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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78224024 Canada 12/27/2019 08:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a crush on someone and that is all but there is a age gap. I have seen where 20 yrs difference people are happy as well as one or two decades above that 20 yr difference. No one here can make a personal decision regarding two people. Just asking if there are age gap relationships here and how is it working out? This is a serious question. Quoting: uhftx Right now this is all conjecture on my behalf. I'm wicked good friends with her entire family. Aunts, Grandparents, nieces and nephews so It is a whole new dynamic and one I would like to pursue. But I have not brought it up. I know when Mike dated a girl his daughters age and now live together and seem happy. There was controversy in the family. But two years later for most with the exception of his X all is good and everyone gets along now. But it took two years to get to this point. So what say you And your comments? No one here is bashful? Just a number |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78255970 United States 12/27/2019 08:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It really can work. I'm married to a woman 25 years older than me. She is really special though, I mean noone knows she is 25 years older than me. We dont tell anyone because of the judgement...yet she passes for being 25 years younger, my age. She wore sunscreen for most of her life every damn day and she is still smoking hot. Like I mean she can pass at a tier 1 Vegas night club still and not just pass but get promoted to VIP access just for being hot. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78283466 That’s pretty amazing. Yes wearing sunscreen makes a huge difference and it sounds like she has great genes. The age difference could work in the long term if the older person ages well and stays good looking . My daughters father is 20 years older than me. When we began dating he was in his early 50’s and looked youthful and fit. 15 years later, he looks every bit his age and we are strictly platonic friends now for the last 11 years and I would NEVER EVER be with him romantically or physically again for many reasons but I sometimes get repulsed at myself that I ever dated a man so much older in the first place. I wasn’t a Christian when I first met him, I am now so I pray for his soul to be Saved and treat him like a friend or close family member. If you don’t age well, you will repulse someone 20 years younger than you eventually. You will have to work out daily, use minoxidil to keep your hair, and get Botox and fillers and dress good all the days of your life if you want to keep her interest. But if the OP is a divorced older man, leave this girl alone. Let her find her own husband her own age. You will probably be abandoned by her eventually when she finds someone her own age. After I broke up with my daughters father I met a man my own age and married him. The marriage didn’t last but being with someone closer to their own age is what a woman wants deep down . There is no fool like an old fool. Op you sound like you are being an old fool. Typical 'Christian' Yep. No girl of any age is interested in sex with an older guy, so you have to offer some reason for her to get over her feelings of being grossed out! Offer money, gifts, or drugs, and younger girls will swallow their feelings and put out like they should. Guys like me worked our entire lives to be worthy of a hot girl and we deserve the opportunities we worked for. |
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User ID: 77742501 United States 12/27/2019 08:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It really can work. I'm married to a woman 25 years older than me. She is really special though, I mean noone knows she is 25 years older than me. We dont tell anyone because of the judgement...yet she passes for being 25 years younger, my age. She wore sunscreen for most of her life every damn day and she is still smoking hot. Like I mean she can pass at a tier 1 Vegas night club still and not just pass but get promoted to VIP access just for being hot. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78283466 That’s pretty amazing. Yes wearing sunscreen makes a huge difference and it sounds like she has great genes. The age difference could work in the long term if the older person ages well and stays good looking . My daughters father is 20 years older than me. When we began dating he was in his early 50’s and looked youthful and fit. 15 years later, he looks every bit his age and we are strictly platonic friends now for the last 11 years and I would NEVER EVER be with him romantically or physically again for many reasons but I sometimes get repulsed at myself that I ever dated a man so much older in the first place. I wasn’t a Christian when I first met him, I am now so I pray for his soul to be Saved and treat him like a friend or close family member. If you don’t age well, you will repulse someone 20 years younger than you eventually. You will have to work out daily, use minoxidil to keep your hair, and get Botox and fillers and dress good all the days of your life if you want to keep her interest. But if the OP is a divorced older man, leave this girl alone. Let her find her own husband her own age. You will probably be abandoned by her eventually when she finds someone her own age. After I broke up with my daughters father I met a man my own age and married him. The marriage didn’t last but being with someone closer to their own age is what a woman wants deep down . There is no fool like an old fool. Op you sound like you are being an old fool. Typical 'Christian' Yep. No girl of any age is interested in sex with an older guy, so you have to offer some reason for her to get over her feelings of being grossed out! Offer money, gifts, or drugs, and younger girls will swallow their feelings and put out like they should. Guys like me worked our entire lives to be worthy of a hot girl and we deserve the opportunities we worked for. You have a lot to learn, son...and I don't think it'll come easy for you. You're looking at it from the perspective of "what I deserve", which in the end means nothing. Look at it from the perspective of "What do I bring to the table (offer)?" and you'll have a much easier time trying to find a good woman. There's a reason it hasn't worked for you so far. The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it - Orwell If you’re backed by Hollywood, social media, the government, and practically the entire globalist system, you are not the resistance -- you're part of the problem |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77046724 United States 12/27/2019 09:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was 19, he was 42, both hard workers and we were just plain meant to be from the day we met. we became friends who always had something to talk about. I am 68, he is 90, both still working at what we love to do. Not for wages, but for staying busy and interested. we still have plenty to talk about. A day never came when either of us got bored or needed a change. We always have plans for our next project and keep on top of everything. we have been married 48 years. I have never met anyone as happy in life as I have been. It is just a fact. He needs care and patience now and it just comes naturally to me to take care and walk a little slower. we always worked, we were never rich, but our adventure has been shared and we always needed each other and cared for each other. Lots of folks thought it would not last, lots of bets on how long we would last. We just did not value any of their opinions. Most of them are just plain dead now. Others are alone, whining about everything, and waiting to die. Live your life on your own terms. If it works out, great! If you part ways, move on. I hope you can enjoy the ride as much as we did. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78255970 United States 12/27/2019 01:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Psalm119 That’s pretty amazing. Yes wearing sunscreen makes a huge difference and it sounds like she has great genes. The age difference could work in the long term if the older person ages well and stays good looking . My daughters father is 20 years older than me. When we began dating he was in his early 50’s and looked youthful and fit. 15 years later, he looks every bit his age and we are strictly platonic friends now for the last 11 years and I would NEVER EVER be with him romantically or physically again for many reasons but I sometimes get repulsed at myself that I ever dated a man so much older in the first place. I wasn’t a Christian when I first met him, I am now so I pray for his soul to be Saved and treat him like a friend or close family member. If you don’t age well, you will repulse someone 20 years younger than you eventually. You will have to work out daily, use minoxidil to keep your hair, and get Botox and fillers and dress good all the days of your life if you want to keep her interest. But if the OP is a divorced older man, leave this girl alone. Let her find her own husband her own age. You will probably be abandoned by her eventually when she finds someone her own age. After I broke up with my daughters father I met a man my own age and married him. The marriage didn’t last but being with someone closer to their own age is what a woman wants deep down . There is no fool like an old fool. Op you sound like you are being an old fool. Typical 'Christian' Yep. No girl of any age is interested in sex with an older guy, so you have to offer some reason for her to get over her feelings of being grossed out! Offer money, gifts, or drugs, and younger girls will swallow their feelings and put out like they should. Guys like me worked our entire lives to be worthy of a hot girl and we deserve the opportunities we worked for. You have a lot to learn, son...and I don't think it'll come easy for you. You're looking at it from the perspective of "what I deserve", which in the end means nothing. Look at it from the perspective of "What do I bring to the table (offer)?" and you'll have a much easier time trying to find a good woman. There's a reason it hasn't worked for you so far. Well over a million in liquid assets, various houses and other equipment. Good health, smart, educated, and willing to work. I look OK I suppose, but have no idea what women see in guys. WTF else does she want? |
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User ID: 46699650 United States 09/18/2020 08:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 46m / 22f lasted 9 months, she left for a guy her own age. It was fun when it was fun. We forget sometimes that there are saints living among us. When we meet them, we are reminded, not just of the presence of pure divinity right here on earth, but also of our own potential, and of the responsibility we have to try to live up to it ~ for our own sakes and for the very future of this planet. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77504359 United States 09/18/2020 08:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am a woman who always dated older men then married an older man. After divorce, suddenly much younger me wanted to date me, and the older men all seemed soooo old. I found my other half, though. We went to high school together :) Ther is something so comforting about the shared experience of being the same age (I'm sure being from the same place has some effect, too). For the first time there's no "language" barrier ... no need to explain cultural references, an deep understanding of the meaning of jokes and such. I'm now a fan of "same age" relationships. It all depends, though. Love is love. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77504359 United States 09/18/2020 08:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yep. No girl of any age is interested in sex with an older guy, so you have to offer some reason for her to get over her feelings of being grossed out! Offer money, gifts, or drugs, and younger girls will swallow their feelings and put out like they should. Guys like me worked our entire lives to be worthy of a hot girl and we deserve the opportunities we worked for. You have a lot to learn, son...and I don't think it'll come easy for you. You're looking at it from the perspective of "what I deserve", which in the end means nothing. Look at it from the perspective of "What do I bring to the table (offer)?" and you'll have a much easier time trying to find a good woman. There's a reason it hasn't worked for you so far. Well over a million in liquid assets, various houses and other equipment. Good health, smart, educated, and willing to work. I look OK I suppose, but have no idea what women see in guys. WTF else does she want? A big schlong, sweetheart. |
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User ID: 77491669 United States 09/18/2020 08:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My first husband was seven years older than me. My second was ten years younger, my third was 16 years younger, and I never felt any age difference with any of them. ( I do suck at relationships, so there's that) My last relationship was with a man 28 years younger than me. I don't look my age and I'm a professional musician. I was the one running the open mic in the bar he was hanging out in, and he's a musician. I never hit it off with anyone as well as I did with him because he's from a generation that does not treat women as though we are a different species. He chickened out because it was embarrassing to him to admit we were actually falling in love. He was also worried about watching me get old and die. He figured we'd have a good ten years and that's all, if we were lucky. We met in 2012, and we could have been spending this time together. He's still alone. His personality is much too grumpy for a woman his age...he's old and cynical like me. lol. He'll die alone and so will I because of his pride. Oh well. At least I was able to lead him to Jesus. The good thing about an older woman and a younger man is the conversations. I can't even imagine having to talk with a woman in her 20's. lol. He liked to be alone sometimes and so do I. Neither of us was clingy. When men get older, they get more emotional, so it makes sense that they like emotional younger women. Young men are mean, and so are older women. lol. |
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