the chamber. These acts are what live on when this life is over..simple kindness and compassion....not some stupid Christmas party or religious service where people put on an act.

Think about this when you sleep...

i already do.. maybe why i don't sleep well...

truly, think of others over this silly season ('im sure you do)... there is always a lesser place to be in life...

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Just a thank you for thinking of so those of us struggling even more at this time of year.Easy to see this thread has helped so many all over the world.You've gone far beyond Citizen Perth...you really are Citizen Earth

Christmas is a time to celebrate rebirth and the miracle of life. It dosen't matter if it may be a fairytale like Santa Claus. Not a time to compare your station in life with others.

Well, since it is already late in Australia,
I would like to say MERRY CHRISTMAS to all the Citizens out there.


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