COVID-19 And Funeral Etiquette...What Do We Do?

One of my very close friends passed away last Friday, under mysterious circumstances. He called his girlfriend complaining of sudden and severe breathing problems, she immediately called 911 and emergency responders arrived within 18 mins. Unfortunately he was DOA. They were able to resuscitate him, but unfortunately he was pronounced brain dead upon arrival at the ER. He remained on life support for two days, but the plug was pulled Sunday. The hospital did press this issue because they needed the ICU bed for other patients that could be saved.

The doctors stated that his lungs had suddenly filled with fluid and he had drowned, but so far have only ruled out heart attack, and the coroners autopsy report is not yet in. We have no idea as of yet why this happened.

He was a huge fan of a popular local band here, never missed a set, there was a large gathering held at a bar on Sunday by the band that the majority of his friends attended, at least 300 people. Due to virus mitigation reasons we chose not to attend. Now all those same friends, as well as his family are planning to be at his funeral on Thursday. The possibility that someone, or even many people at this funeral have been exposed to the virus is pretty high IMO, especially after the bar gathering.

WTF were they thinking?

I'm middle-aged and have underlying health issues that put me in the high risk category for COVID-19, my mother and fiance's father are in their mid 70's and also have high risk health issues, and we see them every weekend to help with needs. None of us can afford to be exposed if at all possible.

He was an important and dear friend and we feel absolutely terrible, but it's pretty obvious that we cannot attend his funeral. As well we are pretty certain after speaking with other friends whom ARE attending that many will be upset with us for not being there. This is not an easy issue, in fact we're really struggling with it.

Neither MSM, nor POTUS' Team have spoke to the issue of funerals, and what mitigation factors should be at this point.

Your thoughts?